Do you think everyone is secretly a pervert?

[ADFSDF1996]

Think about it, everyone has checked out someone before. If someone of the sex you are attracted to is jogging on the street, you might glance at them. If you are at a public place, you might check out the first attractive person you see of the sex you are attracted to. I think everyone is secretly perverted but since the word "pervert" has a negative connotation, most people won't admit it. Most people will deny they are perverts. What do you think? When I say "pervert" I mean when you lust after a person because of how they look.

[Robin48]

Thank you for asking this question. Total correct. Most people are perverts. That why they gossip and slander others with sexual things. Example: You know that most women have issues with mothers who have sons. The woman who has the issues is mostly the mother who has no sons and just daughters. Have you notices how mothers visited mothers who have sons more than mothers who have daughters, it very common for a mother who has no sons to make sexual remarks about mothers who have sons. I do not what to get gross or nasty on here. It right now gross in how some woman claim there are sexual activities going on with mothers and sons because they are jealous about they can not able to do what the mother can do with their sons.

This goes on a lot of girls who have no brothers. They get jealous of other girls who have brothers and the girls can see her brother naked. The brother and sister share family activities together as bathing, showers. So what the girls who have no brother claim the girl and the boy are taking part in sexual behavior as incest when it not.

We had a family in our community which had this happen to them. That woman and her two daughters no longer live here. We other families came to their aid in helping them. We know nothing when on. This is why it important parents teach their children in what we share and what we do not share. What we do when having company and what we do not do.

We all had things said to us. I know it hurts. We can talk about this more if you need to. There are real people here on GAG who are here to support each other. I know there those here to insult others.

[ASEXY]

No, because I'm not perverted at all. I think most people are secretly perverted though because most people aren't asexual... And I always tend to attract perverted girls.

[Robin48]

Many males attract perverted females. It has nothing to do with the male. They just come to you. The male is doing nothing wrong. Sex does not control my life. Sex has a place and purpose in human. My sex life is between my wife and our God.

[kaylaS91]

Yes, of course you could say that a larger number of people have sexual thoughts than are willing to admit to it. Does that make them perverts by simply permitting their libido to express itself via something as simple as dirty thoughts, though?

No. 'Perverts' are those who lack the self-restraint that prevents the majority of the population from action on any thoughts that may come to mind that are sexual as well as completely inappropriate.

[Robin48]

Good sister had the word fetish into this.

[Robin48]

Too early in the morning. Let me do this over. Good sister, add the word fetish to it. Fetish people play a big role in pervert thinking.

[kaylaS91]

@Robin48 I really don't see how most fetishes would equate to being 'perverted' assuming that you're thinking of perversions as being ANYTHING sexual. It's kind of subjective so maybe that's how you're looking at it if you're a woman who grew up in a patriarchal, oppressive society. To me, perversions are more like sexual actions that encroach on another's privacy/personal boundaries. ie. groping, peeping tom's, etc..

[Robin48]

Fetish is people who see things as being sexually when it not. So their mind becomes pervert. Sister, do you what examples. There is a question here on GAG about fetish. They both go in hand. A perverted mind becomes a fetish. A fetish becomes pervert.

[btbc92]

I hope you realize checking somebody out is exactly what lust is. yes you make glance and notice somebody but but that doesn't make anybody a pervert you just noticed something about them. I've already thinking sexually about that person and then yeah you already crossed that line. admiring is one thing, hoping to get them to bed with you is another.

[ADFSDF1996]

There is reason why I try to not to glance at women I find attractive, I don't want to feel like a pervert.

[btbc92]

Sorry made some typos above. Meant to day of your already thinking sexually about that person* But again, you have to have self control of your urge. not glancing and ignoring the ones you find attractive it's a smart move to do. means you're taking responsibility until you learn to have better self-control. the more you do so in practice the better you'll get and a more better you feel.

[ADFSDF1996]

That's not why I ignore them. I already have self control, I always have but it's because I'm afraid that they'll assume I'm a pervert.

[btbc92]

Well whats the reason for looking at them in the first place? Perverts to me is when I know someone is lusting amd they have no right or reason to. If your not doing that then don't worry. The only way you will know is unless somebody tells you to stop looking at them. That is what I did. And that is because I hate being looked at and attention.

[ADFSDF1996]

Men are called perverts for any little thing.

[btbc92]

Again, as long as your not doing anything you shouldn't, it shouldn't bother you. people will call you whatever they want.

[Robin48]

In general, females us that pervert calling males a pervert is just to protect their self.

[btbc92]

@Robin48 Exactly. Not all guys are dogs. Most just have that mentality and you never know who you may encounter. But I don't just any guy a pervert. Most do it out of habit.

[Robin48]

You are correct with either sex you do not know who you will encounter. I in the business world. My wife is a nurse at an elementary school. You would be shocked in what we come across.

[Robin48]

So who is the real pervert? You looking at someone or the person who see you looking at them. Well, they are the pervert. You ask why that is where their mind went too. So most of the time you look at someone. It the person who see you are looking at them.

[btbc92]

@Robin48 It depends on HOW you're being looked at. I can tell the difference between a genuine smile, warmth in the eyes vs a smirk and mischievous eyes. I look at subtle details, examine the possibilities and observe their body language and behavior, as well as who they're hanging out with if any at all before I make that judgment. 9/10x it's mostly correct. That's how I avoid trouble. ^^

[Robin48]

I agree, but you have women who think every male who looks at them has a sexual lust for them. Many time it how the women are taught as they growing up. Our society picture males as being this sex animal but women are just as much. Many times it the women minds which go pervert when someone looks at her. Most of the time there nothing. People, in general, need to renew their minds and not conform to this think of the world and think on nice things.

[estoydorado1]

I think everyone has sexual desires to some extent or another. What makes a guy/girl a pervert is when they shamelessly try to play out their desires upon a non-consenting or at times unaware person. I don't believe sexual impulses are perverted by themselves. I think a lack of restraint and inappropriate sexual overtures are perverted.

[Bigdom91]

Very well worded

[estoydorado1]

Thank you

[Robin48]

Disagree, there is a lot of perverts around. We not only talking about dating. We talk about general populations. People who have a fetish minds about others in a perverted way. Female are good in hiding their pervert minds. You can spot them. They gossip about others and make off the wall sex remarks about others. It is very common among females.

[Bigdom91]

@Robin48 like the lady said a pervert is someone who shamelessly try to play out their desires upon a non-consenting or at times unaware person... not just general population of people who have fetishes of sorts or think of other people in perverted ways. That's keeping their fetishes private and in their head... like almost everyone has done at one point or another.

[estoydorado1]

@Robin48 I'm not denying that people have sexual impulses that may vary from the norm. I'm saying that in my opinion, perversion has to do with a lack of self-control and/or self-awareness when it comes time to decide on whether to bite your tongue/keep it moving/respect someone's wishes/etc. and you are unable to let it go. An example is, let's say I'm at a bar and some guy walks up to me and says I have a sexy body. I'm not big on casual sex so if I make it known to him that I'm not interested and he accepts that and moves on... Is he forward? Yes. Do I feel violated after that encounter? Not really, no. If he tried to invade my physical space and forcibly impose his lust on me then he would be a pervert/creep/etc.

[Robin48]

We are also talking about people who slander others with pervert remarks in claiming they are doing something that is not going on. Fetish plays into this also. Let take an example of this. These women who claim when mothers bring in their sons into the female changing room. These so call women who claim the boys are looking at them sexually. Well, the boys are not looking at the women sexually. It the women who seeing the boys sexually. This is how perverts are. They turn things around to protect their self in claiming someone else is doing some evil.

[Robin48]

I know that sister. You cool.

[Robin48]

I did vote yes on your statement.

[estoydorado1]

@Bigdom91 I didn't see your comment earlier. Thanks for helping me Explain.

[Bigdom91]

Anytime 😊

[fictionfanatic]

oh definitely everyone is

[NickyGervais]

That is totally not perverted. How fucking frigid are you?

[DannyChesney]

At the end of the day we're all nothing but animals. We all have a natural pull to pass on our genes.

[Dim1213]

A perv no. A sexual being yes.

[seby1607]

Well, we are kind of made to be quote-on-quote "perverts." Now I am not saying that we shouldn't control ourselves or that sexual harassers should be excused, because for obvious reasons they should not. But on the flipside of things: This world and humanity have instincts for sexual attraction. We are made to feel attracted in a sexual manner, otherwise, we would never reproduce, thus we would never have existed in the first place. Therefore I do believe everyone is a "pervert" because we have instincts of sexual attractions since million of years ago.

Of course, since society has changed from what we had millions of years ago, we expect society to be able to control themselves and not sexual harass and/or abuse. And this very normal, as we have proceeded with these moralities. Therefore I think that we are all "perverts" but at the same time not so much because of what society wants from us.

Regardless, I have chosen for option A.

[Judith_Lopez]

Well, i secretely watch hentai (im into anime) and masturbate in the shower while groping my boobs hoping they'll grow more... so i'd consider myself a pervert even tho im a virgin

[Malik00]

The world needs more honest women like you

[OlderAndWiser]

We don't know! Wanna know why we don't know? IT'S A SECRET!

[JimRSmith]

By those definitions, nearly everybody is, yeah.

[IEat70sBush]

Eh I'm a pervert and openly say so, don't like it, too bad.

[Williamleex]

Everybody fantasizes about so called "perverted things,"

[WaterRat]

Lust ≠ Pervert. I don't have cams installed in other people's bedrooms or grab people's asses on the street. Checking people out is just checking people out.

[Robin48]

You can check people out it not be sex or sex tone or sex feelings. We need to stay away from people who have a fetish minds about others. As a husband and father, I do not go to work and talk about my sex relationship with my wife. My wife does not do it either. At my job, a sex talk will get the person fired. They will be walking the street. I do not go and ask my friends if they had sex last night. My family friend who is 25 years older than my wife and me who ride the bus. It shocking what he tells us what goes on the bus. It most the women to have a very gross sexual talk about others.

[WaterRat]

@Robin48 well those women must not have discovered an outlet like gag to talk freely about sex and other people.

[Robin48]

It works both ways sister. You female can said what you what to said. We males can do the same.

[Robin48]

Female need to stop hiding their sexual things. They need to be open. Girls also need to be open and share. You need to set up some question for us to help you females to be open with your pervert, fetish, sexually feeling, nudity, etc, etc.

[likitb4istickit]

There's nothing secret about me being a pervert. I'm honest about it since I simply never gave 2 fucks what people thought about it (or anything else for that matter).

[IsabelGuimaraes]

but that's not perversion

that's just being an animal

[DelendaEstCarthago]

Eunuchs, monks, hermits, - not sure they're pervs

[frozenhorizon]

Not "everyone" but most people yeah.

[jacquesvol]

Those 90 yr old spinsters think I'm a pervert. SM women think I'm a boring plain vanilla geek.

[John_Doesnt]

Men aren't perverts, just biologically programmed a certain way. And women are just good at lying.

[FatherJack]

Men are labelled as " perverts " anyway , by the " media " & esp feminist propaganda , simply because men are , on average , much more sexually driven than women , due to brain wiring & testosterone levels.

[Toad-1]

@this_is_my_username secretly is I bet 😉😉

[This_is_my_username]

😂😂😂😂😂Oh ya I'm dirty as church shoes

[Toad-1]

@This_is_my_username church shoes that had to walk over watered grassy to get inside and got all muddy!

[Yumix]

that's a contradiction. A perversion is considered abnormal... if everyone has them, then it's not abnormal anymore

[iFarted]

Naa, some people don't keep it a secret.
Like me.. I'm just straight up a pervert