Girls, Can you offer some advice for first-time anal sex?

[Laura519]

So my boyfriend and I have decided to have anal sex. I'm both excited and nervous. We did our homework and know to prep, go slow, and use lots of lube. But I'm still not sure what to expect. So here's some questions :

1. What position did you use and what do you suggest? It's our first time, so I'm thinking missionary.
2. Did you use a condom? If not, does the cum just stay in there or come out?
3. On a scale of 1-10, how painful was it for you at first?
4. Is the initial entry the worst part? Did it cause you to scream?
5. Again, not sure what to expect, but can we do this when someone else is home (parents or little sister)?
6. Did he go all over he way in the first time?
7. Will I be sore after and if so, for how long?
8. In general, what does it feel like? I've heard things like tight, painful, feeling really full, needing to poop, etc.
9. How long before I will totally get used to it and enjoy it?
10. How often do you have anal now?

Thanks for your help! Any additional advice would be welcome.

[oboeyoudidnt]

1. What position did you use and what do you suggest? It's our first time, so I'm thinking missionary
- Definitely do doggy. We tried missionary and it's not comfortable at all
2. Did you use a condom? If not, does the cum just stay in there or come out?
- Use a condom. Then his dick will slide in easier and he won't get any nasty infections from exposure to feces (sorry it's the truth.) Plus you could do regular sex after
3. On a scale of 1-10, how painful was it for you at first?
- Honestly 10. It hurt so bad and we did the same preparations as you
4. Is the initial entry the worst part? Did it cause you to scream?
- Yes and yes
5. Again, not sure what to expect, but can we do this when someone else is home (parents or little sister)?
- I definitely do not recommend it. Both of you are likely to be vocal

[oboeyoudidnt]

6. Did he go all over he way in the first time? - No. Second time he did 7. Will I be sore after and if so, for how long? - Definitely and for a few days 8. In general, what does it feel like? I've heard things like tight, painful, feeling really full, needing to poop, etc. - Painful, needing to poop 9. How long before I will totally get used to it and enjoy it? - I still haven't and I've done it 10 times 10. How often do you have anal now? - As a treat like once a month

[oboeyoudidnt]

I don't recommend letting him cum inside as it's like an enema and you likely will poop

[oboeyoudidnt]

Also make sure you're doing it for you and not just for him... you're less likely to like it. Plus I saw your age and it seems like something a teen boy would try to convince his girlfriend to do when she doesn't want to

[Laura519]

Thanks for the advice! We're both really interested in doing anal. I wouldn't get talked into anything I didn't want to do, but I appreciate your concern. Are you saying that missionary never works for anal, or just not the first time? We really like the idea of being face-to-face. Sorry it was so painful for you... that's a bit frightening even tho I am prepared for some pain from it. When you say you screamed at first, I'm assuming you mean one scream, right? Or were you screaming for awhile? Is that what you mean about me being vocal? And does it feel like you need to poop or you are actually doing it? You don't, tho, right? Yuk!

[oboeyoudidnt]

Honestly unless he's pretty big (like 6 inches+) missionary is going to be pretty hard to do just because it won't be long enough to reach. I was screaming for a while. Honestly, there is some pleasure for you in it but not much. It's mainly something you do for the guy. You're most likely going to be vocal from pain at first (unless he's tiny.) It feels like you need to poop and sometimes you actually do poop. I only have once out of the times but it happens frequently in general... you have to be prepared for the embarrassment :/

[oboeyoudidnt]

And I'm glad you're not talking into it <3 that's something I worry about for other girls. My friends and I have had exes who do that

[oboeyoudidnt]

*talked

[oboeyoudidnt]

Also another concern about anal in the missionary position is that it hits your anus in a different way which can make it more uncomfortable for you. The reason doggy is good is it stimulates your vagina so you get some pleasure

[Laura519]

So did you use missionary or doggy for your first time? Do you think a different position would have made it less painful? Also, when you were screaming, was it from the penetration or because he started moving... like thrusting? Would it help if my boyfriend stayed still for a bit? And how far should he push in at first? (He is not tiny by the way.) Privacy is always a challenge for us. So honestly (as you say!), do you think I'll need to scream at first too?

[oboeyoudidnt]

First time I used doggy! I don't think the position really matters because we've tried all different positions since then and it still hurts. Doggy is just easier because he can see the hole. It was from both. I wouldn't have him stay still and I doubt he'll be able to resist it without going soft. He should just push in slowly. I think you'll scream or at least moan. I wouldn't do this until you can be alone. You won't be relaxed if you think someone's listening in on you and relaxation is the important thing. You're not going to like hearing this but I would wait

[oboeyoudidnt]

Especially since he's not tiny

[Laura519]

I think I kinda equated moaning with screaming. Were you actually screaming? Like loud? For how long? Where did you have your first time? Did you have privacy? So should I tell him to keep slowly pushing in even if I'm screaming or moaning until he gets it all in?

[oboeyoudidnt]

I don't really know specfics. My first time was in his apartment and we had privacy that's why I say wait until you can have that. And if it hurts tell him to stop

[KelliCub]

It's not that easy tho. The first time you do it, those first few seconds (or even minutes) are likely to be painful for most of us even if you prep. So do you scream and sorta get through that part, or do you stop? I don't know... it's prolly dif for everyone. Imho, it was worth it tho.

[oboeyoudidnt]

I got through that part until he's finished. Like I've said previously, I've tried it 10 times and it still hurts

[Laura519]

by the way, I did decide to wait. At least for a little while.

[oboeyoudidnt]

Good on you! How'd your boyfriend take it?

[Laura519]

He was disappointed and a bit frustrated I think. But once I explained that I still wanted to try it with him, but not right now, he seemed okay with waiting. I consider that a good sign. I just need a little more time to feel comfortable with it, physically and emotionally.

[oboeyoudidnt]

Hmm. Did you explain its painful for most girls the first initial (and sometimes after that) times? Like, it's selfish of him to be mad about it

[Laura519]

He wasn't really mad, more like disappointed. He knows I still want to do it, I just want more time. And I totally get the frustration. When did you first try it?

[Anonymous]

I did i similar to how you're thinking, and we used a condom. But my friends have told me that in most instances, you'll feel the come slide out. I had him prep me by using his fingers (3 to be safe, I said no to four), so the pain at first was maybe a 5? I was really relaxed because we smoked a little pot to calm down. The entry was pretty intense, but after he started moving it was easier. We didn't do it with people around. I was sore for a day or two, popped some tylenol and tried not to run around. If he goes in all the way, it is a full and overwhelming feeling. If you're prepped right and are relaxed, it'll feel less painful. It took me and him a few minutes to get used to it, but it feels better when he moves. We don't do it often, but since that time we've done it maybe six other times?

[Opinion Owner]

I was lightly buzzed from the pot so I didn't scream we were talking through it, making sure it would be enjoyable.

[Laura519]

Glad to hear that missionary worked for you, and that you didn't scream, tho it sounds like the pot helped. How did you talk through the initial penetration?

[Laura519]

Have many of your friends tried it? I'm finding that more and more of mine have.

[Opinion Owner]

We basically asked each other how it felt and he would ask me about speed and stuff going in. I asked to start out slow and wait for my day because you have to get used to the feeling before he goes in. Only a handful of my friends have

[Laura519]

Does it hurt the most when he first goes in? Then, did you just tell him when you could take more? Did that hurt too? Did he eventually go all the way in? And did he go all the way in before he started to thrust at all? Were you eventually able to kiss while he was inside you? (That's kinda why I want to do it missionary.)

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, because even with prep it was still a lot. I told him to go in little by little and while it did hurt (more like a burning when you've been exercising lots). He did eventually go in all the way before almost completely the pulling out (that was extremely intense) and I told him it was a lot so he kept thrusts small and incrementally went in further and faster. We didn't try to kiss, so, I don't know the last part.

[Laura519]

I think it's very kewl that you communicated through the whole insertion! Sounds like the whole thing kinda hurt, but you just sorta gritted it out until he was all the way in? So what do you mean when you say it was intense when he almost pulled completely out? Is that painful? What did it feel like? Oh, and in missionary, did you hold your legs up or did he?

[Opinion Owner]

It's kind of like, you're mentally preparing for that feeling of being full and then it feels like your being pulled a little when he does. Not painful per se, but after that he warned me if he was going to do it. He held my legs but at some point I propped my legs on him... don't remember where but after that he wasn't holding em

[LaurenGrace]

do some self prep durung the week leadibg up to when you want to give up your ass.
lots of slow anal play to let you relax. some lube no too much though or you won't feel when it hurts soon enough..
go slowly .. work up from a finger to something about the same size as your guy.
i found doggy postion is good to start with but once he's in and you're relaxed either laying on your side or missionary legs spread are better.. make sure you communicate how fast and deep you need him to be.. make sure you're clean back there (toilet and wet wipe) using a condom can be uncomftable and dry you up faster than bareback

[sassygurl92]

Doggystyle spread your cheeks as much as possible and lots of lube on his penis and inside you. Have him use fingers first. The cum will come out. First time it was a 5. Initial entry is a little intense after that very pleasurable.