Girlfriend wants a threesome...but with another guy! What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Joined this site purely to get a female perspective on what might be going through my gfs head lol.
Basically we have been in a relationship for 18 months (6 of which we were friends with benefits). I'm her first proper boyfriend, she's 24 and I'm 25 whereas I've had several relationships. We have roleplayed about theeesomes in the past but that was more my idea to get her off not expecting it to ever become a possibility.

She has always maintained, during conversations in the past that she could only have a threesome with another guy, she'd never be able to have one with another girl.
We have a healthy sex life although I work away in Toronto (3 hours away) during the week so only get to do it on a weekend.

Recently she has shown a lot more interest in having another guy, we talk about it (roleplay) a lot more than we use to and she now requests it. I talk about it because I know she likes it and I want to make her happy, the fact we roleplay about it doesn't really bother me.
I'm now wondering if I should consider maybe signing us both up to somewhere and introduce another guy for her?

Why all of a sudden is she more interested in having other men?
Could she possibly be bored of our sex life and fantasising about this to herself?
How would you recommend I'd deal with seeing her with another guy?
So many more questions going through my head, I just want to make the girl I love happy.

[Anonymous]

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Not talked about this with anybody else, lol, and not ready to discuss in public EVEN here, hahaha
Sun, May 28 04:29 PM
Do it anon
Sun, May 28 04:30 PM
Possibly. The male responses are VERY negative indeed.
Sun, May 28 04:31 PM
Well duh
Sun, May 28 04:32 PM
Meaning, lol?
Sun, May 28 04:33 PM
Predictable and in denial
Sun, May 28 04:36 PM
They would not like that, Cheerie, they really would not, lol

Anyway, his questions are

Why all of a sudden is she more interested in having other men?
Could she possibly be bored of our sex life and fantasising about this to herself?
How would you recommend I'd deal with seeing her with another guy?

And I don't know the answers to any of this, either, hahaha

I shall try anonly, however
Sun, May 28 04:37 PM
Lol ok. I won't waste my time
Sun, May 28 04:38 PM
Have a quick proof read

It could well just be a fantasy. My girl has been quiet up until very recently about this, but it appears that lots of women do have this as a fantasy.

It also doesn't mean she's bored of your sex life. She may just be interested in doing something different.

As for dealing with seeing her with another guy, I can't help you with that one, I truly cannot.

Ultimately, it is up to you as to whether you take this any further, as it doesn't sound as if she's holding a gun to your head about it. It's good that she trusts you enough to communicate openly, though.

There are clearly a lot of other posters on this thread who wouldn't engender that kind of trust.

[thatguyfromtoronto]

Fuck that, she wants a threesome? I would walk away from the relationship and say go fuck the dude for all I care. If a guy even said that to his girlfriend, like yo can your best friend come sleep with us and I get to bang the both of you is ridiculous.

She doesn't seem to be serious at all for a long-term commitment in a relationship and it's more about her fulfilling her sexual desires. If you want to adore the ground she walks on go ahead, if you don't want anything serious either then sure go for it if you want.

But I find threesomes a little screwed up, I found them to be sexy and funny at the same time when I was a teenager, now when I hear that shit I shake my head and think wtf?

I know people will read my comment and give me a ton of thumbs down but I don't give a fuck, I am not on this site for the sole purpose of others simply agreeing with some idiotic.

[Warmapplecrumble]

She loves you, threesome is just a fantasy lol.

Being centre of attention feeling many men love her and adore her. It gives a lot of power to the woman.

Maybe she wants to feel what double penetration or giving blow job to another guy while having sex with you feels like.

I doubt it means anything more than a fantasy.

I mean what woman wouldn't want to be pleased in bed by many men who love her? It's a very common fantasy.

It's really up to you... how jealous you are lol to allow it. If you feel like you will regret it, just keep it as roleplay and maybe by a dildo or something so you can do double penetration :-)

[Warmapplecrumble]

Buy******

[Hassaniscool]

I'm guessing you been in an orgy before

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Hassaniscool lol I wish

[Hassaniscool]

What is ur preferred dick size

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Hassaniscool 6'

[Hassaniscool]

m bigger than that. Want to try?

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Hassaniscool no thank you, I don't like big guys

[Hassaniscool]

Slightly big, one time?

[Hassaniscool]

never mind ignore

[Anonymous]

I'm like her, I could do it with two guys, but not with another girl. My boyfriend understands and is OK with that. If it doesn't seem fair to you, then don't do it. She'll understand because it just makes sense. Don't talk about jealousy and crap, just say it's not fair and be done with it. If you can get past the unfairness, then let her have her fantasy. She will love you for it. Many women would envy her for having a great guy like you.

[Asker]

I fear that this will harm our relationship

[Opinion Owner]

If you get jealous or angry, then yes it could be a disaster. But that's all on your side of the deal. She's not going to leave you for the other guy. Why would she? Communication is key. Tell her that the idea turns you on, that's why you do the role playing. But tell her you aren't sure you could handle it. There are ways you guys can test the waters without going too far.

[Asker]

Have you done it threesomes?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, but never with another girl. That won't work for me. My advice to all the guys that want an fmf threesome, is to not ask for it. She will immediately think she's not good enough for you. Get her going on mfm threesomes. Do everything you can to make it a good experience for her. Treat her like a queen, and someday she might return the favor. But NEVER ask her to. Let her offer.

[Asker]

With whom your 3some?

[Opinion Owner]

Why does that matter? Do you want names?

[Asker]

I just want to get help

[Opinion Owner]

What help do you need?

[Asker]

What are threesome rules?

[Opinion Owner]

You would have to make up your own rules. That's where communication is the key to all of this.

[lord_chilled]

Do not listen to her man, women say and do different things. I have heard about cuckolds whining how their "loving , emotionally faithfull" wives eventually left them for a guy who they fucked with. If she gets attracted to the guy, or if he is better in bed, they will leave at some point.

[lord_chilled]

And you said you fear that it eill harm the relationship. Thats all you need to know. Thats your gut telling you to end this nonsense.

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled I really don't care what he does. He can make his own decisions. Some guys are not secure enough to handle this. And when I say, "some," I mean most. He has to figure out where he fits on this spectrum. I personally couldn't handle seeing him with another woman. I freely admit that. My guy is more secure than I am. Let's assume the other guy is better in bed, why would she leave her guy for him? Her guy lets her have both. Why would she possibly want to end that? Those other guys are just sex toys.

[lord_chilled]

It has less to do with "security" and more to do with "protective instincts". If a man lets his woman have sexual relations, he is allowing her to be vulnerable to other men, they could abuse her, pass stds to her or impregnate her. All of which are bad to the man, most of which are bad to the woman. Any man true to his nature would not be okay with that. Which is why its common knowledge that a "real man" would never allow such a thing. A man who doesn't have said feelings and reactions therefire is biologically and evolutionarily a lesser man. Now people can cover up lack of spine and balls by claiming to be secure and stuff, but it doesn't change anything. And as for your question why would a woman leave her man, when she can get both, that sounds logical enough for me for her to keep reaping the benefits. But they still do it. Now if i had to guess i would say its because one of the side guys falls for her she falls for him as well

[lord_chilled]

And since the side guy starts displaying the traits of a dominant man, she will start to get attracted to him more so than her current partner. Id presume thats the reason... But the last part is speculation based on the things i mentioned in the comment before

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled You're comment was a very intelligent one, but it sounds like you want to speak on behalf of all guys. That's why this guy needs to choose for himself. Most guys would feel emasculated by this. They love to watch it in porn, dream about it, but in real life they can't go through with it. In most cases it's best to let fantasy, remain as fantasy. You're right. Most women like a dominant, alpha male. So if a man decides to delve into this world, he needs to remember that. If the man acts like a sissy/wimp, then he might stand a chance of losing her to another guy. If the man is dominant and confident, I don't think there's a snowball's chance in hell that she would leave him for this boy toy. She would be insane to do that. Let her know that you love her, and that she's YOUR woman. The man has to make this be about him. If you put this on her, the guilt will be too much for her. Tell her how hot is was for YOU to share her, and how lucky YOU are to have her.

[lord_chilled]

Cont. Of what i wrote on cheergirls thread. by the way, wow, did not know i got to you that much 😅.. You really shouldn't just block someone in midst of an argument.. It may seem analogous, cheergirl, but its not the same. I have seen arguments regarding homosexuality, and i can't say i really have an opinion on it. But im sure its not a mental illness. That being said, we still really dont know enough about it. Research hasn't yet completely agreed on wether its nature or nurture, but people just assumed its nature and now its gotten politically incorrect to even say otherwise. I dont have a problem with that because, hey at least it may be curbing some of the hate towards gays *cough* it doesn't, homophobia still exists sadly *cough*,,, But now people are just doing it with everything, without proper information or knowledge, assuming everything different is okay and should be accepted. Well maybe you should think that sometimes something may NOT be correct, may NOT be okay, and may be bad.

[lord_chilled]

Fair enough. Personally, i dont think it can be done (making her feel like she's your woman when you share her) but ok thats what i think. by the way, the last comment won't make much sense to you, its just my last oeace on another thread here, which i couldnt post as i was blocked. Ignore that, i just had to post it somewhere , i hate not being able to post something i spent 5+ minutes writing 😂😂😂

[CheerGirl38139]

Leave me out of it Dilbert. I just blocked you to keep you from spamming MY opinion. I give no fucks about you LOL. No one "wins" an Internet "argument". There's no such thing. You're just being intentionally obtuse and I have no time to continue perpetuating your fucktardery. You're going to keep saying the same shit over and over and trying to project YOUR views on others, all the while acting like you are somehow the only "free thinking" one. Nah mate... it doesn't work that way. ;)

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled So now it's my turn. Supposedly the most popular male fantasy is to have two women at once. Assuming one of these women is the love of your life, how would you expect her to respond to this? I'm not saying that this is what you want, but you're smart enough to get my point. If your wife/gf said she would let you have a fmf threesome for your birthday (and you agreed to it) do you think you'd run off with the other girl?

[lord_chilled]

Okay, you are right about that not being my fantasy, and i really do not think ffm is that high on the fantasy list, but lets get to the point.. So im thinking of two responses, my own hypothetical one, and one of a random man with a different personality and desires. Say if i wanted a ffm 3some for my birthday, that eould imply that i would want another woman besides/in addition to mine , in bed. However that wouldn't override the rest of my personality. And i would definitely think she would respond negatively to the suggestion. Best case scenario , she will say no and be grumpy for a while, worst case she may be deeply offended and leave, till i apologize. In case she did say yes, and was planning to actually go along i would just make sure that i will still try to make her feel special (which is a genuinely difficult task in an ffm ) and try not to offend/ignore the other girl too much.

[lord_chilled]

Purely physically speaking i won't lie, i would probably be aroused, but at the same time,, i would feel rather bad about the fact wether my wife was doing ok,, so i will not be able to completely enjoy it. In this case running off with the other girl is not a question since i dont like her in the first place and even if the premise is that the sex was better with her, i wouldn't do it, but usually that won't happen since i couldnt make most of the sex session. Now for the other an who doesn't have reservations about ffm, enjoys the sex and at least during sex isn't worried about his womans feelings, if he does indeed enjoy the sex better than with his wofe, there is a slight chance that he may run off with her. However, since his feelings for his wife are much, much stronger,, most likely he still won't

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled That's all interesting, but you never answered my question. I know that this is not something you want, but this is just a hypothetical/philosophical discussion. So it's your birthday and for whatever reason, you get to have your girl and one other girl at the same time. Are you going to have thoughts of leaving your woman for this other girl? I just don't get that concept. I don't care who you are on this planet or how "hot" you are, there is ALWAYS someone hotter and better than you. When your girl goes to the grocery store, she will find men that are more attractive than you. And it's the same thing in reverse.

[lord_chilled]

Okay sorry i got carried away in that scenario. No i wouldn't. I wouldn't run away with the other gurl, i wouldn't leave my girl and i won't be thinking about it. But thats me, im sure i can't represent 100 percent males on this. There will be men who will at least think about being with the other girl. And yes, its because of looks , but also in combination with good sex. Some guys may just enjoy the sex with the other girl a lot more and end uo fantasizing or even doing it. Im sorry if thats shocking to you, but it does happen. A lot actually. Now let me ask you this:" which guy, is more likely to leave his woman for the other 3sum partner? The man was really looking to banging a new chock or the guy that just wanted to be with his wife. You may disagree with me, but i think a guy who was already interested in fucking another woman is more likely to leave than a guy who didn't want to do it in the first place.

[lord_chilled]

And its not just men, the same goes for mmf in women. I admit that looks dont go that much for women as they do for men and they will most likely not leave their oartner for someone because they look hotter. However, women are attracted to dominant behaviour. Women also like feeling wanted. And a guy who wants a woman all for himself is gonna exite her more than a guy who is ok sharing her. She may like the mmf in the beginning, not even thinking of the possibility. And im not saying this hapoens straight after the 1st or 2nd mmf. But over time, a woman may start feeling resentfull, at least subconsciously that her husband foesnt quite love her that much,, and then comes along a new mmf oartner who dusplays more dominant behaviour and is more possessive in bed. She feels more desired and wanted by him, and growing resent ment for her current man combined ith this new desire will cause her to leave him. Not saying it happens always.. But it happens a lot

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled You have many valid points and well thought out opinions. Now I'm curious to ask you a question. Imagine you had a crystal ball. You could see into the future. You knew for a FACT that having threesomes with your lady wouldn't harm your loving relationship. Would you do it? If you would, which type would you have?

[lord_chilled]

Sorry, i fell asleep, it was getting laye here. Well, even if i knew it wouldn't do any harm i still wouldn't do it. Beside the fear of breakup, i simply do not like 3somes. Mfm, i dont like it as i dont want to sharr and to a lesser extent, i dont wanna see another nude guy. Ffm, there's simply too many boobs , asscheeks, and openings 😂.. I kinda need to focus, and two girls are simply overwhelming... Now for your second oart question, do i have to choose one?

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled I don't think the fmf fantasy is practical unless the girls are bisexual, or at least bi-curious. If she was, you wouldn't have to worry about all of those boobs and holes in YOUR face. :)

[lord_chilled]

Hehe. Okay yeah. Or if the two girls are worshipping the same guy (im thinking thats what guys want with this fantasy), like one girl is kissing while the other is fucking him or something like that. But then the girls wouldn't get much out of it. And im not saying i wouldn't like seeing a lot of boobs in my face.. Im just saying that i eoulfnt be abke to focus and give pleasure like if it was only ine girl. Which is important to me

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled That's why the whole FMF fantasy is mostly just a fantasy. It's a GUY fantasy. Who wouldn't want to be the center of attention, and not have to bring anything to the table. The same guy who wants a FMF, would never consider a MFM or inviting another couple. He want to be able to have his cake and eat it too. (pun intended, of course)

[lord_chilled]

Haha, nice pun. You know what, maybe i was a bit too harsh with this whole subject. You are alright. I can't blame a woman for wanting two guys at the same time. As long as she respects her guys opinion, that is. What upset me, is seeing how many dudes here actually would go for it. Giving up their own manhood for the oleasure of their woman.. Just seemed sad

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled If you think of it as giving up your manhood, then you should never do it. That last thing you want is to lose respect for yourself. I've never heard of a guy who dreams about a fmf that is doing it replace his woman. I think it's all about the thrill of having two girls at once. But guys look at it differently when it's a MFM. They always think they are being replaced. They always make it about her wanting the other guy. She doesn't want one-on-one with that other guy, she already has her wonderful one-on-one guy. If you could ever figure out how to French kiss a girl and eat her pussy at the same time, your book would be a number one best seller. I'll buy the first one and give it to my boyfriend. Hell, I'll by a case of them and give them out at Christmas.

[lord_chilled]

Yeah i guess the thrill is what its about. Well, any girl that wants to be with me will have to settle for one at a time. I got two hands but not two mouths lol. And if that won't do it for her, then its not gonna work out. Actually, me and my roommate talked about doing a mfm 3some with a random girl. i didn't bring it up, was a coincidence! He said he would be up for it. I said i wouldn't. But thats a random girl. Hed never share HIS girl. In fact i dont know any guys who would do that irl. I can't even imagine that. Do you and ur boyfriend actually do that, or is it just something you talked about?

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled We do it. It all started with watching porn together, and talking about things we might like. If you're not even interested in doing it with a random girl, then you sure as hell don't want to bring your girlfriend into this. It sounds to me like this is a complete turn off for you, and that's OK. And any lady you're with will be happy with just you. This isn't something that's a daily event, it's more of a special treat. My advice would be to stay away from this stuff. I just had an interesting thought. Why are you interested in a topic that you're not interested in?

[lord_chilled]

You mean me commenting here or talking aboit it with my roommate? I guess by now, both you and me know that i can't see a guy actually enjoying this activity. Therefore, as i saw the title, i naturally tought that this guy was being taken advantage of and being hurt. In my defense, there were a few comments from the op, that would have you think he isn't along with the idea. So i just decided to give my advice. On here i found answers from women that made me think wether you understand men at all, and some answers from men that made me wonder were they men at all. I mean im used to seeing outrageous stuff here, but this particular type of yhing always shocks me. If you meant me talking with my roomie, well lets just say in our apartment, he's the sexually adventurous type and im the prude. He likes to ask about what kinks i have, thinking i must have some more hidden kinks he doesn't know about (the truth is im simple when it comes to sex). The other day he just asked about this randoml

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled Sorry, I think my last reply was confusing. Let me try a different approach. You and I both know the threesome question has come up a million times on here. Some people like it, and some hate it. I was just wondering how many people are on the fence about this, and want to hear what other people think. If you say you would never do it, then I believe you. I think that there are some guys who like the idea, but are afraid of losing their machismo. My boyfriend is a masculine alpha male, but he would be absolutely crushed if his friends knew what we did. I hope I'm making sense. There are many women and men who like to be spanked, but they probably wouldn't wear that on their T-shirt. :) (Maybe in Key West or San Fran)

[lord_chilled]

Oh okay. Well if you are asking me if i am on the fence, no im on the other side. Im a thinker, i happen to get deep into certain stuff that i dont understand that well, thats all. There is no way, id try that irl. I have watched both types of 3some vids in porn and they dont appeal to me. On a voyeurd view, mfm is simply too much man in screen and fmf is too much female goodies to hold my attention on one and confuses my brain and whenever i get close the woman or scene changes,,, Well, and as for real life, to me porn and real life are absolutely two different spheres altogether. Like, for example, i can absolutrely not think of a girl im with like the toughts i feel gor a pornstar. Its like in porn you are just watching a woman being fucked. It turns you on. But irl im not watching her being fucked, i dont even think im "fucking" her. Its like what im doing is, im making her mine. So thats the difference, i guess some guys over time they dont really see that difference anymore,

[lord_chilled]

And thus they can actually see a girl like they do in porn, and maybe therefore they wouldn't mind doing 3somes and other stuff. Im not saying all such fetishes and acts are porn induced, but maybe some are. And you said your boyfriend is an alpha male.(first off, i dont buy the alpha beta crap, so lets just say he is a dominant , confident man) If thats his true personality then i do have reason to believe his enjoying of this activity is porn induced. Maybe this wouldn't be something hed do if he had never watched porn. Im just speculating. And yeah, of course it makes sense. If he's that kind of man, he would definitely not want his friends to know. Now i realize you have a good thing going on. But if he's keeping it from his friends, then isn't he kinda being untrue of his nature? Not even saying you should stop doing it, its not even regular like you said. But if you haven't yet, ask him wether he ever felt resentment or guilt that he let it happen.

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled It's good that you're a thinker. It's also good that you don't lash out at others for having apposing views. You've made it very clear that this isn't your cup of tea, but you don't berate others who might be on the fence or actually do it. Like I said before, I would advise that people don't do it. It's too risky. But on that note, I would never jump out of an airplane with a parachute. I get why military people do it, it's because it's not an option. But why people do it of their own free will, is beyond me. I would never talk bad about those folks, but I might use the adjectives, "brave or crazy" lol

[lord_chilled]

Wow, the coincidences 😅. I actually had a friend who used to tell me he wanted to skydive with me someday. I just told him ill think about it. I mean what if something goes wrong and the parachute doesn't open up? Its simply too big of a gamble. I tought about that and i also tought about the mfm situation applying to him. Yeah i took a "light" beating from him because i accidentally bumped into his crush and apparently, my elbow had made contact on boob. His crush, not girlfriend. 😂😂😂 Even a crazy risk taker like that,,, I think you get why i can't imagine a guy doing this, i hang out with guys on the complete opposite end of the spectrum.

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled Alpha/Beta Sub/Dom These are just terms. People can make up their own minds what they mean. Some guys like to watch another men fuck their woman, because the crave humiliation. But most guys who talk about MFM wrongfully assume that all guys who are into this, are the submissive type. That's just not true. Some guys just love the thought/sight of it. It just turns them on. I once read an interesting discussion. A guy was asked if he liked looking at dicks, when watching porn. Of course the guy said no. Then the person asked him if he preferred videos of women getting fucked by big dicks or small dicks. He didn't even hesitate, he said BIG dicks. So he must have been NOT looking while he was looking. lol So many men would go for the fmf, because there is no risk to their ego. So many men fantasize about mfm, but suppress it, because of their ego. And I don't agree with you about my boyfriend not wanting people to know.

[lord_chilled]

Yeah i dont think thats because he wanted to see a bigger dick. I think he just wanted to see the girl getting fucked better (and guys think bugger dick = more pleasure for girl, no matter what girls say on the contrary) So he wouldn't be focussing on the dick, but he knows its there. But that too isn't as common as you think. Personally, i think the videos are better when the dude has a bigger dick, i think the women DO enjoy it better. But a lot of guys dont like to watch porn where guys are big, as their own dicks dont measure the sane, and so they can't enjoy it And again, i dont think that much guys are into mfm's as you think. You could be a bit biased, since you enjoy it and your boyfriend does it. So you may be thinking many other guys think of it as well. The thing is, it is simply unappealing on a visual and biological level to most men, so we dont like it. there's a big percentage of guys into fmf, but ones who like mfm are very low. But your right, even those who watch, dont do it

[lord_chilled]

*watch it, probably dont do it most of the time

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled I wasn't implying that mfm is common, because it's very rare. I just meant that the fantasy is common among men and women, but handily kept tightly hidden in the dark recesses of their brains. A women who expresses an interest in this would be considered a huge slut. A guy who expresses interest in this would shunned by all of his macho friends.

[lord_chilled]

Actually what i meant was even the fantasy isn't as common as you think. It maybe a lot more for women than men. I mean id expect more guys to think of an fmf than girls

[Opinion Owner]

@lord_chilled If your pal at work wanted a fmf with his wife and another girl, he'd brag about it in the break room with you. You could each high five each other and laugh. If he wanted a mfm with his wife and another guy, he would never say shit to you. And if they did go forward with it, they might even go out of state to make it happen. So I think the desire for mfm (for guys) is a lot more common than you think.

[Jemini_Crocket]

If it would be the other way around with two women and her not wanting to bring another gal, all guys would approve of this treesome and talk shit about the girl who doesn't want to.

Talk to her, she's prolly just fantasizing about it just like you are about other things for sure.

[guilly18butnot]

I don't fully agree. I would have a threesome with another man, not with another girl, in my relationship.

[Jemini_Crocket]

@guilly18butnot Well, you are in the rarity.

[guilly18butnot]

I know. However there's a big percentage of men who would not mind that much. Usually men with self confidence in bed and with a fulfilling past in sexual matters, comply with this. Also it is important that the relationship is very healthy in trust matters.

[Jemini_Crocket]

@guilly18butnot Yeah, that could work well if both would really trust each other. Such men are very hard to find though.

[Darkfairie17]

Talk to her. Try and figure out why she wants to bring another guy in. Maybe she is just fantasizing about having two guys enjoy her body at the same time? Perhaps that's a turn on for her?

It may not have anything to do with you and everything to do with her own sexual desires.

Ultimately though, if you are not comfortable with the situation, then don't agree to it. Make sure you are fully comfortable before doing anything with another person.

[Asker]

I fear that this will harm our relationship

[guilly18butnot]

Well, it is better that she proposes this to you instead of cheating all along.

She obviously finds your actual sexual life boring, or repetitive, or not exciting anymore, and wants to introduce new factors/actors to it. I don't mean that she does not find you sexually attractive or that she does not enjoy sex with you anymore, I mean that she needs new thrills to spice up your sex life.

And you should be happy that she tells you instead of finding that thrill elsewhere. It proofs she respects you and loves you, and would like to share her sexual desires with you and not by herself.

May you not be willing to comply, because you feel insecure about the view of her enjoying another man, then don't do it until you understand her desires and are in tune with them.

[Nmalinova]

I am sorry to say but probably she's not that into you anymore and wants to experience :-/ do you live together? Maybe try and increase the intimacy you have? She probably has a high sex drive and just fantasizes about more :-/ but then again maybe im giving ill adivce since im not into threesomes :-/

[Phantomium]

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[WriterAndPainter]

Totally just made the chewbacca sound lol

[Whycantijustcomment]

be careful. You just said you only see her on weekends. You might be setting her up with a weekday option.

[misstalia_95]

The thing about threesomes is both people have to be 100% on board with the idea. You can't go into it with any doubts otherwise it won't be fun and that defeats the purpose of the whole thing. By the sound of it, your girlfriend is bought in to the idea but you're not. So my advice would be to tell her how you really feel about it. If you don't want to do it, just say so. If she cares for you at all she'll understand.

[Asker]

Is it normal thing threesome?

[Whycantijustcomment]

Threesomes are normal. But both people have to be ok with the third for it to work. Had some with an ex because she was sexually attracted to girls too. It great. But I would have hated there being a third person, with a dick, I wasn't into. That makes it a gang bang.

[misstalia_95]

I'd have to disagree. I don't think threesomes are normal but that doesn't necessarily mean they're bad. They're a lot of fun but again, only if EVERYONE is 100% on board

[Asker]

Have you done it threesomes?

[misstalia_95]

Yeah but only one. I was the girl the couple asked to join them.

[Asker]

They are your friends? Why did they invite you?

[misstalia_95]

We met on a threesome dating app. We talked for weeks before we actually met up (they lived in another state but were planning a vacation where I lived).

[Asker]

Did you do that?

[misstalia_95]

Do what?

[Asker]

Did you have 3some with them?

[misstalia_95]

Yeah. It was fun but it didn't last that long. The wife drank too much and wound up passing out lol. I made out with the husband, then she went down on me and used a vibrator on me, she actually allowed her husband to be inside me, her and I made out, then I gave the husband a bj and then it was over lol. I didn't get a chance to go down on her.

[Asker]

This is fun :D

[ObscuredBeyond]

I'm not cool with the idea of threesomes in any arrangement.

[CheerGirl38139]

Guys here have a problem with this general concept. It's not even worth trying to explain it biologically or emotionally.

[lord_chilled]

And for good reason. Outsiders aren't supposed to be in a couples bed

[CheerGirl38139]

@lord_chilled oh for fucks sake that's not what I meant. And obviously it's not for everyone bruh. ✌

[lord_chilled]

Yeah im gonna go trump level ignorant on this one and say its not for anyone period

[CheerGirl38139]

@lord_chilled yeah. You should totally judge everyone else's sex life and personal morals... especially between consenting adults. Let's outlaw bisexuality and homosexuality while we are at it. Seig Heil. 🙋‍♂️

[lord_chilled]

Not really my thing, but ,, id provide unorthodox, non pc , unlicensed advice for consenting *cough* confused *cough* adults.. Since no one else seems to do it.. And i have no opinion on homo and bisexuality

[CheerGirl38139]

@lord_chilled wel *cough* a lot of morally *cough* hi ground peiple seem to think homosexuality isn't "supposed" *cough to be part of society. So you "UN-confused" *cough* people should get together and find your common platform... otherwise, you're coming off confused. :)

[VirginiaBeachBum]

Damn, @CheerGirl38139, they're coming out of the woodwork today, aren't they? Did school let out already? :-D

[lord_chilled]

I am not a momosexual or bisexual person, therefore i cannot pretend to even grasp how their behaviour and mating strategies work. And neither am i informed or experienced enough to make a decent statement/opinion on the matter. Therefore i shall refrain from doing so. On the other hand i do have an understanding of how straight sexual behaviour works and have somewhat (albeit limited) experience. Enough to understand whats healthy and whats not. Whats positive and whats negative. Whats constructive and whats destructive. What behaviour might be a consequence of abuse, low self esteem, low self confidence, and what are healthy and normal desires. Living in society that has gotten used to not offending what we percieve as strange, to the extreme point where we celebrate and embrace the ridiculous, and throw away any rational thinking,, im gonna say no, and provide alternative opinions. Now you can say i think im morally superior, but i really dont😄

[lord_chilled]

I just think some of you have lost touch with common sense, and i wanna help out. And that doesn't sound arrogant, and "looking down on ye" at all... 😂😂

[CheerGirl38139]

@lord_chilled bro that is the same antiquated self absorbed rhetoric that homophobes use for saying shit like it's a "mental illness". The only difference is... that society hasn't caught up to people with YOUR attitude yet. But try saying being homosexual is in some way a "low self esteem behavior" in this decade. Maybe your parents got away with that. Not now. Apparently you were born in the wrong generation.

[lord_chilled]

And what you are doing is continuing ignoring logic and reasoning like i just said before. Because, i must be related to homophobes, since im not very accepting of the ridiculous apparently. Im not gonna say homosexuality = related with low self esteem, and i won't defend people who say it either. But this is different alltogether. Im not born in the wrong generation. I just happen to be a wolf among sheep. I think for myself. I dont follow foolish ideologies. This direction of society has reached the slippery slope already. Tolerance for the necessaries have been applied now we are not just tolerating, but encouraging ridiculous behaviour. I just call it for what it is. Now i dont blame you for thinking the way you do. Us colleges do seem to have this effect with the whole liberal ideology stuff

[VirginiaBeachBum]

"I just think some of you have lost touch with common sense, and i wanna help out." @lord_chilled Ever consider people don't want your forced "help"?

[CheerGirl38139]

@lord_chilled Bro, you are SADLY mistaken. This is EXACTLY like people 20 years ago saying shit like homosexuality is deviant behavior or a mental illness. Now... you are taking what CONSENTING ADULTS decide to do in the PRIVACY of their own bedroom, and make it your place to tell them it's some sort of deviant behavior. I'm not "trying to do" anything. It's an exact analogy regarding the sexual preferences of ADULTS. I'm the last person to be a "sheep". And that's why I'd stand up to someone like you, trying to judge me for MY personal choices, which are none of your fucking business. :)

[lord_chilled]

@VirginiaBeachBum sure, sometimes kids think dont need daddys help 😏. Lol, well i this case you are right, i can't really help you, im just stating my opinion. I know im coming off as a prick right about now, but see when you act like that, this is how i see you. Just know i dont have any ill will towards either of you, k? Its all good

[VirginiaBeachBum]

@lord_chilled "I know im coming off as a prick right about now" Well, you got one thing right today. Merry Christmas to you. You stated your opinion. Please just move along now.

[CheerGirl38139]

@lord_chilled it's not "all good" bro, as you decided to insert your fucktarded ideology into MY opinion, and decide to insinuate (conveniently) that you "cant take a position on homosexuality" - I'm guessing you would say the same about transgender people and public restrooms - but it's easy to take the chicken shit bully bandwagon of disapproving of MFM threesomes... because that's till "OK" here on G@G.

So, who's really "thinking for themselves" and who's taking the populist approach to what is and isn't sexually "OK"?

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[TazWax]

Maybe it was always something she fantasized about and since you brought it up she thought maybe you would be into trying with her.

There is a chance she could be but you really should just talk to her about it rather than get in your head to deep about it.

If you do decide to do it make sure you guys come up with a deal like if you aren't cool with it at any point everything stops.

I really hope everything works out for the better.

[thatguyfromtoronto]

You know that can destroy a relationship, right? How can you even fathom the thought of someone you are within a relationship that you love and care about to have sex with another person while being with your spouse? This is not about trying to compromise, the poster (being this guy) should END IT. How would you like it if you were with a guy you really loved and he said, let me fuck you and your hot friend, I don't know man, maybe it's the age difference you are 21, I'm 31... I'm pretty sure 10 years from now you would think there's no way in f-ing hell I am going to allow my husband to have sex with another woman in bed.

[TazWax]

@thatguyfromtoronto I never said he shouldc ompromise I never even said try it for her sake. I'm trying to encourage communication between them. And of course it can ruin some relationships but it doesn't ruin all of them.

[thatguyfromtoronto]

Stating "making a deal" is a compromise. Solution: End it and move on.

[TazWax]

@thatguyfromtoronto I was saying if he decided to go ahead with it he should set rules that will make him more comfortable.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

DUMP. HER. ASS.

She's already fucking someone else (that's why the 'sudden interest'), she just wants you to approve and legitimize it.

Instead, tell her to hit the bricks.

[Rissyanne]

Do you really want to see another guy bang away at her? What if she enjoys it more than you? You are crazy if you do this.

[lord_chilled]

Finally someone with some sense

[Summerglo]

agreed!

[ScottSummers]

Sometimes i have a feeling you are the only female on this website who have a common sense

[Rissyanne]

@ScottSummers Thanks... but a lot dont think that at all.

[lord_chilled]

@ScottSummers thats because she has real knowledge.. Lots of people are too loud and dont think enough. They may not get her points. But she's the type of user on gag who you naturally respect.. And thats not very common here

[Rissyanne]

@lord_chilled Thanks you all are sweet. I think one reason I can see things from a man's point of view is because I raised a man. Well me and his dad.

[lord_chilled]

Your welcome 😄.

[ScottSummers]

@lord_chilled agree mate, i do naturally respect her and also some other users like @WriterAndPainter , i find myself liking her opinions every time i come across one because they are just awesome.

[lord_chilled]

@ScottSummers true

[WriterAndPainter]

@ScottSummers well thanks:)

[backspinGA]

Be honest with her about how you feel about it. If she respects your decision and the relationship then give her the benefit of the doubt. If she cannot respect that, then you have to make that tough decision and break up with her. Otherwise, you will regret it and cause much stress for yourself.

[Maik567]

This is what happens when you start pandering to your partners sexual fantasies at the expense of yourself. First of all the most important question is are you comfortable with it? Are you comfortable with the idea of her having sex with someone else even if you're involved? I know for sure that I wouldn't be but this is a question you have to ask yourself. If the answer is no then you need to tell her immediately that you're not ok with it. You honestly shouldn't have even started these roleplays if you weren't comfortable with it. Also you could easily call her out on her hypocricy of wanting a mmf threesome while being against the idea of a mff threesome.

Either way there is no way to know what's gonna happen if you end up doing it, more likely than not she's gonna like it and want to keep doing and that's gonna change how your sex life is right now, of course there is also a chance that she's just curious and it would be a one time thing but I doubt that.

[Bananaman177]

I can only tell you what I would do:

Break up with her immediately.

[GOOSEBOY78]

maybe it gets her off: thinking of you and another dude getting her off while he is giving it to you as well. ever thought of that? it may not just be she wants anal and vadge filled same time...

[Paultripps]

This threesome is usually not a good idea when in a relationship. I'd advise against it...

[VirginiaBeachBum]

I don't think it's all of the sudden. It's likely been in her mind before but by discussing it, she's felt more free about expressing her desires. When my wife and I started discussing it, she acted a bit hesitant but when she finally "warmed" to the idea, I found out she had the thoughts before but just didn't want to be the first to bring them up. Once we crossed that line, it was pretty easy for both of us to enjoy MFMs. You two need to seriously discuss the logistics, feelings, and potential ramifications before actually doing it, though.

[FakeName123]

Don't do it, if you aren't comfortable with it. Especially if she only wants it her way (aka 2 guys) and not being willing to do it your way (aka 2 girls)

[CoolSky01]

your girlfriend is a slut simply put, you're in for some shit brah

[CoolSky01]

lol notice how guys agree and women disagree, but its cool sluts are gonna hate anyway and since the guys are the ones who are gonna date you then its up to them to decide whats acceptable and whats not so their opinion is the one that matters

[RiderGirl]

Doesn't mean she doesn't love you just mean she's a kinky bitch like me lol, let her have it, fulfill her fantasy and I can tell you the love will come your way 10 fold

[Asker]

Have you tried?

[Pablo3000]

I must be your boy s best friend

[RiderGirl]

Yes, in fact I was in the same position, ex boyfriend wanted a threesome with another girl, we did it, or I did it for him.. risky or not we actually did it with my girl friend in school as I knew he found her hot.. so we did it, and afterwards I never felt More loved and appreciated.. not talking about immediately after, but in the months after.. we all did it a few more times, I probably enjoyed it more than him haha.. We broke up but not because of that, he moved far away..

[Pablo3000]

It seems like a contest

[Asker]

Did you in school?

[RiderGirl]

We weren't at school but we were in high school at the time

[Asker]

Did you do it with other men?

[singlebee]

Damn your ass is beautiful! 😉👌