How do you get an orgasm (girls) and how do you get a girl to orgasm (guys)?

[cheerchic1026]

i've been having sex since last summer...but I have yet to have an orgasm! the guy I'm with right now is amazing in bed and it feels so good when we have sex and I'm totally comfortable with him yet...still no orgasm so what gives? we've had sex probably about 20 times now and we've been having sex for about a month...also girls how long did it take you to get your first orgasm? during sex and like how long after your first time/ with a new partner...and guys how did you give your girlfriend her first orgasm with you?

[MlleCake]

The preponderance of women only orgasm from things other than standard vaginal intercourse. For most women, this means that it's a combination of oral and manual stimulation that will do the trick. Sometimes using toys.

But most of what you see in porn in wrong in terms of what gets women off, and there's no one just teaching it in your high school health class, and that is the most formal sex-ed most people receive.

Do you masturbate to orgasm regularly? If yes, show him what you like. If no, experiment. Have lots of foreplay, touching, fingering, oral until you are fully aroused. Be sure to have a good quality condom-save lubricant on hand. I recommend Sliquid Sea. Have fun playing together until you figure out what rings your bell. Trade touches and oral. See if you can reach an orgasm. THEN have vaginal intercourse if that is how he wants to orgasm. Or just keep doing whatever feels good.

You really have to push sometimes to have your orgasm take as much priority as his.

[MlleCake]

Cowgirl or woman-on-top tends to be the most orgasmic sex position for women because it provides more friction against the clitoral glans. That said, only 25-30% of women can orgasm reliably from vaginal intercourse, so, there's nothing wrong with you or your orgasms if you're not one of those women. All female orgasms originate in the clitoris no matter how you stimulate it, so it's not like there are all these different kinds of orgasms.

[Anonymous]

Hey girl I know exactly how you feel. I've been sexually active for almost 2 years now and I still haven't been able to orgasm during sex. I have only had one orgasm but it was from oral. Maybe you could get your boyfriend to give you oral and then right before your about to cum, start having sex. Sorry I couldn't be more help. I need to figure this out too because it is driving me crazy. And I agree, sex with my boyfriend feels amazing, but I still can't come :(

[cheerchic1026]

Haha well I'm glad I'm not the only one then! lol...i heard maybe if you try doggy style because his balls can hit your clit...but I don't know I'll have to try it out thankss :) add me!

[sensual123]

While I’m taking her from behind I make my hand nice and wet and rub her clit. If I’m good she will have her orgasm while I’m penetrating her, if I come first I give her an orgasm by rubbing her clit or orally. Another way is to rub my penis against her clit without penetrating. I do this by either pressing the glans of my penis against her clit or rubbing her clit with the shaft until she comes. This also lets me feel how wet she’s getting, heightening my own anticipation.

[matthew88]

she had orgasms from the oral sex I gave her for two years while she was still technically a virgin.

[cheerchic1026]

What about from actually sex though? I have no problem with oral but I want both of us to be able to achieve an orgasm together not just one at a time...the sex feels great but still no orgasm lol thank you :)

[matthew88]

After oral... then you should both be able to get your timing down to hit it both at roughly the same time. That's just been my experience. I don't know how it works for others, but that has worked well for me and I've gotten a lot of post break up bonus sex :)

[cheerchic1026]

Haha thanks for the tips :)

[l-hedoniste]

I ask her what works, then I do what she tells me.

[cheerchic1026]

Haha simple and to the point

[smoorish]

There are a couple of ways, but the guy has to be agile. If you go for the doggy style, he needs to reach around while he's doing his business and stimulate your clit. My girl and I have had many orgasms together. If he can't get the hang of it, do it yourself. Play with your clit while he's in you. It will help and it might actually turn him on more.