Thoughts on a 25+ year old virgin. Is this a turn off for guys? If I meet someone should I tell them I'm a virgin?

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I'm over the age of 25 and still a virgin. Not by choice. Sex just never happened for me. I spent many years working and putting myself through school so I haven't done regular things that people in their 20s do like go to clubs or parties. I have no guy friends or potential dudes lined up. The older I get the more anxiety I get about my lack of experience. I don't have any ideas about it being romantic but I at least want to know, maybe even be friends or working towards a relationship with the first person I sleep with. I guess the question I'm really trying to ask is, are there actually guys out there who would be with someone who was a virgin in their mid-late 20s? Or am I doomed to remain a virgin for life? If I do meet a guy, should I tell him I'm a virgin or just fake it til I make it? I have anxiety about being with someone because I don't want to waste a guys time because I'm not experienced and I need time.

Kitzou · Accepted Answer

girl u are an angel it is a turn on for many guys it just shows that u are a serious girl who think straight and responsible. u came all this way so keep paitent and find someone who would accept u the way u are and is willing to spend his life with you and dont rush ur self and give it to a guy who sees you as just a fantesie and a check in his list of acomplishment of having slept with a virgin. for me as a muslim im 24 im still virgin and im ok with it. i have talked with so many people that lost thier virginity just because of social pressure and they regret it they wished they have waited for the right partner. now im engaged to a virgin and our weeding is still next year. So for me i would tell again you will find people that want u and get turned on when they will know that u are still virgin.😚

Distant · Accepted Answer

Most guys will be neutral to it or view it as a positive that he's your first. There's nothing to be worried about. Sure, you're going to be nervous but that's honestly part of the fun about sex. The nervousness about seeing the other person naked for the first time is great. Most guys aren't going to think you're a social pariah or anything. You can tell them, if you want but, in my opinion, girls can't really be "bad" at sex. You can just lay there and take it and the guy will have a good time.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, you do need to tell him you're a virgin. Sexual intercourse for you will require some adjustment for awhile. But you only need to tell him when the two of you reach the stage where you're planning on having sexual intercourse, not before. And yes, it needs to be planned. Getting tested for STDs, getting onto birth control, purchasing condoms and plenty of lube, do lots of foreplay, etc.

raspberry0416 · Accepted Answer

Your biggest obstacle is finding a sexual experience that's acceptable for you. Because you are inexperienced, you are going to have to wade through a lot of crap before finding someone worthwhile. But there are men out there who are interested in serious relationships. You have to look for them.

Dim1213 · Answer

Join the club girl. Most of my female freinds did what you did and now are slowly starting to get into the dating pool. As for the virigninty it all depends on if you want to tell him but do tell him before you get close to doing the deed.

Honestly that is how some guys are but that was taking things to far and to fast. Find a guy that wants to go your pace and will wait for you to be ready. even if that is on your honeymoon.

JuicyBrain · Answer

I don't care whether you are a virgin or not. If I like you and I find you attractive, it's all that matters.

Flamewavez · Answer

Guys don't really care about that, as long as they get to have sex with you, it's good enough for them 👍

mattmanyah · Answer

there are girls that don't have sex till they're married the latest I've heard of was 42 ... I find girls that don't sleep around to be more attractive because I know that all physical action is backed up by a stronger emotional and spiritual bond... but I wouldn't worry about it if a guy finds you attractive he will want you (just don't fall for a creep that only wants your body) your smart you got this =)

SC4321 · Answer

Well I'm 5 years younger than you but if I were in your age range I wouldn't have a problem with you being a virgin. I would much prefer the girl I end up with to be a virgin or have very few past sexual partners, so you being a virgin would actually be bonus points in my book.

waywardson17 · Answer

So far you've spent your time getting an education and preparing for life. I don't think you should worry about telling anyone whether or not you are a virgin. If a person is really into you it won't matter.

CoolSky01 · Answer

virgin girls are wanted by all guys especially if they have the looks and other good qualities, virgin guys dont do so well with girls so you're good in fact you have the advantage over other girls.

AUTiger7222 · Answer

Virgins are a rare and treasured person.

YourLucifer · Answer

virgin chick hottest commodity there is nothing better than a clean unaware unexplored woman

Galvin · Answer

you're fine most guys will be okay with if they're seeking a serious relationship. guys who aren't wouldn't bother. Also 25 isn't that late, a good few people wait 20-28 still so no jeed for anxiety. yes tell the guy whom you are serious with, if not or if you just want sexual experience just tell em straightforward too , to see how they want to settle things

fueledbythc · Answer

Most guys these days are like that unfortunately. They quickly make it all about sex instead of getting to know the person. Since you're unexperienced, guys will try and take advantage of that. Best thing to do is try to be friends and make nothing sexual but guys will try their hardest to make it all about sex. I wouldn't mention being a virgin unless you are planning to have sex with that man. Good luck finding someone because its very hard these days to find someone who wants a serious relationship.

singlebee · Answer

Ummm first of your and me are so sameee cross I am just 24...

I am not worried about my lack of experience...
And more I don't find a virgin women in her mid 20s to be a turn off..

And yup that guy was a weirdo... He obviously doesn't know how to treat a women.. He tried to take your virginity by thinking your are naive because you are a virgin...

Just don't worry about it...

Adamnman · Answer

Nope. Most guys want virgins because they don't deserve them.

Tasos96 · Answer

I would want to be with a virgin, since I'm one myself ! You should know there are more virgin men. out there than women and the double standard as works against men's favor, so you'll be fine. Just don't go with some weirdo who just has the purpose of having sex with a virgin and won't care about you. Do it with a decent guy.