Am I bi if I let a guy suck me off but do nothing else with him?

[Anonymous]

I'm intensely attracted to girls and have always considered myself 100% hetero. I'm a very physical person, and I work hard in the gym to keep myself in great shape. I've had abs literally every day since I was 14. Last year I started working with a guy I met through a mutual friend at the gym on getting bigger to compete in physique competitions in the future. We're both really dedicated to the fitness lifestyle and We eventually started hanging out more and even meeting girls together. We started having group sex with girls we met, both of us being totally confident in our bodies and turned on by showing off.

This January after group sex, he told me that he envied me because I'm leaner than him and have a bigger penis. I took it as a compliment, but just took it as normal bodybuilder talk, which is very body focused. He asked if he could have a threesome with me and my friends with benefits. We did, and during the proceedings, he started sucking me while my friends with benefits was riding my face. I was shocked, but didn't stop him. We talked about it later and he admitted that he was bi and wanted me. I told him I wasn't into that, so he said that he would be happy just to be able to touch me. Since then I've let him suck my cock about twice a week. I don't want to have sex with him and actually find the idea of penetration with a man repugnant. But I have to admit that I like the attention that he gives me, which borders on worship, and I enjoy getting sucked off by him. Does this mean I'm partly bi?

[TayTay21]

So you let him give you head but you're not attracted to him? Do you kiss him or anything like that?

[Asker]

No, I'm not sexually attracted to him or any other guy. I think he has a great body, but only as someone who has admired muscle and strength since I was a little kid. And no, I don't kiss him and I find the thought gross.

[TayTay21]

It sounds like you're just a sexual exhibitionist and get off on other people wanting you. You even admitted that he basically worships you cock, so I think that's what it is. You just have a muscle and fetish and you're in love with your own sexuality. Let me ask... have you had sex wit a lot of girls?

[Asker]

Yes, I've had sex with probably around 100 girls. I am an exhibitionist to some degree because I love having sex in public or someplace where others can see me.

[TayTay21]

Okay, well that makes sense. You just get off on other people wanting you. That's why you've had sex with so many girls. And that's why you let a guy who you're not attracted to suck your cock and worship you. You love being the center of attention and having other people in awe of you, which is why you work so hard in the gym and brag about your body lol. There's nothing wrong with that, it's just your kink. Sounds like you're making an impact and getting all of your needs met, so I say do what makes you happy and gets you off.

[Anonymous]

You are bi, you are not partly bi.

[Asker]

how can I be bi when I find the thought of touching another guy's dick to be repugnant?

[Opinion Owner]

But you let that guy suck you right? Sexuality is not just penetration. Oral sex is also sex regardless of if you're taking or giving it. I think you are denying it. Take it easy you're human it is not either good nor bad. It is just human. And we are all bi somehow anyways...

[Asker]

No, I'm not denying anything. I'm being 100% honest if you read what I wrote. I wrote that I enjoy receiving oral sex from him but find the idea of anything else to be repugnant. I've never been attracted to men sexually. I'm not homophobic at all. I'm very physical and think sexual taboos are stupid.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok, cool. i just gave my opinion too. But at the end, it is what YOU think and how YOU feel about yourself that maters. Wanna enjoy oral sex from a guy and do not consider your self as bi? You're free! What matters is that you do what makes you happy and not feel bad or ashamed about it as long as you do not hurt others!

[Asker]

Thanks for your input. I'm just trying to understand myself. I have no reason to lie here. Half the guys in bodybuilding are gay or bi, so that realm of sexuality doesn't bother me at all. It's just a huge departure from everything I've done and felt in my life.