Why is it ok for a girl to refuse anal but not ok for a guy to refuse to give oral?

Question

If a girl complains that her boyfriend won't give her oral then everyone's like "get a new boyfriend", "stop having sex with him until he does it", "he's selfish", "he's terrible in bed", etc... But if a guy complains that his girlfriend won't do anal then it's ok and people say "it's her decision", "she doesn't have to if she isn't comfortable with it", etc..

Comments from girls on G@G: "A real man will give oral sex", "a man who eats it like a champ is a REAL MAN!", "real men pleasure women any way that they have to"

Does this mean real women do anal?

420mom · Accepted Answer

Whatever, first off not all girls want to be eatin out. It's cool if he wants to, cool if he doesn't. my man has done it twice in the yr and half we have been together, I don't care either way. The whole dump him if he doesn't fails to remember sex isn't the only think in a relationship.

as for anal sex... don't pressure the girl, that's not everyone's cup of tea, and even if she's willing it's not comfortable at first, actually its legit painful at first, and you should never coerce someone into it if they don't want to or aren't ready.

sex in a relationship shouldn't be "well I did this for you, now you have to do this for me" it should be able bringing pleasure to your lover, not yourself. when you bring your lover pleasure first and foremost, you will find an ever more intense pleasure and intimacy then ever before for yourself.

bc1989 · Accepted Answer

anal hurts, it can lead to tears in/around the anus that take forever to heal because they reopen every time you pass a stool

it's excruciatingly painful each time this happens

I'm all for anal with the right person but I completely understand and respect why so many women aren't into it

in contrast going down on a woman does not result in a probable physical injury, this act is often reciprocated by the woman going down on her boyfriend also thus being even if you're so concerned about pointscoring

I'm not sure if you've ever experienced a guy trying to force his dry dick into your arsehole when you're telling him to stop but many women have and this is why they are so clear with men from the outset that it is unacceptable and they are not ok with it, to help prevent it from happening again

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think guys should only refuse to give oral if they do not let their girl give them oral. It's not fair for guys to expect women to give them oral and then not return the favor. As for anal, there isn't anything to compare this to. The girl gets nothing from this, only the guy. Women should not have to do anal if they are uncomfortable with it. Besides, it's not like she expects you to let her do you up the ass.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Oral sex is directly stimulating a girl's clit and vagina, which are our erogenous zones just like a guy's dick. A girl's anus is not an erogenous zone like a girl's clit or vagina or a guy's dick. So to equate a guy refusing to give oral with a girl refusing to receive anal is like comparing apples to oranges.

kingofeverything · Accepted Answer

Lmao damn I've never thought about this. But I feel like we should be able to say no to oral if we don't want to. We both should. Personally I love going down but for the guys that dont, I don't think they should be treated like they're "not a man" because they dont like to do it. I've dated a girl that wouldn't give bjs, which sucked so bad😭😭😂. Girls aren't treated differently because they won't do specific acts. Lmfao this is a double standard I've never even thought of😂😂

spenzer · Accepted Answer

i thought this was a funny post as usual. But u seem pretty serious this time 😏

kaylaS91 · Answer

It's not okay for a guy to refused oral? Hm. The only place I hear that is from men online in posts like this. ^

BluesLame · Answer

Oral is not the same as anal. Not to mention, would you want anything up your butt? Also, men have a stimulate in their prostate that ACTUALLY makes anal feel good for them. Women do NOT have that.

curiousnorway · Answer

I hasn't heard about this before. But I thinks every parts should be allowed to refuse if they don't want to do something.

snowangle · Answer

If your lady got really turned on by penetrating you with a huge dildo, would you be a loser if you said no?

Of course not. It's not a fair comparison - giving oral and receiving anal. It'd be more like if a girl refused to give oral herself - which people do typically try to persuade her out of. Anal is not for everybody, but oral is something that almost everybody could learn to tolerate.

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

Wait I thought you like men not women?  ... and I would do it but he has to ease me into it.

mandysugar · Answer

First: If a girl does oral to you then she expects it reciprocated.  Second: if you dont want a finger up for but then its normal if she doesn't want a dick.  Oral is different to anal.

blueprincess4177 · Answer

._. *face palm* because one is penitration and the other is just using your tounge smh... one hurts and the other doesn't if we have to suck a dick your gonna eat her out._. keep it even

realperson02 · Answer

because... double standards or personal preferences

Wilfried · Answer

there is nothing glorious about anal...

cattertone · Answer

well anal is a lot more painful than oral, so that's a good reason. why don't you want to go down on her?

dolemite68 · Answer

thats apples and oranges man, eating a girl out isn't a painful thing to do for ulike anal can be for her

Enrique342 · Answer

Anal hurts them and oral they love it cuz they love sucking it

Marinepilot · Answer

Hypocrisy.

Anonymous · Answer

Because those are two completely different things. Anal can be very uncomfortable and even painful in some cases.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really. As anal doesn't compare to oral. Theyre not even matching. Oral works both sides.  Basically its like if a girl refuses anal so should a guy. You can't trade one thing for another