Caught my fiancé masturbating to the pictures of his high school crush. Should I be concerned?
My fiancé and I have been together since our freshman year in college. It is now 4 years later and we are living together, engaged, have a dog, and might as well be married already. Long story short, he and I were talking when we were driving. We drove by an adult store and I said let's stop! Our sex life has decreased a lot lately. Like once every 2 or 3 weeks. I will admit I'm not the best at initiating it, but I rarely ever turn him down. He just doesn't even try it anymore and even when I do start it he says he is too tired. I figured we could spice it up with some toys or stuff along those lines. He refused to stop. Said 'people back in the day, people didn't need that kind of stuff to have sex'. I jokingly said, "Okay, back then guys didn't have porn on their phones like you do so how about i put a security code so you can't watch porn on your phone and we won't stop at the sex store". He agreed so I did it. So two weeks later, and before you guys say poor guy for not getting to beat one off for two weeks, he did. He used my iPad and didn't delete the history. Well the other day we were with his family and he asked me to look something up on his Facebook. This is rare because he is protective of his phone but he was more focused on showing something he had saw on there. Well I went to search it and on his recents he had searched "girls bikini" and then after that the profile of his old high school crush. She was blonde, tall, perfect body and when we first started dating he told
me all about her. He always wanted her but she had a boyfriend all through high school. So I didn't say anything cause we were with his family and just put his phone down. I felt like I had been shot. I don't care if he watched porn or jacked off, but it was the fact that he was looking at her pictures. A girl who he knows personally and is in contact with. Am I overreacting? Is this why he doesn't care if we don't have sex? It makes me feel shitty about my appearance. Was it my fault?
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