Guys, My boyfriend is boring in bed (i'm sexually frustrated), anything I can do?
I would like him to go down on me more, do spontaneous things and try anal, i love anal. At the start of our relationship we had a talk where i told him i have very hard time orgasming without stimulating my clit with a vibrator and i told him that in fact the only time i have been able to orgasm without using the vibrator was doing anal. During the conversation he also mentioned something like "i'm not really into anal, why put it there if you have a pussy to fuck" plus also told a story of how scary it was when some girl once tried to stick her finger up his butt.
It's a rare occasion if he goes down on me and even if he does it's just for a minute or two. We always end up having sex with me on top because he can't cum in another pose, which i don't blame him for because it really feels 100x better with me being on top. He often tries being on top but it just doesn't feel good so we still end up switching to "our" position.
When i asked him about his sexual past, he told me that there's quite a list of women he has slept with but the "experience" doesn't reflect in bed and he doesn't suggest to try anything new. I have suggested him several times that i'd like to do something different and new but it's still the same old.. It's just disappointing because everything else between us is so good, i think he thinks our sex life is good too but i'm just craving for something more, something exciting. Oh and also to mention we do have sex several times a week.
Guys, please give me some advice. How could i approach this subject without making him feel insecure about him not satisfying me enough? Should i even ask him to try anal with me after all these comments? Should i lick him "down there" while giving him a blowjob? Are we just too different in our sexual desires?
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