Why Do Guys Want To Sleep With Me NOW?

[seryleme]

So just to clarify I'm in school and I have a reputation for being a "Aphrodite beauty" (not my words lmao) and the majority of the guys I've met and befriended I've noticed became infatuated with me, but I never got asked to dances or had a boyfriend. I was so angry with this for a whole year surrounded by the most lackluster, rude girls and guys getting into relationships while I was never even approached. I thought wtf is wrong with me? Am I hideous? Bad personality? I was so desperate for anyone that I accepted the first guy who showed interest in me after nearly two years of going about like this alone. Eventually I did something sexual with him (didn't have actual sex though, I'm still a virgin), and he ended up being a liar and manipulator and all that, so my whole grade and school found out. I felt like the scarlet fucking letter and yet I've never had sex!

However, past all that I noticed guys started treating me differently. They'd be more direct, sleezy, they'd call me hot and sexy nearly to my face and would boast about how they want to have sex with me. Everyone knew I was a virgin before this, so what gives? Why is it now they want to sleep with me and are so direct about it? I find it so unappealing... it's like going for someone's leftovers, second-hand even. I don't know I felt dirty and used so I don't understand the logic. Please explain this situation.

[unethical]

He's probably a devious douche that decided to gossip, so guys may now think of you as "easy." I think you just need to avoid the sleazy ones, and be bold about what you think. Make it clear that you're not up for this stuff, and they shouldn't be practically harassing you any longer. I'm sure you're beautiful, and an amazing guy will come around eventually, but not one that labels you as a prize to get into bed.

[seryleme]

Thank you :) I really don't get it though. I didn't sleep with him. So even then I don't get how I can be easy. Yes he was a devious douche who told everyone.

[unethical]

She could have made up rumors.

[seryleme]

Rumors that he slept with me? Maybe...

[unethical]

Sorry, *He

[Analinda1999]

i now its not your question but, why not just ask guys you like out, instead of going with guys you do not like?

he probably gossiped and now they think you will sleep with them.

[seryleme]

Like I said, no one had approached me like that for two years. He was the first person. My first relationship. He was handsome and charming. It isn't like I didn't want to be with him. It was a mistake because he was the first person so the first person I did anything sexual with and so quickly. I liked him. I adored him. Otherwise, I wouldn't have touched him. Yes, I know he talked. But you did not answer my question...

[Analinda1999]

hmm, idid not have the impression you liked him. still, why wait for two years instead of just asking a guy out? i thought your question was why are guys anting to have sex with you now? my answer was, because if he made things up or told what happened and gave then the impression they can have you too, they want on. im not saying you shouldn't have done anything. thats not even on my answer. there's nothing wrong with doing whatever you ant when you ant as long as you ant to and so does the other person. i was answering based on the impression he is a jerk and other guys are jerks. they could make stuff up.

[kerthle]

I guess you're out of so many guys leagues that they either just see you as a challenge to conquer or too inferior

[seryleme]

I don't think I'm inferior. For two years I was single then this handsome guy got something from me and then bam now everyone wants more? I don't think so. Whatever is the case about the league thing I still don't get why they jumped as soon as that happened?

[kerthle]

Whoa, I never said or implied inferior (or superior). I don't think it's with you being single or giving anything. But attractive women are... intimidating