Boyfriend is too calculating?

[Anonymous]

Hi dear GaGers
I am dating the most kindest lovely adorable and romanticst guy ever.
We are now together since 3 years and i am very happy with him and want to spend the rest of my life with him.

But there is a problem. This guy is too calculating. He knows everything about me. He knows everything i want to say in advance. He knows where i planned to go with him. He knew about a surprise birthday party i planned for him even before i told anyone about it or even before i wrote sth down or used pc or handy to search something, and this was the first time i planned one for him. He knows when im horny, hungry, tired, sad, depressed or angry and acts then in a way to make me happy. He knows everything.
On the other hand i know only facts and details about him which he openly told me, he never lied or tried to hide sth. He is always open to me but i can't read him, i can't say what he is going to do and so on. Its not only me, his own mother told me that she can't read him after all years, and they were really close. She also told me that he never had friends in the past because he always knew what other wanted to do in advance like with me and it scared them.
He doesn't stalk me or anyting and gives me lots of freetime. He also dont know how to use a smartphone properly because he never had a mobile phone because he never had friends and he also suck with the pc and therefore he can't observe me or anything like that.

So its his own ability to know everything about everyone. He is very observant and never ignores his surrondings.

Can he read minds?
How can someone be capable of doing sth like that?
Is there a name for people like that?

But most importantly, how can i surprise him even if its just once?
He even apologized to me that he knew about my surprise party. So he knows it made me sad, like i said, he knows everything.

Bit i will still be together with him for all time. After all he choose me as his girlfriend even if he knew all good and bad of me. So he must love me.

[Cuteguy135]

I saw one response here say a false trail. If you want to surprise him, lead him into thinking you are going to do one thing when in reality you are doing something else. Plan a vacation or something, but make the location seem different. Or if you want a surprise party, make him believe it is at a different location than it actually is. It sounds like he is a loving person, if you are getting annoyed of his observant nature, then maybe ask him to observe but not comment. For instance, if he knows about the surprise party, then he should act like he didn't know. I don't know, just an idea.

[Asker]

Then i need to try this false trail thing. But what if he sees im acting different than usually? won't he suspect me to change my plans? And he never comments about it aslong as i dont ask him. He learned from his childhood that its not sth to say to others, like i said he had a terrible past with lots of bullying. Its just that i dont want him to be afraid to show his true self, i want him to know that i accept everything about him and that i will love him forever. Thats why i always want him to comment on what he observes, does it make any sense?

[Cuteguy135]

Maybe you should just accept that he will be one step ahead of you and not worry about things? I know personally that it's the thought that counts. So I'm sure with party he was extremely happy and grateful that you put in the effort to throw him a party. If you want to surprise him, maybe pick up some new lingerie or something when he's out and when you guys get together, put that on. He'll never see it coming. And if he does, I'm sure he'll appreciate it. Remeber it's not about the surprise but the thought :)

[Asker]

Then i will buy the most sexiest lingerie and give him the best sex i could ever do. I hope i can measure up to the pleasure he usually gives me. You might comprehend that a guy with such an observation skill is incredible good at oral, right? I hope he likes it

[Cuteguy135]

Omg! I bet! It's all about listening and paying attention to what the girl likes. You boyfriend must be amazing! And yeah, I'm sure it will get him going. WIth sex it's all about enjoying yourself and being excited. As a guy, if I think the girl is enjoying herself, I end up enjoying myself a whole lot more.

[Vanjasper]

You said it yourself, he's very observant. He sees and understands everything. His observation skills are so highly developed he can predict what people are going to do and say in a given situation.
The only way you can throw him off is by beating him at his own game, but you have to be so clever leaving a false trail that he won't suspect.

[Asker]

Yeah, his observation skill is incredible, you need to see how he plays chess, i pity his opponents. Beating his own game? I dont think this is possible. He will probably ask me what answers i got here ( i didn't tell him i going to ask here anything) when he comes back from work.

[Vanjasper]

A guy with such highly developed observation skills are very sought after by intelligence agencies!!! Have you ever thought you may be better off just leaving things as they are? Are you sure you know how he would feel being surprised?

[Asker]

Honestly said i dont know. What you say makes sense. We are happy now, why try to change it. This guy won't have interest in some agencies, he wants a peaceful and normal life with me.😍

[Vanjasper]

He sounds like a good guy. Look forward to some fun times!!

[Litza]

Not just intelligence, just like you said, it's him being observant too. I am like this too with the people I care about and what I've noticed is that when people are either intrigued or sincerely like you, they pay a lot more attention to you. Sometimes, I freak out my friend with my info about her, but she understands that I pay attention
to her a lot, now.

[nerms123]

He sounds like a genius. I love smart guys, so I would be turned on by this type of guy.

[Anonymous]

he is observant and caring, it seems like he is a good boyfriend

[Asker]

He is the best. But still i want to surprise him somehow. I want to do sth he can't see coming to make him happy. After all, if he was this way all his life then he probably never was suprised before.

[Opinion Owner]

sounds like a good kind of problem to have :)

[Asker]

Yeah its a good kind of problem but still a problem i want to solve. He always is so nice to me and pleases all my desires. Im his first girlfriend by the way 😍😍. I want to do sth for him.

[Opinion Owner]

just a a gift or is it for a special occasion?

[Asker]

A gift for all the things he ever did for me. A gift to show him how much i love him. A gift to make him the happiest men in this universe. A gift to thank for him being in my life. A gift to show him i want to spend the rest of my life with him.

[Opinion Owner]

if it were me I would plan an evening or day out together doing something fun like a carnival or something and i would write a romantic letter explaining how much he means to me and why i love him and get some new lingerie for later.

[Asker]

Then i wil do it, thanks.

[Opinion Owner]

you are welcome!

[Intraluminal]

It's called being intelligent. No mind reading needed. I've done​ the same thing with my girlfriend, and you can't really shut it off, but you can hide it better. He's learn. As far as planning a surprise for him, randomness is your friend.

[Asker]

Yes this gguy is incredible. Maybe i can surprise him with sth i would usualy never do?

[Anonymous]

he just lovs u