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Opinion on gaining sexual experience by hiring a high class escort?

A couple weeks ago I was a 20 year old virgin not by choice and never even kissed a girl. It felt like a huge burden on my shoulder still carrying around my vCard. When ever friends would bring up sex I would have to act like I know what they're talking about and hope they wouldn't ask me any questions about it. I would have felt humiliated and less of a man if anyone were to find out never been physical with a women.
For this past year there's been multiple occasions were girls just wanted sex from me. I could never bring myself to do it because I felt like at my age they would expect me to know what I'm doing. They would probably look down if it was obvious I had no prior experience.
So I finally decided to go through with hiring an escort the get rid of this burden and gain experience. I'm honestly glade I did, although I'm no expert I felt like I really learned a lot about my self. I now have at least a genaral idea of what to do when the time comes from beginning to end.
what would you think of a guy if you knew he had sex with an escort?
opinion on gaining sexual experience by hiring a high class escort??
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  • I used to be an escort and unfortunately I don't think it will do much for your experience sexually and will have little impact on your sexual prowess (apart from confidence of having sex! haha)
    Yes, we will help you out (especially if you let us know it's your first time) but at the end of the day - you paid for a service/a fantasy.
    It's nothing personal but usually escort aren't even thinking about sex during the act.
    We are actresses and therapists.

    Plus, we always lube up before a job cause female sex drive is highly influenced by connection we feel to people. Not necessarily by what you do or how you look.
    Although I definitely enjoyed my job.

    In real situations - a girl needs plenty of mental foreplay as well as physical foreplay for her to genuinely LOVE having sex with you.
    You have to get her panties wet waaaaaay before you actually get naked.

    Outside of my work - I have completely different approach to sex and completely authentic. A guy would actually have to be REALLY special to get me interested in having sex with him.
    So more than anything you need to work on yourself and your confidence. No matter how much sex you have with paid people, that won't make you better. Unless you asked the escort for advice.
    You can get a dating coach for that lol

    Hope this makes sense. It's a lot deeper than this but tried to scratch the surface with you.

    • thanks for your input, I'm aware it's just busniss and when they act like they're enjoying it mostly likely isn't genuine. So when she said it was good I had a hard to believing her but whatever. I know it's different when you pay so the expeirence won't be the same. But I did ask her to guid me beginning to end. Even tho it was paid for a did learn a lot probably more then I would have if I just had a hookup. I doubt they would have the patience to guide me. If I had the chance with a non working girl I definitely would take more time with foreplay I know it's important. you say mental 4play I know that's true for the most part that theyre has to be an emotional connection aswell. but what about the girls who just want sex purely physical no emotions involved they're a lot of girls like that now.

    • what was it about your job that you liked was it cus you would make a Lott of money!!

  • I wouldn't care. I wouldn't think of it as any different as hiring a maid tbh. you're just paying for a service. it's not a big deal to me. but I think I'm in the majority on that front. there's a lot of people that are still really uptight and close minded about sex work despite it being the world's oldest profession yknow. honestly I think what you did was smart, I would've done the same. I considered it way back when little ol' bisexual me was a virgin with girls and never even went on a date with a girl and basically was scared shitless. I shortly met my ex girl tho and well the rest is history but if I hadn't of met her then I probably would've hired an escort, or 5 😂, to get some experience with girls.

    • yea I agree I don't get why it's so looked down on. people probably think of crack whores for 40$ 1 bust when you mention paying for sex which I know is messed up cus most likely they're forced into that lifestyle. I guess people don't realize high class escorts make a lot of fucking money. they could easily charge 400-600$ an hour making 20-25k for a couple hours of work. if its too consenting adults it don't see the problem with it, it's just busniss.

  • I'd wonder why he couldn't just be honest with me - I have no issue with a dude being 20 and a virgin. I don't value virginity per se but rather than him feel pressured to fuck an expensive hooker I would have rather been able to have the experience with him.

    • So him not knowing how to kiss wouldn't be a turn off

    • My boyfriend was an awful kisser when we first got together, we're together over a year later. I mean it's not like learning how to kiss is hard. Lol.

    • yea it's really not but the first time did feel a little awkward. was he a virgin too?

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  • Same with me. Exept I was 24 (just a couple weeks shy of 25) and did it randomly after I got completely and utterly trashed. Never been that drunk before. Ended up going to the best brothel in my city and hired their best prostitutes (prostitution is legal where I live and fuck they were hot as hell) and lost it to a threesome. Worst part is that I was so freaking drunk that I hardly remember it and couldn't even stay hard because of all the alcohol lol. Not proud of it whatsoever, but I don't regret it. Completely get you about not being able to bring yourself to do it with other girls beforehand. I'm actually a good looking guy and always had girls interested in me, but I had a mental block and was terrified of embarrassing myself around women I was interested in. What triggered it that night was actually a girl that was grinding on me at the club and she was obviously trying to hook up with me and she gave me all the green lights and I let her down. She ended up getting bored and leaving and it sent me down a spiral until I was just like fuck it, this ends tonight. Once I lost it though that mental block was gone and I was actually able to start dating and hooking up with girls. It was a terrible cycle and the only way it was going to break was by finally sleeping with a girl so I'm glad I did it in that sense. Actually wish I did it much sooner, so many missed opportunities.

    • cool nice to see someone's been on the same boat. was it just knowing you lost your virginity that helped you move on or did you actually get some experience like do you remember that part or not.

    • also another plus about it is you could sleep with some crazy hot girls you probably couldn't get irl. I paid 500$ but she looked like a model a solid 10 so I think it was worth the investment

    • No it was just getting rid of that mental block that did it for me, I still sucked the next time I had sex with a girl. Also yea both the girls were drop dead gorgeous and they were very expensive but fuck it, best money spent. Also, don't mean to boast, but I'm actually a good looking guy so I've been with a few 8+ girls. Obviously, none of them were as hot as the prostitutes but I can pull some really beautiful girls which is nice and also kind of sad since I had so many chances and could have easily lost it with plenty of girls beforehand but I was legit absolutely terrified to even kiss a girl let alone sleep with her. I have no idea what was wrong with me, I just thought no girl would ever be interested in me and if she was I'd just make a fool of myself and she'd laugh and tell everyone how much of a pathetic virgin I was. It sounds ridiculous, but that was my mentality back then.

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  • If you feel you need to, do it then do it.

    It'll be our secret.

    Opinion on gaining sexual experience by hiring a high class escort?

    • I already did lol

    • Cool, did she treat you fine? Your first time and all.

    • yea she did I mean I cashed out and payed 500$ an hour so I would hope she would lol. I thought might as well do it right my first time, she was crazy hot and I'm glad I did it. I told her I was a virgin and she helped me out probably much more then a hookup would so no regrets.

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  • I wouldn't care, you had a good enough reason I think

  • It's totally fine :) It's sad that you were so insecure, but at least you found a way to get rid of that.

    • Its embarrassing if you never even kissed a girl at 20 i think most guys would feel the same. I just didn't want to disappoint cus I'm sure if they just want to hookup they would expect you to be good right. if those girls wanted to actually date I probably wouldn't have hired an escort but they didn't. I do feel better now and honestly it was all pretty easy. I don't know why people say you'll have no clue what to do. with a little guidance I think I did pretty good for my first time. I didn't cum so quike like I thought I would lol so that was nice.

  • its your choice whether you wanna lose it to an escort but personally its a turnoff to me

    • Would it be a deal breaker for you if you found out the guy you were dating had sex with an escort before

    • yea totally

    • Even if you really liked him you would still end it?

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  • I dont care. Not really a big deal for me.

  • personally, i wouldn't like it and would lose interest straight away

    • why?

    • bc i think its discusting

    • so if you were dating a guy you liked and found out he paid for sex would it be a deal breaker?

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  • I see nothing wrong at all with what you done. In fact i think it was a sensible way out.

  • Say nothing wrong with that

  • I don't know really

  • is this JRICAHRDS?

    • nope who's that

    • It is him he's not gonna own up to that online

    • I swear I'm not I don't really care of you believe me or not but can someone tell me who jrichards why do you think I'm him

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  • You're right in doing this. That took guts.

  • You should really care to not get strings attached with her, or you might get broken.

    • of course I wouldn't, I know it's just busniss. even tho she acts like she's into it I know it's over when the hour is up.

  • If you want to just make sure you look them up on a reliable website beforehand

    • you didn't read the description I already have done it

    • and I did she was good

    • sorry about lol

  • You will probably get more experienced from a not so high dollar one

  • not a good idea

    • why?

  • well, he is desperate, dumb, no communication skills, and lake of confidence.

    • most guys past 18 I think would start to get despret to just get it over with. being a male virgin is a huge difference then being a female virgin 1s bad 1s good. of course I would lack confidence in sex if I never had it

  • It worked for me. Ask to help you sexually, they will help you.

    • you lost your virginity to an escort? I did

  • I'd be put off that he thinks paying someone (who is pretending to dig it) is the same as having a mutual experience. It's more like advanced masturbation than sex.

    But not everything people do is perfect. If you chalk it up to an idea planned in high anxiety and not an interchangeable alternative to real sex, it's probably better.

  • I wouldn't feel right about him... or any guy that can sleep with women he doesn't know.

    • Would it be a deal breaker

    • Yes, probably.

    • seems a bit harsh every 1 has a past

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  • I would never accept to date someone who has fucked an escort.

    • why? sounds a bit harsh

    • Harsh? I don't do casual sex, therefore I have every right not to be with someone who doesn't do it as well.

    • I have every right not to be with someone who has done it.* Sorry.

  • I had to have sex hundred of times to get real experience but if you don't want to look completely virgin it's a good idea

    • you mean a 100 times until you got good? that seems a bit excessive

    • Yeah it's not that simple to please a woman

    • Oh shit were you that big cheek Indian kid from uk?

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