How long do you not talk to your SO after an argument?

[Anonymous]

So yesterday this guy got mad at me for not giving him oral (gave it to me, and I told him I was not going to due fear as I am a virgin). He also made me feel guilty as he almost "persuaded" me to let his penis on my vaginal area, and he wasn't even wearing a condom. I've been worried since. It didn't occur to me until today. Anyways, as we rode back to my place, he stopped talking to me for a while, only asking "you okay?" When I tried to talk about how I felt, he did not respond as he said "What do you want me to say? Sorry?" He also was blaming me, implying how I was selfish and playing mind games by not being direct. Even whenever I was trying to say how I feel, he told me that he had soccer practice to go to and was saying how he would be late. This hurt me and I left the car without saying bye. He did not say bye either and left after waiting for like two minutes. After that happened, he did not call or text, however he did send a message on Snap after I posted that I was disappointed in myself today (he pressured me a lot). I did not open it. I thought maybe he would call, but he hasn't since. Am I wrong for this?
Usually whenever I have a concern or issue, I like to get off it my chest as soon as possible. Before he used to listen and care, however since this month, he's been passive aggressive when it comes to my issues (I have anxiety and get paranoid easily).
How long do you not talk to your partner after a fight?

[PeachyPS]

This guy is toxic. You should never feel forced to have sex or oral sex with anyone. The fact that he behaves so cruel and pushy this way for such an intimate and emotionally sensitive moment in your life shows that he's horny as hell and couldn't give a damn about what you think. He's playing some MAJOR mind games with you (trust me, these are psychotic mind games he's playing with you). No one gets mad that they didn't get to smash their girlfriend. The only time they do is because they want to use you and be done with you afterwards. Otherwise he'd be ok waiting until you were ready because he cares about you. Dump him. You'll find a million better guys line up when you're single. Trust me.

[Asker]

I regret so much. I should have ended when he basically forced me to kiss him. I just don't know what to do. I feel so hurt. This was my first relationship ever. I wish I had spoke my mind yesterday. I don't know what to do, but I do know that I am not going to contact him.

[Asker]

And now I am so so scared that I have an STD. I know it wasn't penetration, but I know heard you can get it through skin to skin contact. He said that he was in tested in December...:(

[PeachyPS]

I know, I'm sorry. But he's going to try to apologize when he realizes his game isn't working and you can't let him just win you over again. You should NEVER have any negative feelings when having sex with someone you care about. If you're not ready then you're not ready and if he cares about you then he will understand.

[PeachyPS]

Why did he say he was tested? Don't worry. Did his junk look weird (as in lumps or anything gross)? Most STDs are visually identifiable. If you want to then just get yourself tested but I wouldn't worry about it personally.

[Asker]

I was going to tell him that since he wants to be satisfied in all aspects, it's best for him to talk to someone else. And cause I asked him like two times. He was in a relationship in two years and his ex cheated on him, that's why I was scared. And I know I didn't see like an open sore but there was like slight discoloration on the head of the penis. I didn't ask. Is that normal? :(

[joker786]

Making those things a priority in relationships is seriously some real shit... You deserve better

[Asker]

And the thing is, I asked him TWICE before he gave it to me. Even whenever we were kissing, he asked me if I wanted to try it, and I said no. Like how in the world would I give oral when I have never done like that before? Not even when STDs are common. I'm just so scared and hope I don't have a STD because he placed his penis on my area for like 10 seconds.

[joker786]

dont force yourself... and if he makes sex a priority... he is just a waste of time

[soccerchick4eva]

I think the most I've gone with not talking to my boyfriend after an argument is like 5 mins to be honest.. the more you don't try and communicate with each other the more shitty it gets and the more you each overthink about it individually

[mj1700]

Dump him. He obviously doesn't respect your choices, you deserve better. He should've respected your decision and just moved on.

[lifeisgames]

you sound like you deserve someone a hell of a lot better.

[Asker]

:( I've been hearing this many times. I wish I had listen to my gut sooner. I'm just worried about whether I have an STD now like... I have never done something like that before. He's pressured me so much.

[Asker]

And the thing is, I want to get it off my chest, but I don't want to speak to him.

[mryoungbuck]

4 minutes, then we grow the hell up and resolve our issue like grown ups.

[upskirtfetish]

as long as it takes me to cool down

[Anonymous]

It depends on the argument.