Had my first kiss today, felt nothing special. What's wrong with me?

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I was more bothered because I had feelings for her, kissing her was one of my wildest dream, we met 7 months back and became best friends. I never tried because I didn't wanted to ruin that. I guess it didn't felt special because I was thinking a lot when she kissed me, I was thinking where would our friendship go from now, secondly we were little drunk, it was unexpected. However, I told her today I want to kiss her when we are sober. We did and believe me it was special. Thanks everyone
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I think our perception of love has put too much fantasies in our heads without really giving the understanding of what love really means.

    I hear many people question the same and guaranteed they bring up having some type of magical and fantasy analogy from movies, tv, or book.

    Yes, it does exist. You can feel all the special things. You can have sex, kiss, voyeur, etc... and still not feel anything special. Why do you think that is?

    Many want the good but forget the context. Have you ever looked at a picture of food outside of a restaurant and imagine how good it'll taste? Yet, once you taste it, it didn't meat your expectation?

    That's how you and many are. You two weren't kissing truly out of understanding love. There was excitement but understanding love is different. So you two kissed imagining something magical will happen. All of a sudden, there is a bleakness... "What? That's it? But.. but..."

    Too many redundant stories. Bottom line, ones done with genuine understanding of love knows that it is much more magical than those who do with false expectations.

  • Nothing, it's not like a whole choir is just going to pop up and sing, it's like many things, also you may have just been expecting to feel more than you were ever going to feel.

Most Helpful Girls

  • My first kiss didn't feel that special either.
    My heart was fast for a while after, but there weren't any butterflies or anything :v
    But after a few kisses they started to feel amazing, and they became the best thing ever! :D
    Maybe it just wasn't what you expected?

  • I had my first sex and I asked the guy "Is this really it? Nothing special and enjoyable?" And he was the right person at the time for sure, and for the next three years.

    Happens.

    • at least she felt special. She told me today she is feeling butterflies in stomach just by thinking of it. Hope it feels amazing next time.

  • There's nothing wrong with you. You just weren't feeling it. I had the best kiss of my live 2 weeks ago and felt it more than any other kiss.

    • Seeeee! I'm glad you got a do over :)

    • Thank you:)

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  • Kissing doesn't necessarily have to feel special. It's the person that makes it feel special and not the actual kiss.

  • What do you want? a cookie?
    It is just a kiss. Why would you expect to feel anything?

  • Do you have feelings for the person you ve kissed?

  • Nothing is wrong with you. Kisses are not always special.

  • May be you're gay or asexual.

    • because first kisses are supposed to be special

    • Nah i am interested in girls.

  • Nothings wrong with you, you just need to have it with the right person

  • Maybe you had too high expectation for it and was deceived?

  • It means you don't have any connection established with the person you kissed. No chemistry

  • Maybe you were thinking too much? No clue I'm still waiting for mine too

    • Now that I think back a girl did kiss me before but not on the lips on the cheek (and she thought I was someone else) but i was so happy really good feeling but I didn't even like her so I don't know

  • not you, no much emotions to the person you kissed

  • my first kiss was forced, it felt nothing special either. I didn´t like it. And in your first kiss you are nervous and thinking about if you are doing is right or wrong more than enjoying the moment i think.

  • It happens sometimes.

  • nothin. there probably just isn't that chemistry between you two

  • nothing. I felt nothing also

  • Hmm maybe you weren't attracted to her.

  • you and the person probably didn't have chemistry, meaning u weren't actually into them (PROBABLY)

  • your not in love

  • Nothing i had mine and i felt nothing special it gets better ask u keep kissing and things start going faster like right now im in that stage where even when we are ar work i pull him into a bathroom to makeout with him til he has to stop from getting hard

  • You were not in love with her. There is nothing wrong with you.

  • Are we talking a peck on the lips, or like full making out?

    • I guess partially making out 😅

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