How Can I Show My Sagging Breasts To My Boyfriend?

Question

I'm 20, we've been together for almost 3 years now, we're sexually active. However, I always either keep my shirt on, or my bra, but he saw my boobs before (like, pulled them out as I still had my bra on), and only a few times, I got fully naked but stayed laying down on my back.

I'm so ashamed to show him my breasts naked. I'm a C cup but they're VERY saggy, like, my nipples are pointing down, and I have somewhat large areolas (which he saw my nipples a lot). He's not the type of guy who'd dislike or change his feelings about me for my appearance, but I still am embarrassed to show him. And he told me countless times that he loves everything about my body. I feel bad for keeping it from him THAT long, as if I don't trust him. But I'm also way too scared to do it, I start tearing up whenever I wanted to talk about it even though he's proven to be always understanding and mature. Please give me advice on what to do. I don't want surgery because I'm happy with the way I look, but I'm just scared of what he'd think, I'm scared it'll turn him off. I've tried exercise and other methods but it's been proven only surgery can fix sagging. And it's genetic by the way, my sisters are the same. What should I do? And please be nice, this issue is already hurtful enough for me.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

The fact is you care more then he does. The problem is you not him. That much is obvious. So, just do it. That's really the only solution, you have created these ideas in your head that he will not love you or he will judge you or he will leave you, again this is you not him. So since the problem is with you only you can fix it and the way to do that is by just doing it. Men are not that shallow despite what women seem to think, he will not love you less he will not be less attracted to you, in fact your insecurities are what are going to make him less attractive, being comfortable with yourself will make you more attractive to him so just show em off. He won't mind he will appreciate the fact and he will do what guys do when he has a naked woman in front of him, worship her. Its really not complicated, you created this fear and continue to feed it so it gets worse and worse but as I said its completely unfounded by your own admission so only you can fix it, there is no way around it, your just going to have to bite the bullet and next time you two are intimate be naked. And then feel incredibly stupid after wards that you waited three years to do this for absolutely nothing. Guys don't care, hell you probably got more guys with a fetish for it then you do who would be turned off by it.

Shan021 · Accepted Answer

lol y r u cryng over somethng soo silly? why u girls r botherd about appearnc soo much? ur guy would luv it... its the moment betwn u two tht matters... wen u 2 will b lost in each other... n do it.. it will b the greatest feeling u'd hav.. so relax 😊

taleets · Accepted Answer

i honestly think a breast lift will be the move in this case. you say you are happy with your body, but this topic is leaving you in tears? if you don't like something then fix it so you do! i highly doubt he will care and he seems like an amazing boyfriend, but if it is causing you that much anxiety and distress then i think you should get a breast lift. it's not horribly expensive and it's worth the boost in your self esteem. if you can't afford it you can always pay with care credit and make monthly payments. i'm not a fan of my ass and i'm getting it done in july! i already know my confidence will be boosted. confidence is everything and if you aren't confident it definitely shows. you are right when you say working out doesn't work so ignore that other guys comment. you could always wear sexy lingerie for him and just not take the top off but that fun is there in that?

SarahsSummer · Accepted Answer

Just keep reminding yourself of what he's said. Replay it in your mind, over and over that "he's not the type of guy who'd dislike or change his feelings about me"
And also "He's not the type of guy who'd dislike or change his feelings about me for my appearance"
Those really are powerful beliefs and statements that should have a great deal of weight in your decision to open up your body to him. He'll actually love you more than he already does if he knows you are comfortable enough around him to get naked.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would bite the bullet and just show him as he's already stated that he loves your body and accepts you as you are. I don't think he will run screaming from the room never to be seen again. You will always face this problem unless you either gain confidence or, perhaps, consider surgery. At what point do you fall on the scale below?

XxMochaKittyxX · Answer

I felt the same what about mine, but one day I just took them off and showed him (fiance) and he was happy. its best to just do it and do it quickly.
don't wear a bra that night and just have him take off your shirt for you. makes it easier

denisenic01e · Answer

If he loves you, he's going to love every part of you... Even the parts you don't love! And plus, they're BOOBS! All guys like BOOBS!! There are no ugly BOOBS!!! They're just all different, like vaginas!

septemberangel118 · Answer

Learn to love your body and hope that he will love it as well. Since it is genetic there is not a lot you can do about it.

Drooogie4 · Answer

I would Just do it. Mine are not ideal and i was super insecure about them for forever. If you trust him, itll be very freeing. I doubt he'll even make a big deal. Then if you do eventually wanna save for surgery, you can still feel less trapped in the meantime

erandal · Answer

I was exactly the same as you and I have since learned that a true love will want you no matter what. Sadly I did go for the surgery, which incidentally is f'in painful, which was great for a few years then I had children and they went back just the same as they were before. My husband has since seen pre-op pictures of me and said I looked as good then as I do now.

In short he will love you and your breasts just the way you and they are. Enjoy them.

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

Sagging breasts look beautiful.  *-* many men have fetish for it...  ♥ don't change

TheCunningLinguist · Answer

Give him the opportunity to love every inch of you. You would be amazed that what women find as flaws in their body become the very things that men love the most about them. The women we love influence Our preferences.

nevermoregirl7 · Answer

he doesn't care if you stuck with him this long. And believe it or not, sagging breasts is pretty common. The best thing to do is love yourself, and it that, he will find beauty.

wafflesecret · Answer

Just sit down with him and express your insecurity. He will probably appreciate your honesty and won't mind at all!

Blonde401 · Answer

Most boobs are like that. Most boobs hang naturally and slope. They don't stand upright or are hard and stay in the same position unless you're either an A cup or they're pumped with silicone. Breasts are there to feed children, gravity makes them fall. Love your breasts. I have D's. Ones bigger than the other. I have large nipples and they fall naturally and I love my weird boobs. Love them. They're not going anywhere!

troyan · Answer

You are young and let me tell you something - you can change your body if you want to, in any way. I would suggest you a diet and exercise and I promise you, you can fix everything. If you really want to improve this natural way, let me know I can give you any advices about training and nutrition.

Lemia · Answer

I would say to get more comfortable with him seeing you topless, maybe let him tease your nipple or suck it so you can get the feel when your man sees your breasts, you get enjoyment instead of dread.

lovelyhoneybones · Answer

He most likely doesn't care about the state that your boobs are in. If a man loves you, he can easily overlook any flaws that you have.

Anpu23 · Answer

relax, no not a turn off. He's just happy to have your set to play with. Guys aren't nearly as picky as you seem to think.

meatballs21 · Answer

He says he loves your body but you don't believe him?

Helpneeded2 · Answer

It's okay to have insecurities. If you don't want to show your boyfriend your chest, then don't. You shouldn't do stuff you don't wanna.

MuteBastard · Answer

Try interacting with them in a comfortable and sexy way. He'd probably like it. Just dont exlude them from the action.

Sasuke3564 · Answer

if it really bothers you I'd listen to some of the other people on here and replay what he has told you in your mind every time you look in a mirror before or after a shower and when it comes down to showing him maybe start with a low light room and be playful with it. you could dance for him in the low. light situation so he is getting turned on while you get distance and can still keep yourself covered. hope this helps and I believe things will be fine.