My girlfriend had a baby, she doesn't feel tight anymore? Tips?

[Anonymous]

We just had a baby and she doesn't feel tight anymore. She's just loose. I'm 7 inches long and about 4 thick so feeling something shouldn't be a problem. At least I think. Its not like I can't feel anything, its just that it isn't as intense as it was before. Its actually been about 8 months. And the doctor said she'd be stretching back in no time, but nothing. Don't say to leave her, since that's not an option. I'm just asking for tips on how to make sex enjoyable again.

[Deth2AllButMetal]

Could it be that she is still exclusively breastfeeding and you are using this fact a form of birth control? There are still a lot of hormones swirling around. Perhaps once she stops breastfeeding her muscle tone will draw back up to tighten everything. Pelvic floor exercises good for everyone especially after having a 7+ pound baby sitting in the vaginal birth canal for hours on end. Maybe trying different positions would help. Some positions actually shorten the vagina barrel.

[mjz00]

hi, immediate feelings were energy, connection between the two of you. you mention intense so maybe in your own way you may get what i mean. have you talked to her about the lack of connection you are feeling? i sure hope you haven't mentioned tightness...8 months isn't long for the record, i assume she vaginal delivery? natural assisted, stitches etc? did she breast feed or still is?

[Asker]

Natural birth and yeah, she's still breast feeding

[mjz00]

i hope you are as compassionate as i think you are, this lady has gone from a sexual being to a maternal being, her body has been through changes and is still effected by hormones, this has been going on almost a year and a half. she also has to deal with this and be your partner, every one is different but in general from personal experience and stories, its a huge shift and weird. a common one is feeling like you dont have any time for your man because your so taken with the baby and tired etc etc, physically it feels different down there for her too! yes there are the pelvic floor exercises one can do but tread with caution here young man, how are the two of you getting on? do you get any time together alone? been out on a date?

[Asker]

Yeah, we go on dates. Usually every two weeks when our parents can watch the baby. And I mean she hasn't been wanting sex most of the time. She says she's not feeling it.

[mjz00]

which is why you are not feeling it, i dont have a magic answer for you, its a tricky time, keep communication open, intimacy without having to go on to full penetrative sex could help and take off a little pressure, her body has changed a lot and breast feeding is a weird one when it comes to sex, if you can even try to imagine... pamper her a little, run a bath, give her a massage, help her bring her body back a little to who she is not just a mother, this might sound extreme but lets say to remove any pressure from her with the full on sex, suggest that you won't make full on love for a month, you can be intimate with each other without the pressures in her mind, just a thought, you are doing a great thing here being considerate, i commend you xx

[Asker]

Thank you and I see, I'll try it

[Sam44319153]

Have a look at buying some ben wa balls. They are balls on a string that insert into the vagina. Her muscles will naturally clamp onto and off the balls. So she will be doing kegels without even realising it. She can just leave them in during the day and her body will automatically do the rest of the work.

[CharlesPerez34]

Well I can see your problem. I mean I wouldn't know because I never had sex, but one is that in my opinion. size doesn't matter. And she doesn't necessarily have to be tight for enjoyable sex. it would be nice though, as an extra umph. To assure you that she is pleased, you can also involve sex toys in the mix of all. or even trying out new positions

[she40841]

Okay... tell her to go to the gym and do more squats

[tinyclit]

Kegel exercises are the method for getting muscle tone back in that area. Please Google it.

[Paris13]

Slip and Slide and Take the Ride and Love her Unconditionally.
It doesn't Matter how Loose or Tight, She is Still Your... Delight.
Good Luck and Congrats!! xx

[Born_To-Live]

Honestly let her take her time have her do kegels and if she doesn't know what kegels are, it's when you clench the vagina several times repeatedly.

[Asker]

Oh, I heard of those. My past girlfriend had a habit of doing those way early in like high school or middle school, she got too tight to enter. They don't have any side effects do they?

[Born_To-Live]

umm no they should, you know the vagina is a muscle right? She can do it as long as she wants.

[Born_To-Live]

Hopefully she won't do them as often so the same problem won't happen.

[Kitten967]

Get her to do kegels

[Twinkles88]

She needs to do pelvic floor exercises.

She will likely never feel the way she did before-she has pushed a human out of her vagina!!!

If you are pleasuring her she will automatically tighten, so maybe you should work on that 😊

[Asker]

I've actually heard that women who do kegels feel just as tight as before

[Twinkles88]

They can do, but I wouldn't pin my hopes on it.

[Lyndsielee666]

Tell her to do kegels... I waited till my daughter was nine months old to have sex again and I'm just as tight as I was before. Kegels work wonders

[Asker]

Levels?

[Asker]

Damn, autocorrect I mean kegels?

[Hai_tis_E]

She should do kegals lots of em

[This_is_my_username]

Your girlfriend had your baby. And you're worried about how tight she is. Man that's cold

[Walrus_au]

PC muscle excercises

[Anonymous]

tell her to go to the gym and do more squats

[Asker]

Squats don't help the vagina bro