My crush told me he jerks off to normal pictures of me. Does this mean he doesn't respect me or actually respects me a whole bunch?

Question

This man is 29, I'm 23, and I've been having this little flirt with him for around 3 months now. Haven't been on a real date yet, kissed or had sex. None of that yet. He's kind of shy, and has told me several times that he fancies me. I've known him for a few years, but lately we've been getting a lot closer. We talk every single day, both Skype and messaging.

But lately he's been asking for a lot of pictures of me. I honestly just assumed he wanted to see my beauty, but whenever I sent him one, he would go silent for a few minutes and then return. I'm very direct, and after he'd done it a few times, I just asked him if he jerked off to my pictures and he responded that he did, but that he felt like a sick person doing it and it's just because he "finds me so hot".

I appreciate honesty, so I thanked him for telling me the truth but still told him it seemed a little strange to me.
Does this mean that he respects me so much that he's basically choosing my pictures over any boobs and vagina on the internet? Or am I doomed to just be a sexual outlet for him? What's your experience and/or theory?

MrMysteryMan · Accepted Answer

Can we all just try and separate sensuality with love for a bit here? Why do we have to get into respect when we are talking about someone that wants to make you cum mercilessly and you turn him on so much that even with your close on he has to get off on you? This is mostly a physical attraction. In that, he is looking at a picture of you and wants to be with your sexually. Maybe, your personality, character, and/or voice is sensual to him as well, since you guys have talked/messaged one another. But, you're getting a little too deep into your thinking of those hedonistic instances. Going too far. I'm sure he does respect you, I'm positive he respects you. I don't know many people who actually like to talk to anyone they don't respect, unless they have to for their work or to gain something vital I suppose. I mean, you've known each other for a FEW years. That's a long fuckign time to put up with anyone you don't respect. But, don't get into respect and such when you're talking about someone showing lust for you. Than you start confusing things. Look at it from a, I suppose, more animalistic point of view. He met you a little while ago. He wants and desires pictures of you, your body, your face. He desires to see you on Skype or whatever. He probably loves hearing your voice, because you probably keep talking while he's "silent", so your voice to him is probably really sensual and gets him aroused. Mixed with your pics, this is what sets him off. He can't have the real you, or he thinks he can't. Maybe you think of him as just friends, but he wants to touch you and hold you and kiss you and finger you and taste you and rub every part of your body. This is a big desire for him. I'm sure he imagines or fantasizes about you, either while you're talking or when you're not around. Maybe he wants to date you, but from what you explained, it's at least a lust for you. Respect, judge that on how he talks to you and treats you outside of the sexual aspect. Maybe use sex when you guys (if you guys) actually have sex together, than judge from how he touches you if he respects you. But don't use masturbation with respect. It's just two different attitudes and positions of though.

1988fido · Accepted Answer

Masturbation is not related to respect
Wth u got that connection from?

Now the fact he told u truth he does respect u.

The fact he masturbate to normal pics of u. Means u r so freaking hot in his eyes. U get him aroused and most likely he have crush on u the minimum if he don't like you already.

MikkiM · Accepted Answer

i think that is a disrespect

and thats rude

if he really likes you, he will wait for you to be ur boyfriend
i think opening up those topic, will be much more acceptable, if he is honest enough
then it is a good thing,.

but I think a guy who jerks off
i guess its not flattering to hear

it sounds like he is desperate and lack of confidence to win ur heart first

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I dont think its disrespectful. He probably finds you attractive. You should probably meet though and he can see u uo close😂

Ssr1368 · Answer

Neither. We grown up boys don't think of women as godlikes creatures, therefore even if we love or like someone a great deal, we can still enjoy some experiences like jerking off thinking about someone we respect a lot. Notice tho that the more romantic Disney like the situation with a girl is, the less likely is jerking to happen.

kingofeverything · Answer

I think its weird af😂😂😂😂and he's a creep

Tim75 · Answer

Why though I mean just have some control and ask if you want coffee and then 6 months in boom

SpurtLover · Answer

I think you should just be complimented that he gets an erection from looking at your picture and that you make him so horny that he ejaculates his sperm in your honor. Doesn't that turn you on that you cause him to shoot his sperm?

genericname85 · Answer

it just means that he´s horny for you xD it´s not a respect thing in my opinion.

SmokemJay · Answer

Yea... that is VERY creepy keep your eyes peeled...

jivtks · Answer

it's actually very very sweet that he gets hard just by looking at your pic... if he gets off just by looking at your pic while jerking off.. you're one lucky girl to have such undivided attention..