Do women really care about having "good sex"?

CasaNorba Guru

just asking this out of boredom as the "female sexuality" is something I lost interest a long time ago, but wouldn't mind learning something that can expose it and warn me about it in the future.

anyways if women really did enjoy sex as much as we men do then...

why exactly are they so selective when it comes to who they want to have sex with?

why do they claim they need an "emotional connection" in order to have sex?

why do you never hear them complain about never having an "orgasm"

why do they fake their orgasm over 75% of the time?

why do they always expect the guy they have sex with to give up something for collateral?

and I can keep on going. so as much as everybody here tries to convince me the opposite I will still continue to believe that all women have "gold digger" and "whores" encrypted in their genes. so far all the women who do enjoy sex as much as men do and actually admitted to me have been shown to be fucked in the head one way or another. so again for future/safety reasons wtf do women define as "good sex"?

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ashleyrene Xper 4
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I care about having good sex.

-Being selective could be for many reasons. I'm selective about appearance, I won't enjoy it if I'm not attracted to them. Plus, the more men you have sex with the more "tainted" you become to most. Most guys aren't interested in having sex with a girl who has had sex with a lot of guys. Gotta make every bang worth the stigma?

-Emotional connection escalates the pleasure of sex. I've had one night stands and I've had sex when I've been in love. The one night guy could be drop dead gorgeous and good in bed, but it'll never compare to sex with emotion.

-We don't expect orgasms. It rarely happens. We fake it because we want the sex to end or because we don't want to hurt feelings.

-I, personally, don't expect collateral from a random hook up. I suppose there is this notion of doing the man a favor by offering them sex with us. Perhaps because they know an orgasm is unlikely they want to get something more out of the deal than a 3 minute sub-par bang?

Good sex is when a guy knows what he's doing. Isn't just doing it to get himself off and is interested in giving pleasure as much as he is receiving. Even if I don't get off, at least I know he tried and wanted to achieve it. Chemistry, passion.
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- CasaNorba
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  "Chemistry, passion." something that leads to attachments
- ashleyrene
  +1 y
  Sometimes, sure. However, there are a lot of cases where two people only have chemistry and are incompatible in every other way. If you're looking for no strings attached, fantastic sex... that's the gold mine.
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  I don't know about that but I do know that not everything that glitters is gold
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- amphet11
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  "Most guys aren't interested in having sex with a girl who has had sex with a lot of guys. " they are , they just aren't interested in dating her.
- ashleyrene
  +1 y
  @amphet11 Ah, yeah. That's how I should have phrased it. Good looks.
flypaper Yoda
+1 y
For me mind blowing sex is having chemistry and feeling emotionally connectioned, usually emotionally raw & getting a few O's :D

Sex for sex's sake (just putting the P in the V without that pull and chemistry and desire is pointless and doesn't do anything for me. I don't desire sex even until the chemistry and kind of invisible pull is there (if you know what I mean) when you just can't keep your hands off of eachother ( it's like a gravitational connection). If I need is a release I can do that myself and it's quicker and straight to the point. Also sex generally helps a men's self esteem but will hurt a women's so that's the difference when it comes to choosing partners, the connection is what feeds into a women's self esteem so that is what they are drawn to as far as sex goes. Men and women are just different.

There is nothing wrong with not being interested in women, to each their own dude... all you can do is do you!
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- CasaNorba
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  it doesn't do anything for you because you obviously want some other type of benefits other than the sex itself. and no I'm not gay if that's what your trying to get at
- flypaper
  +1 y
  Yes you are correct I don't just want the release of sex... that is what masturbation is for. When I want the company of a partner it's because I want their company and to want their company I have to feel connected. And no I wasn't trying to call you gay by any means, you said you lost interest long ago that is why I said I think it's fine to not be interested. I was just going off of what you said and not trying to imply anything.
- flypaper
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  Your right I don't want sex to just have sex. I love sex but I can't enjoy it or the accompanying actions if i don't have strong feelings for the person on the other side.
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- CasaNorba
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  yea because you want more than just sex. you want the fool you had sex with to provide for you in the long run in anyway, shape or form... no different than all the others broads who've already answered this
- flypaper
  +1 y
  So wait the guy can do what he neess to cum but I can't so yeah then I need something. I need meotional fulfilment so I can get there... call me whatever you want it's no different then what a guy needs from sex I just have a differient ave to get there.
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  yea just because you can't orgasm from sex alone doesn't mean the loser you have sex with owes you more than just sex. if this is your mindset than I guess you are worst than a prostitute. and yea you need emotional fulfillment because you know this is the thing that leads to attachment eventually
- flypaper
  +1 y
  Um okay... so since sex isn't just for him I'm a prostitute? Well then that works for me... I'm cool with it you can call me whatever makes you feel better-lol. I have nothing against prostitutes and could be called worse... I could be a John-lol.
- flypaper
  +1 y
  If he just needs to unload his load he can use his hand.. I hear that does the job just fine. I don't need to be used for sex-lol.
- CasaNorba
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  no you are WORST THAN A PROSTITUTE because you are exchanging your vagina for his commitment to you later. " I don't need to be used for sex-lol." and I don't need to be used for my wallet, time and commitments so i think a rather stick to real prostitutes from here on now just so i won't have to end up with a death trap hoochie like you
- flypaper
  +1 y
  And that's fine... to each their own. She could probably used the money for therapy... you know to be able to bare being touched by the untouchables.
- flypaper
  +1 y
  You find what works for you.. you just want to use someone for their body and rather pay them then treat them for their time. Your a John... the only reasons prostitutes have a job so you should be thankful and not hating Dude-lol.
- CasaNorba
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  "the only reasons prostitutes have a job so you should be thankful and not hating Dude-lol. " actually I never treat them like shit. on the contrary I appreciate their time, business and most of all their honesty. " you just want to use someone for their body and rather pay them then treat them for their time." how am I using them? we both came to an agreement, no different than the loser who spends and waste his time on you hoping that he will get in your pants later on. on the contrary I am treating them for their time and they are treating me with my own freedom.
- CasaNorba
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  again at least prostitutes are honest and straight forward. they aren't hypocrites like you who claim they want an "emotional connection" when in reality all you want is to be put on a pedestal one way or another.
- flypaper
  +1 y
  and all you want is your happy ending which is probably not getting your first time together (and not at all if she's a prostitute). But to each their own dude. Do you or pay someone to as the case may be. Obviously your cool with being a John and I'm cool with being your def. of "worst then of a prostitute" which once again shows how little you respect them as people since your throwing it around in an attempt to be little other people.
- flypaper
  +1 y
  Also if he was just hoping to get in my pants the hope is by wanting more, he'll move along & clear the way for someone who isn't just trying to use me for sex but actually wants my company. Which worked for me... I lost it to my now husband who made me wait for our first kiss even-lol. Now I am a happy Dental Hygienist (and apparently prostitute) and my husband is a SAHD who occasionally does side work as a computer programmer. So not only am I a prostitute but I pay his bill for my own sex, I'll let him know he has it made -lol.
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  oh I wish the two of you luck! Marriage= Insanity (and no I'm not talking about Shaun T's workout either)
- flypaper
  +1 y
  Lol, yeah it's not for everyone. But it is for us. He is the walking embodiment of persfection I am very lucky.
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  " walking embodiment of perfection I am very lucky." yea that's what all the couples who constantly fight each other daily and condone a toxic relationship always say
- flypaper
  +1 y
  Oh really? He's my best friend & my soulmate but I am taking from the stuff your saying is that you aren't going to believe anything I say -lol. Have a good one!
Blonde401 Guru
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Yes. I'm a very sexual person and if I end up dating someone I want to know that we're going to have good sex. Sex is healthy and important.

I'm selective because I don't get off on just having sex with another person. I want chemistry and sparks, that makes sex better.

I don't have issues with having orgasms so I can't say but I guess it's an embarrassment thing and also to not hurt the guys feelings.

I've never faked and orgasm but I know what I like and how to get there quickly so I don't know.

I don't?

Why you so bitter about women? We're not all gold diggers or whores. And why isn't a man a whore if men like sex more than us? Logic makes no sense.
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- amphet11
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  That would make him a slut, whores have sex for something in return which women normally do, sluts have sex because they like it.
- Blonde401
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  @amphet11 plenty of women have sex for nothing in return.
- CasaNorba
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  " I want to know that we're going to have good sex. Sex is healthy and important." there is no way you can tell if the sex is gonna be good before actually having it unless you are psychic "I want chemistry and sparks, that makes sex better." makes it better my ass! sounds like you want something more than that "it's an embarrassment thing and also to not hurt the guys feelings." I really doubt any guy would care if you have one or not just as long as he has his penis in you. "I've never faked and orgasm but I know what I like and how to get there quickly so I don't know." whatever "I don't?" again whatever "Why you so bitter about women? We're not all gold diggers or whores. And why isn't a man a whore if men like sex more than us? Logic makes no sense." yea my ass not all of you are. and you bet your ass it didn't make any sense because it sounds like you are twisting things. I you must have your own definition of a "whore"
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- Blonde401
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  Point one: No shit Sherlock... Point two: what more do you think I want? The difference between men and women: men will fuck anyone or anything when it suits them, any hole is a goal, I actually want someone I have chemistry with. Point three: like I said, I don't know because I don't do that... Point four: wow you're a tetchy little boy aren't you? What's your issue? Point five: you asked these questions and I answered. Clearly you're a misogynistic asshole who can't find a woman.
- CasaNorba
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  "Point one: No shit Sherlock..." oh so you're actually agreeing with me? "I actually want someone I have chemistry with." yea go figure, you just proof my point once again at the fact you are looking for more than just sex. "What's your issue?" my issue is that I hate hypocrites "you asked these questions and I answered. Clearly you're a misogynistic asshole who can't find a woman." I didn't just asked a question I also made assumptions within this question and you just confirmed them all. and no finding a woman is not an issue, but finding one who isn't full of shit is a MAJOR problem.
- Blonde401
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  Duh. I have sex with them to decide if they're good in bed. Where did I say anything to the contrary? And yes I am... obviously. Like I said, I'm not into every hole is a goal kinda sex. How am I a hypocrite? Do you even know the meaning of the word? Nah you're a misogynistic asshole. Simple. You assume all women want money and big dick huh? Yeah some do. Not all of us. You're bitter, end of story. Clearly you don't have anything to offer a woman anyway, you've got a shitty attitude for starters.
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  "Where did I say anything to the contrary?"
  
  you have sex to decide if there good or not but yet you admit that you put "chemistry and sparks" in your list of priority. now isn't this beyond the contrary
  
  " Like I said, I'm not into every hole is a goal kinda sex."
  
  yea just like most women out there you only have sex with folks you know you're gonna get more than just sex out of.
  
  as for
  
  "Clearly you don't have anything to offer a woman anyway, you've got a shitty attitude for starters. "
  
  all I have to say is this
  
  https://i.imgur.com/g87OOhK.jpg
  
  of course you can substitute porn with escorts and strippers every now and then. and thank you for once again proving my point with the "you don't have anything to offer a woman anyway." this pretty much confirms that all women only have sex with men who have something to offer them
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  Chemistry can come before sex. And you have nothing to offer because you have an awful awful attitude. I didn't refer to a single damn thing else. And I'm happy wasting my life with video games and porn and my friends 😂 So I wouldn't ever judge a guy for liking those things. But clearly a woman's opinion does matter or you wouldn't seek out arguments like this on gag because clearly this is the only place you'll get female attention, even if it's negative you clearly crave it.
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  "Chemistry can come before sex." no shit Sherlock! (like you said earlier). you obviously put it in your list of requirement for a reason. and no I ask this question for future warning references since most women nowadays use sex as collateral to achieve any of their own selfish ends and you pretty much confirmed all of this. OTFRL you'll be surprised how many losers have a worst attitude than mines and still get pussy from left to right and I wonder why? oh I know why, because they have other things to offer like money and status! woo hoo!
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  No they just don't go on and on about how awful women are. Pretty simple really. And you're clearly desperate for female attention, thus this question.
- CasaNorba
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  "No they just don't go on and on about how awful women are." might explain why so many women are repulsed by white knights who do nothing but put them on pedestals
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  Both are repulsive. Don't make hate or trying to get laid your entire vision. Just chill the fuck out.
- CasaNorba
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  I already told you a dozen times that getting laid is not my priority. I ask this question for future reference since all my life I been surrounded by crazy bitches who use their vaginas in exchange to put up with their bullshit
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  Nah getting attention is because your life is so mediocre.
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  yea very mediocre! judging by the way you talk I get the feeling that you are no different than this chick who made this post right here...
  
  https://i.imgur.com/2aJwiPu.jpg
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  I don't cheat so nah, that's nothing like me.
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  oh sure you don't or have not, I'm pretty sure the events that you testified about in this recent post of mines went your way for a reason.
  
  www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2273071-why-does-sex-gotta-be-so-damn-tempting-deadly
  
  you know there is a saying that goes "when you knock on the devil's door sooner or later someone is gonna answer you." and judging by the way you talk and express yourself you sound like you enjoy playing ding dong ditch on the devil's door whenever you get a chance. so with all that said you once again proof my point, that women are only very sexual people when they know that sex is gonna get them something that they can benefit off of in the long run such as money, favors and social status.
  
  so no thank you, that's why I stay MGTOW for life!
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  Where did I say I cheat? Oh because I'm having way more sex than you that means I'm a cheater? Where's your logic? You stay MGTOW and have a miserable boring life with absolutely no friends or fun because who the hell would want to be friends with you? And clearly you want sex because you use escorts and crave women's attention. Pathetic.
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  no I never said that smarty pants, not like I care. my logic was that people that kill and rape don't just hand pick their victims for the hell of it. you obviously did something to provoke those psychos. I mean I can understand if it only happened ones but when its multiple times than you are obviously a suspect as well. and believe me when i tell you that having friends and a social life is the last thing I give a fuck about in this world. I rather be alone and at peace over trying to be a hypocrite who hop on everyone's wagons hoping that i'm gonna look "cool" to everybody else. and I also rather be alone just so I won't risk running into walking time bombs like you. and yea I do want sex, did I ever say I was asexual? (though sometimes I wish I was!) I do want it but not with insecure, raging drama queens like you. because only women who are fucked in the head fuck for free, the others want to be put on a pedestal one way or another.
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  You stalking all my comments now just to get ammunition? And clearly that logic works both ways. You must have picked some shitty women. So you can't use that argument on myself and not you. And you're such a misoginist it's painful. So we're either crazy or we're gold diggers huh? Loser logic right there. You're so bitter and narrow minded you're alone and then you're trying to justify it. That's a crazy person.
- CasaNorba
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  dude I only when back to one of your comments that you made less than a month or two ago so nobody is stalking anybody here. and no I never picked any shitty women, who the hell would be stupid enough to pick shitty women as their s/o? but yea I was actually fortunate enough to be birth by one and I have brothers who did picked shitty women who put the our whole family to hell after doing so, so with that said I'm not making any of their mistakes. "So we're either crazy or we're gold diggers huh?" well yea it seems like almost all of you operate this way. and yea operating under this "loser" logic has help me out a lot. thanks to this logic today I - don't pay child support - never been a victim of divorce - not raising any problem children and the list goes on, unlike the REAL losers who are going through this and a lot more thanks to them being stupid enough to put pussy on pedestals. oh and did you almost all the smart men in history that made the world what it is today were..
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  also loners such as Nikola Tesla Thomas Edison Isaac Newton Albert Einstein William Shakespeare Beethoven Leonardo Da Vinci and the list goes on! so would you say all of them are losers?
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  Funny how I don't want children myself, so not all women want a guy to pay them child support or have kids or even marry. Tell me again of your own achievements? How are you even anything like those men? Don't compare yourself to people who actually did something in life if you yourself are not even at their level. Comparing yourself to Da Vinci though 😂😂😂
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  Oh you'll be surprised how many women don't want children but still have them just to use them for child support, and use them as a tool to squeeze anything out of life for the free and easy way. for a starter I'm currently writing two of my own novels right now and I design shirts every now and then but I wasn't comparing myself to those guys, I was just proving to you that loners are not losers; like society wants you and everybody else to believe.
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  My dog. You're like a dog with a bitter bone. Get a grip. Men are more likely to be rapists and serial killers but do you hear me condemning your gender? They're completely different from you. Those men weren't MGTOW, they didn't sit on gag bitchin that they didn't have sex recently.
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  *my god.
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  dude your blowing things out of proportion as the internet wasn't around during their days or are you that slow to actually realize this? OTFRL! and for the million and kazillion time I'm not ranting about women not having sex with me. I just had the assumption that all women fuck for status and money and you pretty much confirmed this all with your ignorance and trying to cover up the sun with your puny index finger. and nikola was practically a mgtow as he did chose to die a virgin because he did not trust women. he knew what women were capable of. in fact he even predicted feminism almost a century before it existed
- CasaNorba
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  "Men are more likely to be rapists and serial killers " yea that is one great generalization you made there, like you women are any better.
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  My point is you generalise. It's easy to generalise but it's bullshit at the end of the day isn't it. So go die a virgin, idgaf.
- CasaNorba
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  I lost my virginity a long time ago after believing all the bullshit that everybody told me growing up. that life was all about "getting laid" that "cool people" get laid all the time and that all women are little "angels" that aren't capable of harming you in any way. can't believe how lost and stupid I was for believing all hypocrites who now that I look back they all sounded just like you
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  Just like me, who's enjoying her life and having a blast ;) and you're still complaining
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  well good for you. and again I was not complaining I was just looking for a way to proof a point I had all along and you and everybody else who answered just proof me right, so now that my point was proven I can officially enjoy life as well
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  while staying safe and sound and not fall into any bullshit temptation that women nowadays have to offer because after all I live by this quote for a reason.
  
  https://i.imgur.com/jJdMA25.png
- Love_Is_Eternal
  +1 y
  You're another crazy feminist. British women are the worst women on the planet. Most of them are sluts and greedy snakes.
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  @Love_Is_Eternal you're not the first one to tell me this. but talk about feminists I really thought that American women were the worst women on the planet. but jikes if British women are worst in these types of things than they must be walking antichrists. I really feel sorrow for all the British men!
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  You haven't proved shit.
- Blonde401
  +1 y
  @Love_Is_Eternal did I ask your opinion? No? Then keep walking.
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  I haven't but you sure did @Blonde401

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spnsfi Yoda
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I think the biggest factor for all of these is the consequences of possibly getting pregnant.
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- CasaNorba
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  I think that's the last thing they give a fuck about.
- flypaper
  +1 y
  god answer. When a guy even liked me the first question I asked was what they would do if there was a whoops. Cause it happens... most babies aren't planned. I've only slept with 1 guy but I asked my Ex (before we got back togetrher) just in case something ever did happen (we were 14-15 and nothing did) but it's a convo to have if you think it could. The goal is rarely to be a single parent. Accidents happen and it's helpful to know how they'd take ti and handle it esp. if they don't think it's even an option with you.
- spnsfi
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  @flypaper And even if the guy stays around you wanna make sure he's not a bum or a jerk, at least that's how I see it
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- CasaNorba
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  @spnsfi "you wanna make sure he's not a bum or a jerk, at least that's how I see it" I gotta say you are one blind little mouse. don't be surprised when you accidently get your nose stuck in the death sentencing mouse trap in the future
- spnsfi
  +1 y
  okay
- flypaper
  +1 y
  @spnsfi Very true.
- CasaNorba
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  @spnsfi just in case I wasn't trying to be offensive. I was just warning you because a lot of gold diggers love men with your attitude. they always think they can use your sense of responsibility as something they can take advantage of
- spnsfi
  +1 y
  Haha I just tried to answer your question the best i could, I have no intention of kids or not being single and giving up everything just to get laid

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Carley99 Yoda
+1 y
As long as I have lust I don't need anything else and some women are technically gold diggers because the guy has to give them money or take them shopping in order to have sex with him also men have huge ego that's why we don't like to complain about not getting an orgasm and faking it.
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- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  funny, a 17 year old is actually making more sense than all the other females that have answered this as of now
- Carley99
  +1 y
  Thanks 😃
Pomegranate139 Yoda
+1 y
Women define good sex as banging a muscular alpha male with a 8 inch dong in his penthouse apartment on his mattress made of money. Only then can it be considered good sex.

Are you happy? Is that what you want to hear?
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- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  I think I would of believed more is you used more logic and didn't sound so condescending
- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  believed you more if you used*
- Pomegranate139
  +1 y
  More logic? Like if he owns a bear skin he hunted himself? And sorry about sounding condescending. I didn't mean that. It's why I use a lot of emojis cause I sound mean when I text 😀😔
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- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  was that supposed to be funny or offensive? anyways feel free not to answer cause this is a total waste of time
- Pomegranate139
  +1 y
  Yeah second time I was being an asshole
KatherineJ Editor
+1 y
Well yeah!
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- CasaNorba
  +1 y
  can you please elaborate cause so far I am not impressed by any of the answers I gotten from these females.
Blitzkrieger Guru
+1 y
I need an emotional connection to have good sex too, otherwise it just feels like im masturbating myself with her body.
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dddjolee Xper 4
+1 y
Yes.
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