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Vagina too loose for a relationship?

I lose my virginity & I'm a bit sore afterwards. He didn't comment on my vagina, but was nicely sized and came quickly inside me. (Had already used a moderately sized vibrator.)

I had a horrible experience with a 1 night stand (while being drunk out of my mind on vacation); he entered me (w/ a condom) & immediately looked disappointed. I basically couldn't feel him either. He was smaller than the other guy, but not "small". After sex, he told me I gave the best BJ he'd ever had & was the best kisser BUT that his ex girlfriend was "5 times tighter than me" many times.

This broke my heart. I've tried to take it w/ a grain of salt as he was so drunk that he had to manhandle himself to get off & told me he was "2 drunk to come". But I still feel like he's right.

Anyway, I have sex again and this guy is the smallest of the bunch. (I have a sensitive gag-reflex, but could deep-throat him easily.) I am so drunk & we fuck in many different positions, but I can tell he can't get off.

He starts doing me in doggy & since I've done kegels obsessively after the last guy, I finally remember to squeeze (& just hold it like that the entire time he fucks me in doggy). He sort of groans, says "your pu$$y is so tight" & comes in under 2 minutes. But at first I could tell he was disappointed by my looseness :/

I am super self-conscious about this. I feel like this (& my relative sexual inexperience; I don't know how to ride a guy for example) makes me an unattractive lover, & it hinders me from enjoying casual sex/pursuing a relationship. I can fit 2 & a half fingers in my vagina. I'm 22.

Based on what you've read, would you date a girl like this? I'm considering plastic surgery to have my vagina tightened & feel like I need it in order to find love.
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  • If you can't fit 3 girl fingers inside you without pain, then you're plenty tight enough. I think it's more of a problem that you're fucking drunk guys (and are drunk yourself). Being drunk definitely affects most guy's performance (they don't call it "whiskey dick" for nothing).

    I think the first guy got in your head - and, yeah, maybe his ex had a micro-pussy, or maybe he's just a douchebag - but you're obsessing about this because of him, and it's probably NOT the issue. Rather, it often takes some time, and a few sessions, to built trust with a new partner and for you to relax with each other. That's more likely to be the reason for guys' performance issues (plus the booze).

    Try having some sober sex with a steady partner and I'm sure you'll see that the issues go away on their own.

    • very sound advice.

  • I mean, I think you're right to take a drunk guys testimony with a grain of salt. All you can really do are kegels to fix it if this is a problem, I don't know I have never heard of surgeries for this kind of thing. Its feasible they were just incompatibly small for you. 'Whiskey dick' is a thing, too so I would advise against draeing rash conclusioms until you've had more sober encounters with men who have a reason to like or love you enough to ne honest but not so dickish about how they react to your pussy.

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  • I dont think you can really change what you are like on the inside. I know if I have been with a larger guy that I am fairly loose when he is finished but in about a day I tighten back up. I have been with a smaller man just after a bigger one and he told me I was like a cave and he couldnt feel my skin around him. I think you just need a bigger guy and that will solve your problem

  • You mean have your vagina tightened to please a boyfriend who is manipulative/abusive af?

    That's your call. Feel free to do it if you wish to remain in such a toxic relationship, and do know that it's almost guaranteed that he'll make another such condescending comment to you within a week of your surgery.

    • It was with a one night stand. I think you should re-read my question. Thank you.

    • ... you fucked him more than once and, whether he was someone who you 'just' had casual sex with or not, his comments were enough to make you so self-conscious that you're only 22 and considering plastic surgery because of the comments made by one guy.

    • I did not fuck him more than once. Maybe it became unclear due to having the question edited down, but I fucked him one time and he was a jackass. Nice tone, by the way.

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  • First of all, he could have been a lot more tactful. You weren't rude about his size, he didn't need to be rude about yours. And if you can only fit 2.5 fingers inside you, I don't see how you can actually be all that loose.

  • You should have told him that he was the smallest you had.

    • Lol, I do regret not telling him to fuck off. I would have if I wasn't drunk and really, really sensitive about it. I normally don't take crap like that at all, I guess I just sort of felt like I deserved it due to being "defective". I don't know.

    • I would do that because I am immature, but whatever :p

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  • my girlfriend is very tight for me and I can squeeze 3 fingers in her a little past my second knuckle. and I'm average when it comes to penis length and girth.

  • Considering the you said only two and a half fingers leads me to believe that you're actually pretty tight. I'm guessing that you just had a really bad run Of bad luck Picking assholes who also happened to have small penises. Relax, it's not you.

    • Trust me there are many of us out there That would make you feel like you might be too tight with an opening that small. Stop worrying and love your body because I guarantee there are men out here who will.

    • And they're bigger than average men out there that would make sex feel like punishment until you got used to it for being so small.

    • Thank you for being so nice! I really appreciate it. I probably just need to get over it and try again with someone I feel safe with. :)

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  • Lol you can't fit 3 fingers inside yourself at once then you dont have a looseness problem. Just get a boyfriend with a bigger dick and he'll love it.

  • Normally girls only have this problem after giving birth, you don't mention childbirth, so I assume that is not the problem.
    It is perfectly normal to be 'loose' for a small cock, shortly after having had a big cock, but normally the vagina closes up between guys.
    Obviously if you have a gangbang it is best to fuck the smaller dicks first. Then work your way up to the biggest.
    Girls who only have one partner don't usually have a problem, because the vagina has not been stretched more than the partners size.
    Over time a vagina can get looser, but not a lot, unless she has had lots of guys.
    It is a simple operation to have the vagina tightened, but only use a qualified gynecologist, not just any plastic surgeon.
    It is commonly done when a woman has given birth and she needs stitching afterwards.
    I hope you get it sorted, or just find yourself a great guy with a really fat dick! Have fun.

    • Snort. Thanks.

  • Woah woah woah! Fucking whilst drunk is definitely different! There's no way you're too loose, the guy was just a douche. And the second guy was probably just trying to compose himself instead of focusing on your pussy and cumming instantly!

    As for riding on top, there are plenty of videos if you just search for them and i believe a girl just naturally goes well on top, nothing to 'think about' as such

  • i would date a girl like that and dont get plastic surgery, just fight the sexual urges and your vagina will become tighter in time

  • It sounds to me like these guys are tiny.

    2.5 fingers? I checked and stacked and squished together my penis is bigger than four fingers. My fingers which are probably bigger than yours!

    In any case if you could adjust from looser to tighter that would actually be good letting sex be drawn out or not.

  • I really doubt this is an issue with you. You should just forget about it's I seriously doubt that most girls are going to have pussies that are too large undergrad they've been super adventurous and stuck huge things in there all the time stretching themselves out. The vagina doesn't get loose from normal sex alone.

    • too large* unless

    • I'm talking about huge huge things that they really shouldn't stick up there.

  • well I can tell u that 3 fingers is about penis size, and ur dealing w drunk idiots. ur also 22 sex will sorry to say be shallow n meaningless until u do find love. but if I stay hard long enough to get off n u than ur not loose. it's this shit that makes me almost ashamed to be male trust me there's nothing wrong w u!

  • Different vaginas are different. You don't need surgery to have good sex. It is just as likely that those guys are terrible at it.

  • Egads. Have you been duped. Whoa.

  • Vaginal intercourse isn't that important for me. I would definitely be ok with that, especially if your bj skills are as good as you say lol

  • This makes no sense. I think the dudes were just drunk.
    You said you can fit two to 3 fingets there.. Usually that should be tight enough for any dick...
    Or maybe they just had really skinny dicks,, but i think it was the liquour..

  • hold on a second you don't need to have surgery you just need to find the right one that will love you and be happy with what you have if I was still single I'd be interested in you I can teach you a lot

  • The looser the better

  • Who has sex then comments on that kind of stuff? I don't believe human that shallow exist , this is a made up story.

    • I mean how dead and passionless must the root have actually been, where you would finish up by analysing it with a drunk stranger.

    • Lol, it's not made up. Trust me.

    • Why are you having sex with strangers then assessing the quality? It's not like you care about each other so why would their opinion be of any value?

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  • The guys you're having sex with must be small lol because any girl I can fit 2 fingers in is still pretty tight for me. You should be fine, I wouldn't worry about it

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