Would you consider an abortion?

[Anonymous]

Oke well I got my last periode 4 days later and I freaked out. This time even if I use birth control , I was the first time really truly scared of being pregnant. I had today an appointment with my gynecologist, I'm calmed again haha My point is, without thinking much about it, the first few seconds where I really thought I might be pregnant, I immediately considered an abortion. I was scared of myself, because I always used to say, even if I'm not ready for a child, I would give the child rather for adoption, instead of an abortion. Or the only situation I would do an abortion is, when we live in really bad circumstances. But in this one moment where I really thought shit I might be, I did consider an abortion. And this not based on my ex or whatever, I didn't even thought about him, it was more of my future itself. I was selfish about my future and a child isn't a part of it. Maybe someday in the future it will be, who knows

[mmmbdison]

How I see it:

1) I wouldn't have an abortion personally. Too much money and I should have been more careful about it anyway - since I know there are a lot of people who can't ovulate and have children at all. So it's a gift in the end.

2) I should take care of my own personal birth control (pills, IUD, female condoms) and the guy should take care of his own (condoms, I do have condoms around but a guy knows his size and what works for him better than I do). If we're both not having sex responsibly, we shouldn't be having sex at all unless we're willing to care for a kid.

3) I'm in no position to tell someone to give labor to a kid, raise a kid, or stick it in the system. So I'm pro-choice for anyone who is willing. I'm just not.

[Tarnygosh]

With no doubt, no hesitation, I would have an abortion if I found out I was pregnant today. I have better finances than the average 20year old. My boyfriend is a great guy who'll be there for me. But I'm not in the right mental place, and physical place to be pregnant. I would resent the child, not love the child and I have a phobia of pregnancy and childbirth. In the UK we receive free contraceptives and an abortion would cost nothing either, but even if there was none of that freedom, I would be doing whatever to not be pregnant because I do not want to be carrying a child, so I won't carry a child. Abstinence until I'm ready is not an option, because I might never feel ready. I've thought about it for years and this is my stance.

[ShaunaM95]

Never in a million years. I'm old enough to take responsibility for my actions. And if I aborted my child and then found out in the future I wasn't able to have children, it would completely kill me on the inside. Abortion is completely not an option.

[shadow1332]

In all honesty I am for abortion in extreme cases (such as rape as well where the mothers life is at risk). I believe that people should take on the consequences of their actions, if you have sex you must be prepared to face the consequences of STDs and/or child birth. Overally it is your choice on what you would do and there would be consequences for that decision too.

[Anonymous]

I think that what matters is if you want to look in the mirror wondering what could have been, or look in the mirror knowing that you are working hard to nurture a life and you have compassion and unquestioned dignity. The fact you are asking this question means you feel it is wrong to abort. Go with your heart.

[Wonderer89]

At this stage in my life no, I want children and am in the financial and emotional place to have them.
If that wasn't the case though, and we couldn't offer a child 100% security and emotional stability from both of us or we already had 3 or 4 and couldn't afford another then I would abort

[jpmoore89]

Nope!

[samhradh_leannan]

If I got pregnant at a time when I was not in a position to raise a child, I would absolutely consider an abortion, and would likely decide to get one. I have no problem with abortions as long as they happen fairly early in the pregnancy.

[Mercules_J]

Yeah and you wonder why I have the beliefs like I have. Go figure. It is murder, plain and simple, regardless which stage it is in. What's the difference between a 6th week abortion, 23rd week abortion and a 44th week abortion? That's like saying there's a difference between murdering a 6 year old, a 23 year old and a 44 year old.

[samhradh_leannan]

@Mercules_J The difference between 6 weeks and 44 weeks is that one is a lump of cells barely the size of a bean, and the other is a fully developed baby that has probably already been born. That's the difference. Now, with all due respect, please back off. I am not going to have a debate with you on every single answer that I post.

[Mercules_J]

Then don't reply. It is still a life at 6 weeks as it is at 44 weeks. At 6 weeks, you are intentionally keeping it from growing if you abort.

[nickh1100]

lmfao why do people feel a compulsive need to force their opinion down others throat? are you scared of being alone with your opinions and no one to share it or you are so narcissistic that you think you're always right and you're incapable of perceiving things from other's perspective?

[Mercules_J]

@nickh1100 You mean me or samhradh? It would be best to use the @ symbol, then our name.

[nickh1100]

@mercules_J

[Lee_Lee_89]

If I would have gotten pregnant accidentally back when I was very young, I may have considered it (don't know for sure). But not now. Although I always use protection, if something like that were to happen to me now (or in the future) I would feel grateful and that it was meant to me.
But I don't judge other women either way.

[Tdieseler]

Been there done it.. and had it done on me. its an option. its not a big deal.

[luvstoned4him]

Nah because even tho I want a kid in marriage and it came too soon.. I want a kid!

[midnightcavern01]

have you considered an adoption agency

[redlif3]

No. I think it's murder because it deprived that child from having a life at all. if you can not handle him or her. give them up to an adoption place. so that way they still have a good life and good people to take care of them.

[shan_shan]

i will never do it but also i don't judge you i think it can be scary just one day finding out you can be pregnant..."its pregnancyyy omg"
but i think if it happens to me i can take it because abortion is something i won't do

[TiffyPuff]

I don't know :/

Like, I'd rather not have an abortion cuz I like babies and want one. But if I wasn't ready I don't know how I'd feel in your position :/

[TiffyPuff]

I'd prefer to have the baby. But I don't know how I'd feel

[The_Kitchen_Sink]

If I was a girl absolutely. Since Im not Id never sleep with a girl who wouldn't abort. You know, safety reasons. If contraception fails Id like a barganing chip. In case she changes her mind and doesn't want to abort Ill hop out of her life faster than the speed of light
not my problem *flies away*

[JDavid25]

Naw, cause I mean I ain't my place to end life if I didn't make it.. Lol..

[illydando]

It's your body, and if anyone feels like they aren't ready to be a parent, being forced to raise a child isn't healthy for you and would have major impact on the kid as well. I don't think I'll ever have kids so my view is probably a bit biased.

[bre_sig]

no i believe it is a life and deserves to live. I'd opt for adoption personally. i don't want children.

[BillieJean1070]

It's an option that I hope I never put myself in a situation to find out.

[Asker]

me too, I hope it will never get real and just stay as a thought I once had

[Kaaarinaaa]

Yeah probably I would consider it, but I guess I couldn't do it in the end

[myriamgh]

You should give the baby a chance after all having a kid would be wonderful. It could bring you joy

[jacquesvol]

At the moment of legal abortion there's no baby, no child. Just a pea or bean sized blob of cells without conscience or ability to feel.

[myriamgh]

Whatever

[Indian-African]

Why not give the child up for adoption instead? There are plenty of childless couples who can't have children.

[samhradh_leannan]

There are also already plenty of children who need parents. The world is not exactly underpopulated.

[Mercules_J]

No. I always say if people are not ready to be a parent, don't have sex.

If you are raped and become pregnant, don't punish the baby for the man's sins or woman's sins if a woman rapes a man.

[Leandri]

That's how I see it also

[nickh1100]

huh? people are not ready for a child then dont have sex? mind if i ask when did you lost your virginity? (I'm just using this question to make a point so you dont have to answer it) were you prepared for a child then? -if a person is raped theb don't punsih the child for rapist's sins? what about the victim's own choice? is her wish not worth anything in the scenario?

[nickh1100]

just wanna understand your opinion😊

[nickh1100]

did you loose***

[nickh1100]

sorry for all the typos lol i know there are many😓😓😓

[nickh1100]

and dont get me wrong i am all for being responsible about sex but you said if you're not ready for a child then dont have sex.

[Mercules_J]

@nickh1100 It is not the baby's fault. The baby is just the product of sex, even if forced. Also, victims can be men also. Women can rape men too.

[nickh1100]

not the answer to my question. i agree men can be victims too. hell they are in many cases. i asked if a girl was the victim then will her wishes won't matter?

[nickh1100]

and your statement dont have sex if you're not prepared for a baby? i mean i am all for being responsible and for pregnancy control measures by both genders but if they fail? were you planning a baby when you first had sex?

[Mercules_J]

@nickh1100 I let sex run its natural course. I don't make a mockery of my fertility.

[nickh1100]

whats that supposed to mean? you dont go for preventive measures and didn't go for then when you first had sex and were ready for a baby?

[nickh1100]

go for them**

[Asker]

Well I have to agree with @nickh1100 Safety is very Important but still can fail and just because I'm not ready I won't stop having sex and also for example if I got raped and would be pregnant, hell no would I keep the child. Of course it's not the child's fault, not at all, but I couldn't live with them reminding me everyday for the rest of my life on this one situation

[nickh1100]

agreed. its a personal choice of girl and no its not the baby's fault.

[Mercules_J]

@melanieeeB But if a woman raped a man and she kept the baby, you're also? Why can the rapist decide if the baby lives when the victim is male?

[Mercules_J]

I meant you're okay, not also.

[nickh1100]

umm coz its her body that will be used as an incubator for 9 months and it'll be her who will go through labour.

[nickh1100]

and legally it's the female's decision that matters

[nickh1100]

and the rapist will most likely not able to concieve the baby if convicted

[nickh1100]

not be able to*

[Mercules_J]

@nickh1100 But if a woman rapes a man, was it his decision which woman got his sperm? Maybe the man didn't want her or any woman to get his sperm.

[nickh1100]

i would suggest you to think your last reply over

[Mercules_J]

@nickh1100 So if a man is raped, you don't care. But if a woman is raped, you care?

[nickh1100]

ofcourse i do.

[nickh1100]

but you are basing all this on the assumption that the man will want the kid to live

[Mercules_J]

@nickh1100 Doesn't seem like it. If a woman rapes a man, you don't believe he should have a say in if the baby lives or dies but when the victim is female, you do.

[nickh1100]

and even if by chance he does then too current law gives him no right to intervene in decision of abortion. that right is reserved for the girl

[nickh1100]

oh but what you dont understand is doesn't matter what i think legally he's got no right/ say on that decision.

[Asker]

well if a man got raped by a woman and the woman wants to keep the baby, than the same, the man should have a right to say something against it But still in the end its the woman's body who is going to produce a baby and even the government can't force the woman to an abortion

[nickh1100]

but thats the thing the man doesn't have a say in the matter legally.

[nickh1100]

i understand your emotions but you cannot undermine the nature of reality you live in. I'm not saying it's right I'm saying it how it actually is

[Asker]

@nickh1100 totally agreed!

[jacquesvol]

I am 100% pro choice.