22 years old and only dated one guy?

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Should I feel like a failure? My anxiety never let me date. I have a terrible fear of being sexually involved with someone and this is why I avoided dating. I am not afraid of physical pain but the idea of intimacy scares me. I only dated a guy for a short period of time. I was so sure I would fail miserably, but I think I did good. I had my first date at 20 and we made out at second date and cuddled. So I guess I controled anxiety pretty well. He did not even notice something wrong, only that I am „weird in a good way” What is wrong with me? Whenever a guy aproaches me I tend to reject him or run away. My cousin is 15 and she dated more guys than I did and honestly, I look so much better than her.

tinyclit · Accepted Answer

I think you're normal and doing well. Please keep dating. You'll eventually find a guy you like and who likes you. You'll become boyfriend and girlfriend then be able to enjoy making out and having sex with him on a regular basis. The best sex occurs in a relationship. Make sure you get lots of oral sex because that's the best. :)

ElissaDido · Accepted Answer

You should feel like a failure if you are 22 and dated 10 guys.
It means you can't keep up a relationship and always end up failing.
So no, it's the contrary.

I believe the least you date, the better. You should take your time analyzing the person before jumping into something romantic.

MaineEvent · Accepted Answer

I'm 21 and I also only dated one guy. I don't think the number counts as long as you had no regrets. :)
But if you're concerned with your anxiety, you should check if it's just because you're shy or not used to it or if it's something more. :)

Kayla45 · Accepted Answer

No, but it's something you can work on! That should give you the motivation to try your best and go out there and talk to cute guys. :)

MarkRet · Accepted Answer

I never had a girlfriend until I was about 25. I had a messed up life growing up and had to work out some issues, but I dug myself out of that hole.

You should talk to RJGravyTrain. She was a scared wallflower who grew into a tough-ass chick that isn't afraid of anything.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Love isn't about winning or losing (less serious relationships count too.) Don't let other people's expectations rule your life. Just move at your own pace and be comfortable with it, because in the end the one who has to walk is you.

saqib_parvaze · Answer

I am 24 and never dated anyone. Its ok. There's nothing bad in it 🙂

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

nothing wrong with that dude

mattmanyah · Answer

Don't worry about the quantity of guys dated but the quality. if you date 5 amazing guys that treat you well and build you up you are better of then the girl that dated 10 guys that tore her down... =) your doing great don't be afraid to deny guys if they ask to much you go this

zombiebabe · Answer

i don't think you should consider it as failure... no.. i think that taking your time with relationships is a good thing

GrumpyGoo · Answer

You are not a failure - I have never dated and I have never been in a relationship, I consider myself a WINNER.

johndoer · Answer

You probably have philophobia. Look it up. Having dated only on guy does not make you bad or anything. It's just you "different" from other. Everyone has different story so don't be too depress about it.

akadatank44 · Answer

A nothing is wrong with you that you are a failure dating wise. However. You let your anxiety take over and make it part of why you don't date. You know the issue as to why. Do you continue to solve it or seek treatment? Be proactive rather than reactive? Seeking new treatment methods when others don't work? Its one thing to have anxiety. Its another thing to let it control you and your life.

TomBradysJersey · Answer

For a girl no, If you were a guy you might be judged if you were inexperienced.

Nouman100 · Answer

No it is not a failure at all, you need not to worry for anything, just be confident and choose and clear you all likes and dislikes and do all according to your likes and not do that you dont like :)

singlebee · Answer

Loll yeaa anxiety, shyness, social anxiety ask gets in the way of dating... So yeaa you should go to a doctor to solve it!

TheFlak38 · Answer

So the amount of success or failure is determined for you by the number of dicks you had in your vagina? If yes, then how many dicks would you want to have tasted to not feel like a failure?

TallAnon · Answer

Dated more than me xD I'm almost 22

Enrique342 · Answer

Your really shy and u should first get to know the guy and be friends with him and then little by little you'll get to trust him and then one day marry him so be friends if u like a guy and get to know him more better