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I found my boyfriend penis pump in our closet in one of his boxes along with a sock he beats off into. Should I confront him about it?

I found my boyfriend penis pump that he received within the last week. He said he was going to be receiving a package from amazon for some stuff he ordered. He did receive the package from Amazon but received another package the day before for his penis pump. He has no idea that I know he bought one. I found out because I saw it on browser history and also the tracking info link. My boyfriend and I have been together 10 years and have a good sex life. Lately though we haven't had it as frequent due to our different work schedules. We have sex at least 1nce a week. I'm not mad that he bought one it just bugs me that he feels the need to hide it. It's just like how I found porn on the tablet a while back and I asked him about it and he denied it. After though he admitted it and told me it's embarrassing and it's different when a guy watches it as opposed to a girl. He said it's hot thinking about me getting off to porn. Should I confront him about this penis pump? My boyfriend is pretty good size in that region, so I don't know y he feels the need to use one. I looked up the penis pump he bought and it says it's suppose to increase the penis size overtime if used on a regular basis. Should I leave the situation as is or say something? If I leave it as is it's going to bug me that's the only thing. I don't want him to feel embarrassed or ashamed he has one.
One more? Do penis pumps increase the longevity of sex only after freshly pumped or can it increase longevity of sex overtime with use of the pump?
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I guess I will just act like I don't know he has it. It still bugs me that he feels like he has to hide it. It starts to make me think if he's hiding other things, but that might just be my overthinking.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • The penis pump is meant to extend length, stamina, and girth. It supposed to help cause more blood flow into the penis after every use. 'Confront' is such a horrid word, just tell him you know about it and accept it. If you want to get him into the idea you're open minded, then let him know you think it's 'pretty hot' and he'll be more comfortable to use it and possibly tell you more things he may receive in the future.

    Also, pumps are also supposed to help intensify orgasms for men. Toys are great for men and women! c:

    • I agree that toys are great for both men and women. I have a couple and my boyfriend knows about them and we have used them. I don't want him to be embarrassed. I have always thought penis pumps were for men who had E. D. So overtime if he uses the pump regularly will that make him have a longer erection and last longer when we do have sex?

    • The answer to your last sentence, Yes! It's supposed to help in bed longer than now! It also does help men with E. D. but that's not the case here. Like I said, to ease into it let him know you think it's hot and why not educate yourself a bit more by assisting him with using it or maybe watching him do it. Sometimes it's nice to watch a partner do his or her thing.

    • i would confront and encourage play with him, let him look at porn while you sucking him use his pump on him. i had a girlfriend that bought me toys and pump she love to see it grow in pump and then she has a plump hard penis that she likes in her mouth.. it kinda weird but i like when she lets me watch porn or watch me play with toys

  • He probably didn't tell you because it's embarrassing for him.
    Just ask him about it, he shouldn't be embarrased to have toys of his own.
    Even in a relationship people still want to get off by their lonesome.

    • I never thought that a penis pump is considered a sex toy.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Don't worry about the pump.
    When you manage to get the time or energy for sex do you both make it exciting for one another?
    You say it's good but could it be better?

    • It can always be better. I have boughten some lingerie a couple weeks ago and I'm going to go to the adult store and shop around for toys we can use. He is really into using toys on me so I'm trying to make it more exciting when we do have sex.

    • What about making up a little suggestion jar? It can open up ideas of what you would like to do with each other.

  • Might be best just to leave it alone and not say anything. No sense of chancing embarrassing him over something that isn't out of line for guys.

  • Is probably wash the socks but wouldn't say anything

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  • You're fine dude. It's totally normal. You can use a penis pump.. I got both length and girth this way. Just get a good one and use it correctly. And use a penis care product too or you will be sore and chafed all the time.. the pumps can irritate the skin easily. Hope this info helps. I would try Man1 Man Oil first.

  • Hmmmm. Honestly, I wouldn't say anything to him because he might be embarrassed that you found it. They can be helpful for those looking to enlarge their members but they can also create chafing, soreness, pain, etc. It's important to stay moisturized if you're using one- so maybe you could buy him a bottle of penis health creme to make certain he stays hydrated.

  • This is really common so don’t worry about it. But you do need to get him to use a penis health crème for skin protection or he can become chafed, discolored and even numb down there… these things are really bad and can lead to sexual issues. A good crème will help though. Good luck.

  • Ahhhh I am so sorry you’re struggling with this- I had a similar experience. Have you thought about counseling? It might be a good way to break the ice and even talk about other things, like intimacy. Is he fulfilling your needs? Is he hygienic? My boyfriend had a serious foul smell issue so I bought him a bottle of penis health crème and told him he should use it because it “provided hydration” and lowkey, keeps him smelling better. Good luck.

  • I can't answer the last two questions, but it's not that big of a deal. just clarify with him that you know and that it's okay. he'll have a moment of embarrassment, but that will fade quickly. also all men no matter what size are insecure about their penis size every once in awhile

  • Yeah ask him you wana see him use it.

  • Do some research on the dangers of them because ya just never know. Wouldn't want him to burst anything down there. Is it like a bicycle pump thing or is it electric or battery powered? I've never seen one except in pictures. Go easy on him. Maybe someone convinced him they were the best things on the planet and he wanted to make things better for you. Some guys when they feel they aren't pleasuring their partners kinda shut down and withdraw from sex. It usually comes down to better communication and working it out which does take some time. Be patient and if he has some issues help him help you both through them.

  • "Should I confront him about it?"
    No. Forget about it.
    "I found out because I saw it on browser history and also the tracking info link."
    Do you think it is good to spy on someone? That's what you are doing.
    You should abandon all of this or your 10th year might be your last.

    • It's our computer so we both use it. He has even told me he has nothing to hide but he doesn't want me to say anything about porn if I see it on history.

    • Others use this computer. I don't back check them, close windows accidentally left open and clear browser history without reading it.

  • talk 2 him it's bothering u

  • Why do you feel a need to snoop in your boyfriends personal belongings to begin with? Those are his personal things he deserves basic respect as a human being.

  • Don't you have vibrator?

    If you are brave, next time you get naked hold him close and say... I want to see your cock in your pump...

  • Whatever you do, don't confront him like this!!!

    https://www.youtube.com/embed/sxz9e0NCcWY

  • Don't confront him at all. He did it mainly for you!

  • does the work quite well.. telling you from my personal experience.

    • dont leave him, just because he got a penis pump.

    • I'm not going to leave him, I am just wondering why he would want one if he's pretty big already.

    • maybe for a higher confidence boost

  • That's Just Trust Issues

  • i bet he was using it to give the impression his penis was big in the first place

  • Or you could just meet his sexual needs

    I found my boyfriend penis pump in our closet in one of his boxes along with a sock he beats off into. Should I confront him about it?I found my boyfriend penis pump in our closet in one of his boxes along with a sock he beats off into. Should I confront him about it?

    • so depressing yet so true

  • Doctors say pump very harmful for penis health , infact it causes permanent damage to tissues resulting in insensitivity in penis and erectile dysfunction. Please stop him. Men do have concerns about Penis length but scientifically a penis of 3 inch is enough to satisfy a woman , infact it's more about emotions and foreplay that makes the difference in sexual satisfaction.

  • Break up. He deserves better.

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