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Boyfriend goes soft in the middle of sex, but would rather me peg him or masturbate?

So long story short my boyfriend and i have been together 4 years, and have been living together for a year... He shows me he love me butt im confused with the situation...
So he starting going soft while he's in me.. this has happened quite a few times recently... he's always the one that starts the intimacy, he jumps on top of me , we go at it for 30 secs then he goes soft... I was very upset this recent time because he woke me up for this... so i rolled over away from him and he tells me "idk why that happened im sorry, but i did have a thought it would feel better if you fingered me " ( yes he likes butt stuff) anyways i was upset and felt devastated and ugly so i went and took a shower... he masturbated while i was in the shower. He went to the store , i found the dirty towel he used while looking for some of my bobby pins under my pillows. I asked him about it and he lied about it till i had the evidence infront of his face... then he said yes he did. I threatened to leave him and he basically starting havingg a panic attack.
guys whats really going on?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Erectile dysfunction is the result of the pornography industry and excessive masturbation or a sexual addiction. Occasionally its a side effect from medicine, but thats rare. Unrealistic expectations of women's bodies and pornstars that have been cosmetically enhanced makes it so real bodies that aren't perfect aren't as arousing. You could try a hormonal supplement or aphrodisiac but I believe he's is bound by the chains of addiction from pornography. He probably masterbates too much. Lying about it is a red flag as well. Dishonesty can lead to much worse things down the road.

  • You say he still masturbates even tho you two dont end up having sex because he went soft, so he wants sex, he is attracted to you and wants you but he's draining himself. Talk it over with him, one thing you can try as a couple is for him to not ejaculate at all. I know a few things that can work, as long as he agrees to this then Im sure u two will find a solution.
    The plus side is that you are both comfortable with your kinky side, seems you are fine with pegging and all but just want him to stop going soft sometimes.

    • I do try to talk butbhe has no idea. He lied about jacking off at first till i practically cornered him with a towel cover in his come. But he fully denys jacking off. I mean his story always changes "no i never masterbate because i have you" " yes i masturbate while you visit family" " i didn't masturbate while you were in the shower" "yes i did masturbate while you were in the shower"

    • Message me and I'll share a few things you can do about this, help him see things different and fix this little issue. I think you two do great for each other, nothing like being ok with each other like this so letting this get worst would be a shame.

    • Its telling me i can't message people

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Most Helpful Girls

  • Your not ugly or Anythin this problem is his not yours.. n u getting upset about it probably isn't helpin

    Stress fucks up the body it can do horrible things.. it can cause a sore throat.. give migraines.. stops periods.. n fucks up erections

    Talk to him

    He isn't gay because a mans g spot is actually in his arse

    • I try to talk to him but i get no answers. Thats what upsets me. When i try to talk and its like talkingg to a walll all i get is I DONT KNOW I DONT KNOW I DONT KNOW I DONT KNOW. I know he's attracted to me i know he loves me. Im upset he's not interesting in fixing this as much as i am

    • Don't push him tho guys don't like to be seen as failures in their sex life, eventually he will open up to you be patient

  • How about you give him viagra for whenever he and you want to have "normal" sex. That should help with the soft during part.

    • I think.

    • Naw im only 19 and he's 20 . Im not putting him on meds. And if that becomes the only opinion ill be single

    • Ok, well I wish I knew a way to help more hon. Do you mind pegging him and stuff, if so, then do that, if not, then it might not work out.

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  • Does he moan when you preg him? Does he really like it in the butt?

    • Ya he spreads his cheeks and lifts his legs

    • So, he moans a lot?

    • Do you honestly enjoy preg ing him

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  • It could be he is addicted to porn or gay/bi.

  • it has to be some type of erectile dysfunction. i took medication for some time and made me go soft all the sudden. but then if i got comfortable again it would come back. weird shit and the girl was always like wtf and i was
    like i dont fukin know. but ya it sucks.

  • He's addicted to porn. It's so addictive it can make it so a guy can't perform with a normal woman at all. It's called porn creep or porn induced erectile dysfunction. It will only get worse not better so you have a decision

    • He denys watching porn through and through. Maybe ever so often when im away but we live together im practically always there when he is

    • You're in denial and being lied to. He's watching and jerking more than you'll probably ever know

    • The only other possibility is he's a closet queen

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  • he sounds a little selfish ik I dont have a good dick but I try and make up for it like eating the girl oh like crazy even though I still am a virgin

  • he's most likely gay. try anal and see if he lasts longer

    • I can't make him come with just anal alone

    • ok so he needs anal to come, as in, in his ass? if he lasts longer in your ass than in your pussy? both are signs he's really gay and using you to hide it

  • Get him some viagra and let him have you after that.. You both are going to enjoy it.. He won't get soft... U both will get satisfactory pleasure.. And then he won't have to masturbate to fulfill his urge... Give it a try

    • No thanks. Im against viagra for a 20 year old

    • If not that.. Get him something to keep him hard.. Or else u will. Never be satisfied..

    • Snap me for more @devil_rohit 😜

  • get a dildo fuck the shit out of him

  • I'm a pegging husband, me myself I love pegging because it makes me want my wife even more. It turns me on when she works as hard as i do when she inside me. I think you should bring more ass play into the bedroom you may just be surprised if what you two get out of it.

    • I do. Trust me. But when it comes to dick in vagina. He goes soft

    • But not EVERYYY time i must add. Well be good for a week or so , sex will be great. And then the soft episodes will start

    • I don't know who that guy is who is telling you he's addicted to pornos comma but as adults I think we are all addicted to sex sex is a huge part of our lives I've been married for 3 years and I've been with the same person for almost eight I still manage to jack off everyday if I'm not too tired and she still manages to get her rocks off with her toys. if anything maybe you guys should role play you be a dominatrix take control get him a cock cage therefore he won't be able to jack off unless you give him permission I don't know just stuff me and my wife do

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  • he likes it that way

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