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How do I stop this attraction to my stepdad?

I have become extremely attracted to my stepfather, and can't stop the feelings. My mom married him when I was 12. Lately I've been having sex dreams about him and they are somehow turing me on more and more. I have seen him naked, and my mom has told me how good he makes her feel during sex, but I've never seen him with an erection - except in my dreams. He has never said anything or done anything sexual to me, other than an occasional slap on the butt, but I have teased him just a little. It's almost like he avoids me when I am in my bikini or just a towel after showering. My mom says he has said I am very good looking. How do I stop these feelings?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Don't u like anyone at school? Your step dad isn't an option to consider or even to be thought of. It would be an abomination if anything starting from kissing ever happened. Once it is on ur mind dreaming about it is made possible. Avoid the taught of it during the time you are awake and the dreams will fade while u are asleep. Treat him like u would ur biological dad. U won't flirt with ur biological dad. Whatever relationship u had or have with your biological dad, he would never be at peace with u having this thoughts, flirting ur step dad. Your mom is part of the problem, she is not ur friend, she is ur mom. She should speak like one. Also take responsibility cos u are not a child anymore cos if u make the wrong choice now it will change ur life for ever. U are not in love with ur step dad, its just lust that has creeped into ur mind from the words from ur mom about him and stuff. Protect ur mind cos the things u think about are the things you will do. So change the things you think about and avoid those conversations with ur mom. U dont need it. Dont flirt with him ever. Treat him like ths dad he is trying to be. Preoccupy your mind with better and healthy thoughts. Im sure there could be some guy from school that can make u feel good. Go find him.

    • Trust me if ur mind stop associating him with sex for a while, u will start seeing him like any other dad.

    • Part of the problem might be that my real dad beat my mom and then left us in a strange city, then she remarried and that guy adopted us (I have 2 brothers and a sister), only to leave her for a family friend. My stepdad has been nothing but great for all of us, but I did really resent him at first - and even told him he was nothing to me when I was 13. This attraction started sometime around when I was 14 or so, although it only became sexual after I was maybe 16 and he was teaching me how to drive. My high school friends always thought he was sexy in his own kind of way, even though he only did normal family things - like camping and sports - when we were all together. I stopped one of my friends from flashing him her boob once, but I found out later she had done it before. She said it really excited her, even though he pretended not to see.

    • Ok skip the dad part. Your friends shouldn't talk about ur step dad like that. If he has been that great treat him like u would a man u would call dad. Why would ur friends think its ok to flash their boobs and talk about it to. Your environment already is to bad. Your mom tells u things a daughter shouldn't know about a dad. If you continue the same conversations u will just trap urself more and more. You should be mad that your friend flashed her boobs for him cos he is ur dad and ur moms love. The way out is work on ur mind

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  • It is totally bad thing to think about your stepdad in that way. Search out for a good boyfriend for you. I know that hormonal changes taking place in your body but control them.

    It will destroy life of three of you and your mom will really feel bad when she will come to know about this.

    Avoid to go half naked in front of your stepdad. Masturbate if you want to satisfy your need. But don't do anything wrong which regrets you later. Your dad is avoiding you when you are in bikini because he knows the limits and the value of relationship.

    Please do not think anything like it for your dad. The dreams may be coming because your body may not be releasing sexual tension from your body. So try masturbation at certain interval of time. It will reduce the dreams.

    Hope it helps.

Most Helpful Girls

  • My stepbrother is totally hot. I would be into him if we weren't related but you don't cross some lines. You put on your big girl pants and make a conscious decision that something is a bad idea and you drop it. This is one of those times.

  • Start by thinking about your mom and how it would hurt her to find that out. She deserves happiness, too. She should also dump him if he is slapping you on your butt. I mean what the hell?

  • Why is your mother telling you this crap? And secondly move out. I don't know what type of relationship your family has, but I would just distract yourself, it isn't healthy.

    • My mom and I have always been open about everything (although THIS is something I have kept from her). As for moving out, well, I am a thousand miles away at school, but will be home for the summer starting in two weeks.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Just wait till they get a divorce or mom is out of town... and have some sexy as fuck step daddy, naughty girl time. I support u and would love to write a story about it if u wouldn't mind some more details in private

  • Sounds like a fake question, like someone has been watching too much porn.

  • Get some therapy

  • Just shove these feelings down. You dont want to hurt your mom and try and make a move on your dad. Think about how much your mom would be upset by that

    • I've tried...

    • Well try harder. How much sexual activity do you get?

    • How often are u fantasizing about him

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  • You can't stop them. But you can either ignore them or masturbate to them. You can also get a boyfriend who looks like him but then it wouldn't be fair to your boyfriend. Your step dad obviously loves your mom a lot and that's why he avoids looking at your sexy version. I suggest you respect that.

  • is your mom twelve years old?

  • *brazzers logo flashes* no but seriously I'd avoid it so your don't ruin anything your mom and him have

  • got a similar situation that I"ll share in Pri

  • get a boyfriend, dont let him slap you on the butt, and stop talking to your mom about his and her sex life

  • He's not your biological dad.. Maybe the day will come when he wants to fuck you. Let your dream come true.

  • suck his fucking dick

  • it's sound like you need a fuck and your mom wants you to get fucked by him.

  • speaking from the stepdads point of view, you should definitely persue. totally flirt with him, it'll be sexy and give you experience. accidentally drop your towel, or catch him showering. spend a lot of time bending over, or on your knees. eye level with his penis.

    • That is so wrong. Your a freak for encouraging such a thing. Oh just noticed your name. That explains it. :(

    • No that would be totally wrong. I have been very close to nude in front of him, and I have seen him naked. He has told me to cover up a little sometimes, but won't really stare or anything like that. He has hugged me when I've been just in my towel, but only because I've gone up to him for a hug.

  • Why stop it, go for it. It will probably be the most exciting thing you will ever do and he wants it, no question about it

  • find someone else

  • I've had a very similar experience. Not intentional on my part, and he's never said or done anything that was inappropriate towards me.

  • by letting me act as your step father and let's have some fun now. u ready?

    • I be your step dad

  • Just curious have you ever masturbated to him after these dreams?

    • No. The dreams are enough for me.

    • So what happens in the dreams? R u actually having sex with him and he's making u cum?

    • I dream that we are together like on the beach or on the balcony. I always see him and reach for his cock. We are then doing it, but I don't actually see him. Most times I never see him, but know we are naked together. Somehow in my dreams I actually climax. When I wake up I want the dream to continue.

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  • Troll.
    No mom would ever have those conversations with their kid.

    • You speak for all moms?

    • @IHateLife yes

    • Yes, she has. Also[, she has told friends of hers who are some of my friends moms. She loves him that much.

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