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Heterosexual men and shemale porn?

I know that there are questions out there like this and I've been through some of them. But I'd like to put my scenario forward and get feedback from straight men into shemale porn. I found out my boyfriend is into it recently. Dominant shemales in particular. He doesn't know I know (he left it open on his laptop), and I don't want him to feel attacked by directly asking. My concerns are that we don't have sex very often (never have, from the beginning he almost never wants it), that he's not very talkative about experimenting, and that perhaps he prefers that porn to me since apparently that's what he has been gravitating towards for quite some time. To set the stage, he's more insecure than I am. Also very defensive unless I'm gentle in the conversation. I've told him recently I want sex more often. He's initiated once since then. Could this be a discomfort with the person you're with thing? When we have sex he definitely gets hard. He doesn't look at me much, but he touches a lot. If men are visual, shouldn't he be looking too? I guess the most important question here is, should I be concerned about the penis he seems to have a fetish with? I've asked if he'd be interested in a strap on. The answer was a firm no. I know there's research out there saying that men who are into shemales are predominantly heterosexual. But that the difference between them and men who look at male on female porn is that men who are into shemale porn are more excited by shemale genitalia. Would you say that's true? (again, I'm aiming this question at heterosexual men attracted to shemale porn)
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  • In my humble experience, most men love femininity. Yes, they'll balk if there as a penis involved, but that can readily be bypassed if the feminine expression is of a high enough quality. Men LOVE femininity. It's why they would be rather quick to choose a hot "shemale" porn star over Buck Angel when it comes to the old, "who would you rather fuck," question. He is probably interested in the strapon, but our culture is full of fear when it comes to coloring outside the lines, and he's not exempt from the effects of such conditioning. So no matter how much he may be interested in anal stimulation, the fears behind what average society might do to him if "they" found out, might outweight that. So cut him some slack. He's perfect healthy and normal if he does desire this, and it does not mean is gay. Not in the least. But he may be afraid of being found out because of our crazy cultural conditioning. If you love him, go slow, continue to let him know he can trust you, that you love him, and that if he ever changes his mind, you're open-minded and non-judgmental enough to help him realize his fantasies. You sound like a quality partner. Let's home he realizes that :)

    • Very well thought out

  • Yes, a little odd he's not into strap-ons. Heterosexual attraction to transwomen porn tends to stem from being straight, in the sense that femininity attracts them. Some would disagree and say it's about the genitalia, I beg to differ. It's more about feminine energy. So, add to the notion that weens are fun to pickle around with, and it all adds up. There's likely a myriad of perspectives on this, just riffing off of my experience. Maybe he really does want to enjoy anal penetration but this culture beats it into men's minds that anything to do with a ween makes them gay. Not true, but you know how it is.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I’ve always found it easy to get hard before sex, I’ve never had a massive sex drive sometimes I want it every day and others I don’t, I don’t really looks at my partner during sex, but I do have trouble cuming inside women, ever since I had sex with someone who is pre-op transgender ( massive fantasy) watching anytype of porn it takes ages to come even my favourite milf/gilfs I've got a granny fetish, bit watching gay porn or shemale porn I can get off quickly, so it could just be he’s nervous, body conscious, doesn’t think he’s big enough, but try watching porn during sex, and try different genres like milfs, gay porn, shemale etc and see what he responds to, or just talk to him!!

  • not all men are visual i wouldn't worry too much... I'm a straight guy who will sometimes watch shemale porn I'm sure lots of guys do

    • Thank you. Would you say that when you go looking for it, you're more interested in one thing than another that day? Yes, I'm asking for sexual introspection. I really do want to understand the appeal of that sometimes.

    • of cause... variety is the spice of life and all that! different porn for different moods has to be the same for everyone right?

    • Well, let me put it this way. I have no interest whatsoever in vaginas, even on men. I have never been attracted to them. So yes, variety, but there are just some directions that don't interest me. Is it a bit of bisexuality maybe? Kinsey suggested we're all somewhere on the scale.

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  • I must confess, I do enjoy watching it. I'm bi-curious and the idea of being with (someone who is very feminine with a dick) and large, fake tits would be a real turn on. I fantasize about what it would be like to give her a nice slow teasing edging kind of handjob or to give her a blowjob. I also think it would be hot if a woman was present to watch and participate.

    As far as anal sex? I'm not sure if I would want her to fuck me in the ass, but, again I must confess, if a woman was present, and she wanted to see her fuck me in the ass, I think I might be willing to try it.

  • I'm bi... so both XD (https://grabporn. me/download-porn-videos/download-videos-from-anyshemale/)

  • If he's into shemale porn he's at least a little bisexual. He is NOT 100% straight, plain and simple

    • exactly this. talk 2 him about..

  • I've seen it.. wouldn't say I watch it or will do it again though.

  • It's something strange that we can't bring our minds around. A girl + a dick... amazing! In some ways it's easier to relate to because we also have dicks. A novelty and a kink.

  • not really odd. a trans girl is unique which causes curiosity.

    • and think about trans men.

  • I'm heterosexual and I like shemale porn but I can't say excatly why. I like strapon sex on occasion all though I am very dominant in that respect it's more about the pleasure and not about a fantasy about a penis. So for me I don't think shemale porn and strapons are related nessicarily, I guess the same could be said for shemale porn and wanting a real dick aren't really related. It's probably more of a thing for wanting dominant womin ie the dick being dominant on a transgender

  • I suspect that he is bisexual. He loves the look of an ultra fem woman, but finds the penis sorta kinky. I think it is out for debate as to whether he is bi or straight. Trans women will state that he is definitely straight, as they consider themselves women. I would say they are partially bisexual, and probably just into some kink.

  • nah its just being curious

  • Chicks with dicks are the perfect combination for most men.

  • I've always been turned on when a girlfriend grabs my butt or has roaming fingers. had a girlfriend once that was into plugs and found it a turn-on when when she asked to put the small one in while giving me a blowie. On the porn side, standard porn got boring and found myself curious about other genres and shemale porn caught my attention. it shows what appears like beautiful women in a dominant role. I agree it's a mind fuck. It's all fantasy but there's something about it that drew me in.

    I can understand your boyfriend's reaction to the strap-on question. thats like 0-100 in 2 secs. sexuality is a nuanced and you have to take things slow. maybe you can suggest you want to try using a butt plug for your self... they look good from behind. Not sure how persuasive you are but after using it a few times for yourself you can get him excited with oral and ask if you can use it as part of your fun... he might enjoy the experience. I wouldn't try to replace his porn fetish with a strapon... just try to lean in that direction and think you will get his attention back.

  • If it's shemale porn that features a guy with a shemale, then they aren't 100% straight. A shemale wit a girl? he is still straight.

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