Is it weird for a girl to fantasize of sex with a guy?

[w_brown]

Is it weird for a girl to fantasize of sex with a guy? I feel like It isn't lady like don't respect myself and I'm a whore because I want to have sex. If guys have sex then it just a thing for them. Do guys lose feelings for their girlfriend after they have sex with her since they got what they wanted anyway? Please try to be honest. I'm thinking of having my first time b/c I'm impatient and can't stand to wait another year again. I'm 20 and I am a little desperate to find someone, I want to get married and have kids, in 6-7 years or less that what I have planned. Is it true if a girl has sex before marriage she slutty, if so than what's the guy considered. I don't really just want the sex, I want someone to love and hold, be faithful too and have fun with and make a close bond, tbh I'm lonely. It's like I can't date a guy without being pressured into sex, it hurts my feelings and it's so rude and disrespectful when they get pushy. I highly value my virginity and people look up to me for not being the easy type. What should I do, how should I think about this?

[LisaSparrow]

So imagine a guy who thinks this way: Gee, I really like that w_brown girl. She's really hot, and I'd love to have sex with her. But what if it turns out I really like her? I could never get serious about her, because we could never marry. She'd be damaged goods.

It's like the old joke:

I would never want to be a member of any type club, that would allow someone like ME to be a member. :)

Yes, some guys will love you and leave you. They do it all the time.

But don't make the tragic mistake of waiting until after you've cut the wedding cake, to find out you married a guy who is a lazy, boring, dud in the sack.
Some guys won't marry you if they find out you sleep around. But that doesn't matter, because there are plenty of guys who won't mind.
So let those other guys go find and marry their precious virgins. Then after their wedding they might just find out that they married a dud in the sack. Then they can live together unhappily ever after, comforted by the thought that he got his virgin.

[Thebrunette]

Lol no, it's completely normal to fantasize. All humans do it. You are not a whore or slut just because you want sex (it's a human need, and natural). People who says otherwise are just ignorant, and try to slutshame. I personally don't see a big deal in sex before marriage, and most guys/girls don't care about their partner being virgin, unless it's a really religious person, who thinks there is something magical about being a virgin, because their bible says so.
I would recommend don't rush sex, if you wish to do it with someone you care about. Try masturbating (it helps with getting rid of the lust for a while), otherwise if you already have someone in mind and masturbating is not enough for you try to build up to it over a date, if the hormones are driving you too crazy. Just remember to be protected (birth control/condoms).

[zombiebabe]

*its perfectly normal to fantasize having sex with a man.. nothing wrong with that.
*whether a guy would hit and quit.. its hard to tell because guys are different.. don't do it as soon as you get in a relationship.. at least wait a little and see how he acts towards you.. whether his feelings are sincere etc...
*sex before marriage is a matter of personal preference or culture... once you find someone you should talk to that person about it

[MidnightThoughts]

Duuuuuude. Who made you think that way? That's only natural and normal. It's called hormones, don't worry :p
And guys don't lose their feelings when they have sex. But make sure you choose the right guy if you're looking for a serious relationship.

[Dexamethasone]

Do you think she should look for someone to form a relationship and combine sex together or sex with someone she likes firstly? :D

[MidnightThoughts]

@Dexamethasone Whatever she wants to is good

[Dexamethasone]

Yeah in case she's turned on but which way in your opinion is better? :D

[MidnightThoughts]

@Dexamethasone I prefer a serious relationship

[Dexamethasone]

Yes especially for the first time for sex it would be better? :D

[MidnightThoughts]

@Dexamethasone I don't know, I guess it only depends from person to person and how they see sex. Some people have no luck in relationships but still want to experience sex. That's ok too, even though in my case I prefer being in a relationship. I think the most important thing is for the person be ok with what they're doing. :)

[Dexamethasone]

Yeah I definitely agree with you, the person needs to do what they really want, not what other people force them to do for example. Have you ever done it without being in a relationship though? :D

[MidnightThoughts]

@Dexamethasone I almost did it with a friend with benefits once, when I was 15yo. And it would be my first time too. Although we didn't really had sex. And actually, I'm happy it didn't happen. Because when it happened with my current boyfriend it was just perfect and I wouldn't prefer it another way. Why so many questions, though? ahah

[Dexamethasone]

After being with some guys in your life you come to a point where you can realize who you felt closer with you so it's good that you are happy with the choice you had :) Haha well I just noticed your answer to the girl's question and for some reason I liked your perspective, I hope it's alright :)

[MidnightThoughts]

@Dexamethasone I see. It's ok, thanks :)

[Dexamethasone]

You are welcome :) Do you want me to follow you by the way? :)

[Ben38]

do have sex, enjoy it and don't expect your first love to be the one that stays forever.
if you love someone it's only natural to have sex with that person, as much and often you both want.
if that love dies and you fall in love with another one, again, have sex as much as you like.
the hard part is to find a love that stays forever. but it's no crime to have sex on the way finding that love.
there won't be a guy who just comes to you and says hello i'm the right one and then you fall in love and stay together until the end of days.
to find that guy you will have to give love a chance and that of course means it can go wrong.
but as i said, it doesn't make you a slut because you sleep with the wrong one when you thought he is the right one.

[BBoy201]

Don't settle for less if you have specific plans, you'll regret it. Stick by your plan through college or whatever you're getting involved with now. No, you wouldn't be a slut for deliberately losing your virginity... sluts have no direction, they're trash.

[SleepyChan]

Nothing wrong with fantasizing. It's not being slutty if you have sex before marriage. If a man tries to pressure you into sex on the first date, he's not worth it and you're better than that. I never have sex on the first date because I want the guy to work for it and see if he's special. If not, I move on. You're 20, you have your life ahead of you. Enjoy it without being tied down

[loveexpertforreal]

i would suggest you ask him first. if he says yes just do it. then see how it goes from there.

[DevikaButts95]

It's not weird to fantasize of sex, and have sex when you're ready, even if its before marriage.
Personally, I'd recommend before marriage anyways. What if you're not sexually compatible and you discover this after marriage? That won't be fun. But don't let a guy pressure you into doing it, do it because you want to do it.

[atulverma23]

no not weird at all , every girl does it... also i dont feel girls are referred as slutty if she has sex before marriage , only if a girl is having sex with lots of guys she would be referred to as slutty , generally it's girls referred to as slutty cos guys identifies their feature of using guys money ( date , shop etc ) ... its generally a slut character to
provide physical pleasure in exchange of money... if a girl is not doing that she is certainly not slutty...

[Robsinsf53]

Fantasies can keep or transform an old marriage into new.

[AlexBlack007]

Uh no... Nothing wrong with that. Lady-like? What's that supposed to mean? Sex is not just a desired act, it's a necessity for generations to move forward.

[Caaarl]

Hell no it's not. Women want sex just like men do. Although on a lesser scale. If you're really physically attracted to a guy it's normal to be really into him sexually. If you want to fuck like most guys though. I'd say you have a higher sex drive than normal but that doesn't make you a who're.

[Phoenix98]

Honestly it's normal.

[KingDio]

no thats normal :)

[Listening5]

Seems finding the right person might be the best way to go about this since the ones you have met are pushy and pressure you into sex. You already said what you want and it seems you want more than just sex, you want a ''real'' relationship and build a bond with that person.
You know, rushing into it is not worth it, you might come to find you could have waited.
I say, think about it and no rushing, fantasizing is not bad as long as you dont become obsessed with it.

[yourfriendforever]

ain't nobody gonna judge you if u have sex before marriage and it's absolutely natural to fantasize of sex considering your 19 and have grown up and have a woman's body

[fueledbythc]

Why would it be abnormal to fantasize about sex?

[realperson02]

it's completely normal. your last few lines gave one of the reasons I stay away from religious virgins.

[EOTS1]

A female fantasizing about sex with a male she finds attractive is as normal as eating or sleeping... You should wait for marriage though... You know you should.

[nish17]

no it's normal dear. anyone can fantasize about sex

[didyouknowme]

nothing wrong with that. Just find a good guy

[Jan1ssary_]

Nope its not, you are a human and you need it thats all.

[Decentguy]

totally normal

[Yumix]

Completely normal

[colby2018972]

Get a toy a vibrator something whatever masturbation is probably the only solution if you can't figure out on what else to do on top of that masturbation is healthy I'll take the edge off the lot or if you go get a toy or me guess is kind of losing virginity to a toy I don't know I really don't know but you don't want to just do it because you really horny and yeah make stupid decisions like I have