A guy doesn't take you out but calls you to go over and hang out and fool around...

[jules808]

So here's the situation. I met this guy and he's really cool. He is 24 and I am 19 so there is sort of an age difference. He is my best friends boyfriends roommate and we all went to a concert together and ended up hooking up. Ever since then about once a week he texts and calls me to hang out. But we never go out anywhere.its always just at his apartment. what does this mean? I know we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend and I assure him that's not what I wanted and He didn't want one either. I am only home for the summer so I will have to leave soon so we both don't want to start a relationship. But is that still a good enough reason to not be going out on a date or something.I don't know. I have come fo with different theories 1. Maybe he's broke and afraid of not being able to pay for a date. 2. He's embarrassed to be out with a 19 year old.except I asked him if he was and he claims that it doesn't bother him one bit 3. He just wants to f*** but the only reason I think he might be different is because he's not an asshole that just wants to f***.hes a nice guy who wants to f*** (I tested out this theory once and told him I didn't want to do anything sexual one night and he was completely fine with it and said that it was okay if we just chill and watch a movie or something.the only reason that I don't know if this theory is true.

[Lifeson]

I doubt that he's that broke. There are so many things that you both could do that are free or under ten dollars in public. Embarrassed, probably not. If he isn't just into the sexual part of this relationship, he likes who you are and that is nothing to be embarrassed about. I would suggest going out somewhere too him, it sounds like he just doesn't know you would like to do a few date-like things. You saying that you don't want a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship might have labeled your relationship as sex buddies, a relationship without dating whatsoever. That one night, however, shows that he actually does like who you are as a person so you could probably get him out in public if you wanted.

[Anonymous]

I'm in the same situation. and no one has given me any good advice but I've learned that even the BEST men will succumb to their sexual urges. and look for physical contact. Everyone man no matter how good he is, will choose sex when he can get it.

[jules808]

Thats what I think. Guys will be guys right? Since I don't want a relationship either I guess it's fine. It would be nice to be taking out on a date or something. Girls usually want the romance too and the cuddling and stuff...

[ALWAYSclassy]

He just wants to f***. If a guy really really likes you, he will ask you on a date. You guys jumped straight to the sex, so why would he have to take you out?

[jules808]

Good point. its okay. we both win. I don't want a relationship for the summer anyway. I rather go watch pineapple express with a group of friends. HA!

[kazine]

He's a nice guy who just wants to f*** you. okay.