How long should it take for me to orgasm through oral sex/fingering?

[Anonymous]

I must say that I absolutely love it when my boyfriend goes down on me. It feels amazing. However, I have never gotten anywhere NEAR an orgasm. it feels good but its not enough to bring me to climax. How long should it take, on average, for me to climax? because when I go down on him or give a hj it usually only takes him about 5-7 minutes to cum, and I feel bad when if takes me so much longer! So, girls, how long does it usually take to you orgasm from oral or fingering?

[cuteflirtygirl]

I'm sure it depends on how good he is. My boyfriend makes me come in about 15-20 minutes when he goes down on me because I don't wanna come any faster so sometimes I hold back intentionally because I'm enjoying it so much and I wanna make it last longer. I've taken 30 minutes sometimes already because of that. lol. As far as fingering, hmm well he doesn't finger all that much anymore since he started doing me oral but it used to be about the same because I'd make sure he was gentle enough and knew the right spots. Make sure you insist that he learns how to do you as good giving oral as you are in doing him. Until he does, don't do oral of give any hj's until he improves

[hullaballoo]

it depends really.It usually takes me about 10 min, but it's been as quick as 2 or as long as 30. Same thing with my boyfriend, though he takes longer than me ;)

My advice: don't think about how long it's taking, because than you'll never get anywhere. Start off with the mindset that you're going to climax, and picture it happening in your head. Something that helps me is to tense my leg muscles really tight - I don't know why it helps, but it really amps it up.

Plus, have you ever climaxed by yourself? If you do that alone, you'll know what you like and what you need to bring you over the edge - and then you can let him know!

[Asker]

The thing is, I've only been able to climax from my showerhead, which sounds kind of strange but it just never felt good when I did it to myself. could this be why its taking so long because the shower head vibrator is so much different from my boyfriend?

[hullaballoo]

I'm no expert or anything, but that could be it. This may sound bad, but maybe if you think about how it feels (or picture it) with the showerhead while he's doing you, it could help. Then, once you associate climaxing with him doing you, it might be easier? Also, does he only give you oral and finger you inside? Because clitoral stimulation with his hand (if he does it intensely like the shower) may work.

[Asker]

Well he does both.. but I think he just expects me to be like him and climax in like 7 minutes... I just dont' think he realizes it takes longer for me... and it sounds like most other girls too. So thanks for the advice I appreciate it!