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Do women become use to larger penises?

Recently engaged to a 4'11" Chinese girl and she is upset that she doesn't please me.

I measured my penis and it has the following dimensions (length/circumference): flaccid: 6.5 inches/6 inches; slightly erect: 7.5 inches/6.5 inches; fully erect: 8.75 inches/7.25 inches. I found a few household items: a bottle of sauce which is the same circumference as my flaccid penis – this I can just fit in my mouth and a bottle of Angostura, which I can't fit in my mouth. Avg in China is 4.2/3.5.

The first time we had sex I was only able to put the tip of my penis in her and she can only suck on the tip of my penis. When it's not erect I can squash it in her mouth, but I can only do it for about 10-15 seconds as it makes me erect very quickly. I told her that she should push against me if she wants me to not put so much in her or say “stop” to stop. After about two weeks of having sex most days she can now take about three inches, which is only a bit more than the tip of my penis and only for about as much as three minutes. This is not enough to make me ejaculate, particularly as we go very slow. Most of our sex involves me rubbing my penis against her vagina. She is really enjoying this and says it is making her orgasm a lot. She said she is not orgasming from penetration. However, I find it difficult to ejaculate from this. It has only happened once when I was behind her and thrusting against her while holding my penis against her vagina. I had to do it really aggressively to orgasm. We've also shaved our pubic hair and she will lick my penis while I lick her vagina. This is very nice, but again I can't orgasm. All the other times I orgasm from masturbating on her body. She said it does not make her feel like a lady that I am making myself orgasm.

Have any other girls or guys experienced a similar situation? Is she likely to be able to take more of my penis after time? Or will we have to cater our sex life to our sizes? Either way, I will always love her.

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I am a 6 foot European male and she is a 4 foot 11 Chinese female. We are both Christians. She comes from an open but very socially conservative family. I myself do not believe in Christian theology, but have lived a very chaste and unindulgent life. We had been together for nine months when I proposed. Through a lot of tribulation we managed to convince her parents to allow us to go on a three month pre-honeymoon.
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We were both virgins and we are both each others only romantic partner and we did promise to each other and to her parents that we would remain celibate until marriage. However, I am 30 years old now and my sexual desire has become more and more potent. On our first night together of our honeymoon, which is the first time we have really been able alone together, I was not able to hold back in my embrace of her and we had sex for the first time; and we've had sex pretty much every day since.
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  • The vagina can expand by 200%, so she can accommodate you. It sounds like she's probably well lubricated, but if not (since some women don't produce as much natural lubrication) use lube, it will help a lot in making it more comfortable for her. If she is still sore from the previous day, you may want to give it a bit of a wait. Stretch her vagina, get her used to one finger, then two, work your way up to your girth. It should make things a little more comfortable for her, she'll probably still get sore, but she may last a little longer. It's the girth that generally makes things more difficult/painful, less so the length (unless it's something ridiculously long, in which case, try positions that allow for shallower penetration). She will most likely become accustomed to it over time, how much time it takes varies, it took me 2-3 months and my boyfriend is average length average girth, and I think I took longer to adjust than most women.

    I can understand her desire to make you come, can she get you to come from oral? She doesn't need to fit all of your penis in her mouth, she can always use her hands on the rest of your shaft, plus only the head of your penis really needs to be in her mouth since that's the most sensitive part of your penis anyway.

    It is likely penetration isn't very comfortable for her right now, kind of difficult to orgasm when you're in pain. Even if it isn't from pain, most women need manual stimulation (read: you rubbing her clit) in addition to vaginal penetration to orgasm. The percentage of women who orgasm just from vaginal penetration alone (so no touching the clit) is a minority.

    It's difficult to tell from what you've said so far, but since you did say you had to thrust against her quite vigorously, prior to this, did you masturbate frequently? And when you masturbated, did you use a fast speed or a tight grip? If so, you may have difficulty orgasming from vaginal sex and oral.

    • May I suggest that for the first few penetrations they use the cowgirl position or similar woman on top. Then she is in control. She determines the depth and speed. Also the level of discomfort she will tolerate. That's what I do and I have never caused a tear or bleeding.

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  • If you can get it in her, without tearing/bleeding... after a while her body will get use to it.

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  • Yes they do!

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