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Why do so many women have rape fantasies?

A recent analysis of 20 studies indicates that between 31% and 57% of women have rape fantasies.
Rape was ranked as third most popular fantasy for women.
Why do so many women have rape fantasies?



Do women actually want to be raped as long as it's by a hot guy with a big penis?
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  • Rape fantasy and actual rape are two completely, totally different things. I think rape fantasies are more about being submissive, while being 'forced to do dirty things' allows the woman to relieve herself of any responsibility for those things that happen.

    Maybe she wants to be 'forced' to have kinky sex. Or 'forced' to take a mans cum on her face. Things she might not do of her own free will, because it goes against her morals. Being 'forced' allows her to say "well, I didn't WANT to do that! He made me!"

    In the end, if this is what the two of you want to do, make sure you both know the boundaries and most importantly, give her a 'Safe Word'. This is a word she can say in the middle of the whole thing that means STOP RIGHT NOW!

    This allows her to fulfull her fantasy, to struggle with you (if thats what she wants), to say "no" over and over and have you ignore it (if that's what she wants) to allow you to do thing she has never done before and resist you (if thats what she wants).

    But if she says the SAFE WORD then you have to stop IMMEDIATELY. It means it has stopped being a fantasy, it has stopped being enjoyable.

    As always, talk face to face about it. Set boundaries and what is expected from each of you.

    Good Luck!

  • i think people have different definitions of what a rape fantasy is. i think -most- people who say they like rape fantasy are people who just want... rough, passionate sex in which it kind of starts non-consensual but somehow ends up consensual. i think very few people, though i am sure there are SOME, actually like a more violent type of fantasy. but again, this is just a fantasy. that doesn't mean people are wanting to get raped in real life. i think there are also guys out there who like the idea of totally dominating a woman, but i don't think that means they're going to be a rapist in real life.

    • Blame 50 Shades of Grey

    • @Straightedge_Atheist this existed WAY before then. people are just speaking more openly about it these days. and i'm not too familiar with the series, but i thought it was more BDSM and less rape fantasy.

  • Really? Hm.. never knew it was a kink held by 'so many' women.
    Could you please post a link to this recent analysis of 20 studies?

    • www.psychologytoday.com/.../why-do-women-have-erotic-rape-fantasies

    • interesting. Good thing that the same article also reiterates the fact that, at the same time, 'the great majority of women with rape fantasies do not want real rape' and then explains what a rape fantasy actually is for those who would otherwise automatically assume that this must mean that women actually want to have dicks forced upon them around the clock. 🤦

    • +kaylaS91 Then why do you women obsess over 50 Shades of Grey.

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    • Ha thanks! :)

Most Helpful Guys

  • No.

    I might daydream that owning a puppy would be nice. That doesn't mean I necessarily want one, and it sure as fuck doesn't mean you can just break into my house and leave a puppy there for me to own, even if it's a cute one.

    • You can, however, break into my house and leave puppies whenever.

    • @Laura_Marx slut.

    • LMAO

  • yeah thank God you know it now.

    • thanks for the MHO bro.

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  • I think it goes back to basic instincts. We want a man who is strong enough to fight off other men in the tribe to mate with us and we want that man to feel the NEED to mate with us.

    Obviously humans are a lot more complex than this. But I think deep in our brains there are some left over basic instincts.

  • I wouldn't say women like to fantasise about being raped. Some probably like being dominated in the bedroom, which is a similar role to where, they like a man to take control, but not to the extent, where they like to be like a blow up doll.

    • Really? just cause women like some stupid movie which is not reality, that means women really want that in the real world. Please don't confuse yourself with fiction verses reality. what women want in reality, is different from fiction movies, or bullshit articles. I am beginning to think, thank god , I wasn't born in your generation, some of the crap you younger people believe. Makes me wonder, why relationships nowadays, with young are so screwed up.

  • trauma

    You're just being provocative, I'm sure, but of course women with rape fantasies don't actually want to be raped irl.

  • I see problems here that could easily lead to a wrong conclusion.

    People doing these studies asking for "rape fantasy" without defining it therefor women who answer it defining it as not actual being raped, but roleplaying as if. Also Women interpreting it as purely not having Control during sex with someone they trust. I mean I quite often here from guys that they find it nearly digusting what porn they watched after they came. I can imagine it is similar with women in this case too.

    There is a massive difference between actually wanting to get raped and having a rape fantasy.

    All of that being said: These are purely theories and I dont undertand rape fantasies either with the only exception if it would be defined as "not having controle during sex with someone I trust", but I wouldn't define it myself like that.

  • i dont have one... but from the women i have talked to about it, it's more the idea of rough, violent sex. not all thr mental trauma that comes with it... just the sex part... it makes them feel powerless and vulnerable...

  • I don't have that fantasy lol. Doesn't seem like rape to me either if the girl wants the guy to have sex with her.

  • nope not at all

  • Because the passion he has means he thinks you;re so sexy, that he just needs to fuck you now and hard.

    • So it's an ego thing?

    • @Nightinggale I guess.

    • Interesting... Thanks for the reply.

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  • I don't have a rape fantasy in idea that, I'm walking down an alley and I get jumped and done in the ass, I do however get off to the idea that I toy with a guy, then think better of it , but he's like nah bitch you asked for this now your gonna get it.

  • basically, a girl wanting to be fucked uncontrollably, dominated through rough sex. all about the man having his way with her where she has no say. Using her as he will but deep down she fucking loves it and doesn't want him to stop.

    yep.

  • Here's mine want to get raped! Mmmm, rape play take me down by the hair pin me tire me out til I can't fight anymore pull my jeans halfway down pin me to the dirty floor and rape me. While he pounding me on the floor hard I go limp and fantasize about get pulled into a truckers cab or bathroom just fcking pinning down all his weight on me and pounding me face down over and waits some and get back on me and keeps raping me or i'm stopping side by the highway to pee and someone trucker stops pushes me to the ground or back in my car and pulls pulls my jeans to my ankles spread my legs and make me watch him keep going in and out of me and again after that pounds an fcks me again and agin and leaves never gets caught.

  • I hate rape and I never thought such fetish/kink exsisted

  • More of a domination thing.
    No woman actually wants to be raped.
    But many women enjoy having a man (consensually) dominate her and "do whatever he wants"

  • Hell no

  • they have a being taken fantasy by a guy they're attracted to, not a being taken against their will fantasy

  • Because it's hot sometimes

  • Can you give us a link to these study's your talking about?

  • I have no clue

  • CT, isn't it obvious? Its like I've been saying. Women are literally inssne

    • insane*

  • It does confuse me.

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