I think most women won't. Also, because of my own experiences, I know that abortion carries quite an emotional toll on women who performed it, so beware of that.
However, this question should take into account several factors to recieve a proper answer.
First, are you old enough and finantially independent to support raising a kid? Stopping a pregnancy - apart from the moral or religious issues - is something serious, but yet raising a kid without the proper economic means could be troublesome. Overmore, if you are too young, having a kid could alter your evolution as a mature person and could make you a horrible mother who wants out of that responsibility. Having a kid is a BIG resposibility.
Second, is the father of the child informed? And if so, is he willing to participate in the raising of the kid? If the father is not informed, is it because you are afraid to do so, because you think he would freak out and run away, or because you think that he's no father material. I have the belief that a child should have a father too, even if not in a commited relationship with the mother, so if you see that the possibility of your offspring having a father is remote, I would consider not having the kid. And I would consider informing him (if you can contact him) an important issue, and be open about telling him you would rise the kid yourself if he does not want to commit. Also I would listen to his advice if he considers abortion an option, but again beware that abortion is a big issue and that his is only an important opinion, not a decission maker.
Third. Let's be realistic. If you got pregnant by a fuck buddy, and considering you are pretty young, you probably not only are not ready to have a child, also would be counterproductive and immature to do so. It is clear that you are in a stage in your life when you are enjoying your own sexuality, and learning about human interaction and emotions. You are experiencing the thrill of growing up, and having a kid will halt all of that, with all the aftereffects it can have in your future. I would recommend to go for the B plan although I'm not a big fan of abortion (I've been there when I was 23 and still regret the whole experience of it). Obviously I find that taking an abortion pill is much less intrusive and causes less trauma, yet it should not be regarded as a contraception.
In the end, remember that your offsprings might diserve a father, and that it should not be your sole decission to make.
If it was me (except you know a woman your age and all) Id chose and abortion because id know being a single mum would suck and scare away guys and i have ambitions that require sacrifice.
But it would be a hard thing to do and also it depends how much support you have objectively how hard you think it would be for you to find a guy you want to have kids with if you do really want to.
It is very much a personal choice but at 20 you do have plenty of time left to find someone if you do want to settle down and for that id say older guys are more likely to want kids.
I dont know when the time is they start talking about complications but i would assume it starts around 40 so you have ages to go yet.
and thats not just a thing for women guys get low counts and ED with age
I loved your answer and you are right. I'd rather wait I have too many goals in my life.
It's not a decision you can make on your own.
From my own experience, you really shouldn't.
I was 19 and I was dating a guy that most people would label as a fuckboy. so I will not judge you for being with that person. I know the thrill of being with a bad boy. After something like 10 months I took a pregnancy test and he was on vacation abroad. I decided not to tell him and abort (although it is illegal in my country). I asked help from my bestfriend. she didn't agree with my decision, but helped me anyway, and at the last second, she couldn't fight it anymore and she told him. he took the first plane back home and stopped me from doing it. it's been three years now that we're happilly married. He had a very bad father, who fucked his life up and who was the main reason behind all his bad behaviour. and I love how he promised to do his best to be a better father to our son than his father was to his. this baby changed his life and was like the ticket to his redemption.
don't do anything unless you talk to him first
What you do is entirely up to you and him. Talk to him, find out if you would be a single mom or not. If you know your pregnant, it's too late for Plan B, that's an emergency contraceptive and should be taken within 24 hours. Take your own morals and upbringing into account. Do what you know you can live with. That's my advice.
If I were you and were to follow my own advice, I would keep it. I was raised, and believe myself, that abortion is an option for anyone. However if I get pregnant and the sex was consentual, have and keep the child and raise it as best I can.
Depends on your own personal belief and no one should make that decision for anyone else. If you are religious, against abortion, already bonded to the baby in you, think you will regret it then keep it. If you are pro-choice, sure you can't do this or are not ready, then get an abortion or do plan b (depending on when it happened... by the time you know your pregnant plan B is out of the picture). In the end you have to do what is best for you and like I said that is no one else's place but yours.
Why'd you sleep with him in the first place? Don't punish the child for your bad decision making.
agree with you!!
Exactly this.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I'll never be in that situation as I don't fuck random people for the sake of it. But anyway! I would have the baby if I could afford it financially.
I would be wary of the likely intelligence of the child given the actions of the mother. Is there really an excuse for getting pregnant when you don't want to these days? Putting aside rape and contraceptive failure, both of which are rare, is there any other good reason? If you allow yourself to create a baby when you don't want one, or when you aren't even sure of the integrity of your partner, then you are both pretty fucking stupid.
I agree. It's pretty bad
it's not only her fault, why do people like you shame the women involved when it's normally the men that go on for months about stopping using condoms. when does a woman ever try to persuade a man to stop using condoms? it just doesn't happen, rather than shame this woman for being in an extremely difficult situation why don't we try to help advise her on where to go from here? you should be ashamed of yourself, at your age too, to still be acting this way towards women
If you play Russian Roulette you shouldn't be surprised if you get a bullet in the head. I can't understand how people can just throw caution to the wind and decide not to use protection. Even in the heat of the moment I've never lost my common sense. I've never thought, "Hmm, this vagina is worth being a parent for the rest of my life, I'll just risk it". Ignoring a possibly shitty outcome is not how human beings survive. You can't just close your eyes to the cliff that you're about to walk off. To get back to the core question though, it really comes down to the mother and her capability to raise a child. She doesn't necessarily have to go the abortion route, she could put the child up for adoption. It would just have been so much easier if she, and her partner, took precautions in the first place. He is equally to blame too, but he probably doesn't care much if he's a fuckboy. Until the first demand for child support comes in, then he'll care.
Nope. I don't have casual sex and this is just one of many reasons why, but if something did happen, I would most likely seek an abortion.
Because you're a pervert.
@Mercules_J Back off, nutcase.
Your behavior towards me has crossed into harassment territory. That is why I blocked you. I am open to a civilized discussion, but I am not interested in being attacked every time I post an opinion. Especially since you've proved yourself to be incapable of backing up your views with anything other than religion. Try being more respectful next time if you wish to continue a discussion with someone.
depends in the kind of society she is and the support system she has and also her financial status.
I don't believe in adoption coz a part of you feel abandoned the kid.
I would prefer abortion since I don't see an unborn kid as an alive kid
Wow your messed up. It's still alive in the womb. What does a paramedic check when aone goes unconscious, there paulse. A baby gets a heartbeat in the womb.
alright... you must be the blind religious kind. It takes 3-4 weeks to get a heartbeat... so abortion before that won't be murder according to you. consciousness n unconsciousness has nothing to do with heart beat but brain functioning... for example people in permanent coma, they are not conscious but alive second, I believe if one can't provide a good loving supportive environment for a kid... it's better to not let him come into this world n see him suffer neglect , abuse , etc...
A blind idiot that has no respect for life. Nope sinner. I did research you can have an abortion starting at 2 1/2 months. Those babies don't want to be killed by there selfish ungrateful parents.
what country are you in rae? if possible in your country I'd advise to have an abortion as early as possible to minimise the trauma, it's a horrible situation to be in but make the right decision for you, ignore these morons trying to shame you. if you need support just drop me a message x
Thank you... I'm not pregnant I'm just asking 😊 what people would do
That is the wrong choice,
Still my child and I will love and raise that child to have the greatest personality and respect for others.
I could never kill my baby, no matter who the father is. I would however fight for custody.
Moral: don't sleep with people you don't want to be your baby's father.
If Plan B is a viable option that's probably the way to go
Are you having unprotected sex or did the condom break or something? Why wouldn't you just take Plan B?
I am against abortion in most cases. However, I do believe that a child needs to grow up in a household with a loving mother and father. Life is hard, and a child needs to begin with the best start in life. If you approach the father, and he doesn't want to take any responsibility whatsoever, and you don't have any support, then I certainly don't blame women for choosing to abort. Sometimes, women aren't given choices.
hell no. I'm not sorry either.
be a fuck girl and get it over with.
I don't think i could cope on my own so anyone i was not in a relationship with i would not want there baby.. but i always use protection anyway.
abortion has never been a thing in my family and is frowned upon but by my own prospective I would never. l if I knew I couldn't handle it I would look for an open adoption.
Don't blame the kid for the fathers mistakes. I say that you keep him or her. You teach them your values and morals.
why have sex with someone who wouldn't be responsible for something we did when i know pregnancy is mostly likely the outcome
being responsible for someone you choose to be with is very important so you know what to expect
And in case it couldn't be avoided then i would just accept it so if i got pregnant with a fuck up boy baby i would keep it because its mine also its not like i was force
Yeah I'd probably keep it.
Yes, its not the child's fault that you slipped up.
With all the birth control methods out there... there isn't any reason for an unwanted pregnancy.
I would give the baby up for adoption unless he stepped up and helped me
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