OK your boyfriend is being an inconsiderate prick and you should have no sympathy for him whatsoever. One thing is him finishing before you, but another thing is him not even CARING that he does!
Here's two things I think you can (and should) do to open his freakin' eyes:
1) Next time he asks you to have sex with him, tell him you're too tired to do it, in the EXACT SAME WAY that he tells you he's too tired to keep going after he's finished.
2) While you two are having sex, stop in the middle of it all, and say you're too tired to keep going, in the same way he does. Like really, use the exact same words he does when he tells you he's too tired.
Regardless of which one you decide (I'd say do both), he should eventually get the hint. If he doesn't, then it's obvious - he doesn't care about your needs, only his. Ask yourself what is the point of having sex with someone who just cares about his needs, and if you don't like the answer or are unable to find it, then just don't have sex with him anymore.
If he eventually ends up leaving you because of this, then it's obvious you were with someone who wasn't really interested in you in the first place and was just using you for sex. I'm really sorry if that turns out to be the case. :/ But it's best you move on now than get stuck with a guy who doesn't care about you.
Agrees (after all, your not asking for much...damn, that's messed up).
Okay Ill try that thanks :)
Yea I was going to write pretty much the same thing... Personally he is being really selfish, especially if he knows rightly you get nothing from it. I'd be pretty worried if my partner didn't enjoy sex, I thought it would hurt most guys pride to realise they aren't some sexual god? You could get oral off him and see if that's any different, and if he asks if it's his turn you can say you're too tired.
his not sex machine and that's normal on men as soon as we men shot our loads we feel extremely tired to go on not unless we wait for few minutes to gain energy to-go resume but that's depend on men ( I can keep up to 3-5 but rarely happen) also depend hows your body hunger sex ...the Orgasms is rarely happen to female and that's normal if you getting high pleasure in sex like VERY HIGH pleasure its possible to make you orgasm that shots massive of some sort of liquid but basically Sperm or Semen from men and the liquid from Women is different Sperm can make you pregnant..while female not lol
He sounds very selfish. It takes women a lot longer to climax than a man. If he doesn't show an interest in pleasing you sexually, I would say, kick him to the curb! It probably means he is selfish in many other ways too. If you havnt told him that this is bothering you, maybe that's all he needs. Maybe he is enexperienced and insecure with his lack of skills. Guys do not take "hints". Tell him what you want him to do to you. (ie, take your time, pace yourself, more foreplay, lay on your back and shut up!) and if he still doesn't show an interest, he's a loser! or gay... I don't know... but you shouldn't suffer because of it! Good luck hun
Everyone has their ways of getting to their "goal". It is actually quit common that a lot of women can't come from sex a lot. If he isn't willing to find a way to make you come first, then maybe you should talk to him about that. If he really doesn't care, then move on.
wow... a guy that doesn't please a girl first... wow... my guy always pleases me first... or if I dnt come he makes sure I do no matter how tired he is... I would say talk to him about it.. and just explain it to him. best of luck!
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!lol even though this post is a month old, I still think it's funny. If your guy can't get you off, plain and simple he sucks in bed and only cares about himself.
That's sad, because you are a sexy girl.
Drop the chump and find a guy who is worthy.
Hmm, this is a tricky one. But yes I reckon with a delicate touch we can solve this. Where can we meet :D
Hehe, just kidding. This dude is a scrub, tell him to get lost... I always made my ex come before I did, except when we had quickies before work. If he does actually care that you aren't getting off then try show him where it feels good. Clit stimulation, kissing your neck, using a finger when he goes down on you... Good luck.
make him insecure! tell him straight you have never had an orgasm! if you want him to tell him where the sweet spots are, surely you know where your g-spot is & what your turn on are! my key tips are up and to the left! and a nibble on the back of the neck and nipple always get a girl reaching for the bedhead! Don't be shy and teach the young lad! I say he is arrogant and using! Even after a marathon I won't give up on a girl until we are both satisfied.
Another tip! tell him to think of something to get his mind off the orgasm.. when he reach's that point, get him to think about something.. like... work or gardening... umm or... hell for me if I need to keep going I think of bbq's and what I can cook for dinner next! hah, always buys a few extra minutes. just something non sexual.
That sounds like a very unfulfilling sexual relationship, and a very selfish one on his part too. If he can't finish the job with his gear then ask him to do it with his fingers or with his tongue, give him pointers and help him without wounding his pride, if he doesn't care still after you've spoken with him well then that is a reflection of his character in other ways too, not just sex, in which case he's not right for you. If he doesn't care how you feel during sex then chances are he doesn't care if you hurt or aren't happy with other things.
What a LOSER this person is! You can do SO much better judging by your cute picture alone! Omg omg OMG dump this child and tell him why! This is exactly why so many women think sex sucks- because of guys like this! If he wants to get off he should just masturbate at home. You are a woman and you need to be treated like one- with respect (in the bedroom and outside of it).
Your boyfriend is an over macho conceited douche bag. Don't tell me you don't have men telling you every day that you're gorgeous. You have a lot of power and you're not picking it up and using it. Tell him that it's not working out for you and that you think you 2 should take some time off. Tell him you're looking for someone who can make you come 3 times a session and you will be auditioning some new men. If they are as lousy as him then you'll be back. Otherwise ...
This issue is not going to go away with you. You have to address your submissive nature and change it or else this scenario will repeat over and over. Take a dog training course or assertiveness or something that will put you in touch with your personal power.
greedy lover. and is he a 5 minute man?
normally it takes a woman much more time to get turned on! without even mentioning orgasm yet.
him on the other hand, he's not taking your pleasure seriously.
gotta tell him that you get nothing out of sex while he gets everything. if your going to have sex then you'll have to take my pleasure into consideration... not only that the man gets a lot of pleasure from getting a woman off!
You're not alone. Only about 30% of women can reach orgasm from penetration alone. Even fewer can do it on a regular basis. Most women need clitoral stimulation to get off.
The woman has every right to her sexual pleasure in a relationship as a man does. You need to tell him you're not enjoying it. Sure it's a blow to his ego but you have needs. If he cares about you he'll be willing to learn to pleasure you properly. Maybe he just doesn't know a lot about female sexuality.On the other hand, if he refuses he's a selfish guy and you shouldn't have to put up with it.
listen nicoseuxluver...u obviously like sex based on your name...maybe your a nympho maybe not. anyway here's the deal. more foreplay tell him to go down on you and tell him if he don't last long enough to pull out then go back in. after he cums he can go down on you more or use a vibrator. or better yet ditch the dud and find a stud.
buy this song called not fair by lilly alan then get him to listen to it the tell him that is how you feel he will defiantly understand that bnut yeah maybe you need to try different positions instead of missionary which is quiete boring, is he a pump and pop kind of guy or will he actually last the distance and also does he have a normal sized **** as size does matter if not the try it from behind as it will penatrate deeper or go ontop
You need to tell him just as you said it here! Let him know if he is too tired to get the job done you just might have to find someone that can handle you correctly. He sounds so much like todays tipical 19 - 30 year old guys who think it is all about them and the penis. Tell him to get his face down their and get you off at least one time before he even thinks about putting his penis in you! He needs a big wake up call or you are going to remain starved for some good sex.
You tell him you're not happy by finding a man that does make you cum. lol
Maybe it would help if you are on top. Just when you guys are having sex tell him how you want it yell if you have to then you can tell him you just yelled because you were horny.
Well if he doesn't care that you don't get anything out of it then he's worth the time. The next time he wants to have sex tell him about it and if he has a problem with it then he's an idiot.
its a mental thing. all girls can cum
No, they can't.
Lol
A man ain't a man until he can pleasure his woman. I have really severe Asthma, and I never get too tired to pleasure my woman. I always do it. If my back is getting sore, I stimulate the clitoris for a while using my hands and tongue... then I go back to the regular sex. Honestly if the man ain't interested in wanting to pleasure you, is he worth keepin around?
Some might ask, "How do you know that you're pleasuring your woman?" and my response is "Because of the simple fact that she wants me to keep going over and over and over again..."
You need to tell him that he can't pleasure you. How else is he going to learn?
I agree...you gotta tell him straight up. If he doesn't try to meet your needs, then you can find someone that will.
Guys usually can't/don't want to continue once they have their orgasm, so the two options are for him to get you off first, or to try to time it so you get off during sex before he wants to stop. Since it takes girls longer, you need a lot of foreplay to get you closer (or off...) Half an hour of just touching, exploring each other's bodies with your hands, kissing, licking, etc. should get you started, plus it is nice for both. A lot of girls seem to be satisfied with getting off first, either by hand or oral, rather than trying to time it so you orgasm during sex but you risk the guy orgasming first and stopping with you unsatisfied. Of course, if he is a gentleman and you haven't orgasmed yet either before or during sex, he will do his best to try to get you off after sex either orally or by hand. If he selfishly won't, you can always do it yourself, which should embarass him! Remember, it's not over until both of you have orgasmed at least once!
he sounds like a f***ing douchebag to me.. no offense . by the looks of you I do understand why he has a problem holding it in.. you are hot as hell , girl! just come right out and say it ; you ain't getting this until you start letting me in on the good stuff! have him eat you out until you come at least once and then it's up to him if he wants to hold on or not. tell him to count sheep while you are having sex, a man can go on forever if his mind is distracted.
I think you should make him choose between pleasing you and leaving you. as a woman you have a god given right to orgasms!
When having sex, I always go down on her first to get her off and get the juices flowing so we both have a sexy good time lol. I guess what I'm saying is that you need to tell him that it takes some extra effort to get you off so he knows to stop worrying about himself so much and help you come too, you know?. Tell him he's being selfish and see what he says.
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