This is just my opinion, but yes, I think he's bored. Why not masturbate with him? Facing each other on the bed? Let him watch while you watch? Or your give him a handjob while he fingers you?
As far as doing "things he likes", one thing I believe in is this... doing something that doesn't turn you on, isn't fun for either of you. For instance, if a guy wants to cum on your face and you do it but dont enjoy it? Just kneeling there with your face all scrunched up and eyes held shut and mouth tight, letting him ejaculate on you, isn't a turnon for anyone. He has a fantasy of what its like! You want to please him but you dont' like it. So it doesn't work for you and its a let down for him.
I think its very important to get on equal ground on what turns AND him on. Is it lingerie? Is it spontaneous sex? Is it car sex? Outdoor sex? Public sex? Is it 69, or rough, or sensual or fantasy or role playing? Dirty talk, sexy talk, love making or raw sex? Candles and incense, pounding rock and roll music in the background?
Somewhere is common ground that you both enjoy. When you both enjoy it, you are turned on and so is he... and then you both become more turned on watching the other person get turned on... its a waterfall of sensuality.
talk it through.. work it out.0 4 0 1most valuable opinion , do what she said.
Yes what she said.
If u wanna stay with him then tell him that u feel he's not changing enough or fast enough and you feel that you have been trying to accommodate him but he's not returning the favor. And unless he wants to play his part then you're not interested in having any relationship with him at all because a porn addiction is not good.
0 0 0 0Okay no porn unless you watch it together.
He could be uncomfortable talking about what he wants to do.
This could sound silly but.
Make up a suggestion jar of things that you'd like to do. It could be easier to write them down.
I started doing this with my husband of 11yrs and we have had a "good time".0 0 0 0
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Well... I don't think he's bored with you. Personally, based on what I've heard from guys my age and older, and what I've experienced in dating, sometimes it has to do with libido, OR it could simply be that he has become too accustomed to masturbating on his own. He may have fantasies that he can't necessarily achieve with you and he's living those fantasies out elsewhere. BUT don't despair, there is a bit of hope. If he truly finds you attractive, then try to force his hand. DON'T go further than he wants to: If he says no, NO MEANS NO, just as much as it does for women. But, I don't know... try laying on the bed naked for him when he comes home from work. Or talk to him about his fetishes and fantasies. Things like that.
It could also be that he is putting you on such a high pedestal that he's scared of having sex with you lol. I know it's weird but it's true.
Another thing: try evaluating exactly how he acts before, during and after sex with you. Have you ever ASKED him to have sex? What kinds of faces does he make DURING sex? Does he seem SATISFIED after sex?
Damn i feel accomplished... i typed up an essay...1 0 0 0Have a conversation with him and ask these questions:
1. Is there any reason to expect this to change?
2. If you stay together, what will your sex life be like 3 years from now?
3. What does he expect you to do to have your sexual needs fulfilled.1 1 0 0
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7 15tell him a porn addiction is a deal breaker, because it is.
1 0 0 0You guys are missing adventure in your life and hence boredom is creeping in. Try teasing and new positions. I believe, this often works. ;)
0 2 0 0I think that the guy is just insecure about his package exc. He probably just doesn't want to disappoint you or maybe things just aren't working too well sometimes down there. I don't know.
0 0 0 0She probably so ugly she can't get him hard.
He did tell me that sometimes he sikes himself out and he puts pressure on himself. We didn't use to be like this though.
Sex 4 times in 2 months? That is not healthy and I do not think it is going to get better. Is he fooling around on the side? How come he does not ask you to jerk him off instead of him masturbating? Does he get you off when you do have sex?
0 0 0 0maybe it is just work pressure...
0 0 0 0He's addicted to porn and it's becoming the only way he can get aroused and cum. The condition is called porn creep or porn induced erectile dysfunction. This will only get worse so you have a decision
1 0 0 0There's nothing you can do. You only have two choices. Stay with him knowing it will get worse or leave and those are the only choices you have. If he "changed" it'll only be a very short time and he'll go right back to his behavior
Maybe try role play? Or stuff like that? Search new idea who your boyfriend might like.
1 0 0 0buy whips, knives, and rope. no more boredom.
0 0 0 0You need to make a pact where you become his sole sexual outlet. And no more porn - it destroys man-woman romantic relationships, kills the sex cuz you can't compete with that shit. It's pure evil, totally not realistic. Just fake and a guy will become addicted to it.
It may even require a third party, like a counselor.
It's killing your relationship.1 1 0 0This might be of some help: https://www.markgungorshow.com/show/8205
3 years? Probably
0 0 0 1It's not his fault. You just so ugly he can't get erection.
Get plastic surgery and boob job.0 0 0 0The same shit for 3 years would bore anyone. Hence why monogamy is stupid in most cases.
0 0 0 1Stress could be causing it. Work can be the cause. You got to talk more and know whats going on with each other give a little support and maybe things will improve because you'll feel better.
0 0 0 0A lot of couples reach that point and the ones that make it through are the ones that can open up about their sexual fantasies. The key thing here is not to judge ur partner about it because then you will scare them in to sharing things with you.
1 1 0 0pm me ill make you understand
0 0 0 1right time to change the dick.
0 0 0 0He is to over porned if he watches it more than 2 times a week so he had reprogrammed his brain with porn being the substatoo so nead to get him to stop watching
0 0 0 0Ask him would be the best way
0 0 0 0i think he has sexual problems
0 0 0 0Or maybe she just ugly.
Every guy will be different but for me same pussy does get a bit boring after a while.
0 1 1 1@AllahuAkbarBich The adults are talking. Hush.
Mind your tongue filthy infidel whore.
@AllahuAkbarBich you don't know me. Since you're judging people you're probably sitting at computer with your dick in your hand. I'm asking for advice not stupidity.
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