How to call it quits with my friend with benefits guy without making it awkward?

[Anonymous]

My guy friend and I revealed to each other we had crushes on each other at one point but didn't know at the time. We'd hang once a month and communicate via texting. Our friendship consisted of sharing tales of our clubbing nights, what we've done sexually etc. One day, he invited me to a wedding, so I said 'sure'. At the end of the wedding, we hung out in his car and talked for hours and suddenly he made a move on me. I was sexually frustrated at the time and I gave in. I assumed I was his rebound fling since I happen to be that lean on the shoulder kind of friend and eventually we became fwb. This is my first friends with benefits and I'm afraid to have an emotional attachment which I think is gradually developing since I once liked him. And we go out on 'dates' along with being friends with benefits and cuddle. I thought it was suppose to strictly sex and leave. He'd still talk about girls he met at clubs and how hot they were & showed pics of them to me which I find a little awkward. I stopped talking about that stuff with him since we were doing each other. Now, I just want to call it quits because I realized friends with benefits it isn't for me. What I learned from the experience is that our friendship was mainly sexual attraction. Should I just say, 'hey, I want to end this friends with benefits deal and that's it?' or should I reveal to him that I'm afraid of developing feelings for him so just end this friends with benefits thing and eventually the friendship would end too.. ?

[PhatPat]

Well at least you're being straight out with yourself and admitting that this is just not the situation for you! Any friends with benefits situations are precarious, but only work if there's no feelings involved at all and you're able to see that so that's good.

Well girl, what I see is that, you're both consenting adults. And at the point you consented to take the friendship to another level, which definitely took it into risky territory. So at that point, you were taking the chance that the friendship would never be the same again, which is TOTALLY okay, but you definitely need to be okay with whatever happens here on out.

I think you need to be straight up with him for sure. He's going to ask why you don't want to be FWB anymore and you have every right to be able to say why. The level of awkwardness all depends on you when you say it. If you come off really nonchalant, like it's not that big deal with a "Well honestly, to be straight up with you, I'm starting to develop deeper feelings for you. It's been fun, but to save us both any trouble, I need to nip this in the bud before we have any issues." If he decides he can't handle it, then you'll just have to accept it and move on. But at least you won't be in a situation that's just going to end up hurting you know?

You go girl, and good luck!

[Anonymous]

I say tell him how you feel. Or just stop talking to him all together. If you do tell him all he can do is never talk to you again. Alway prepare yourself for the worst. Do not let yourself fall back into a friends with benefits relationship. They only work 10% of the time. Trust me I know. Good luck hon.

[Anonymous]

I would just tell him you want a real relationship. That your not into the whole friends with benefits thing. If he can't respect that then he doesn't repsect you. FWB is a load of crap and its just making things "easy" for the guy. Later