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Sexual Health I have what I thought was a fwb, but now he is acting jealous. What's up?
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From the start he said he didn't want anything "heavy" which was new to me but I went with it. We hang out like buddies, but we also have some awesome sex. I am confused now because he got very jealous of me going out with another guy friend (Without benefits). He also freaks if I don't return his text or call right away. But then we'll go a week without speaking much at all, besides a quick text hello here and there. He is affectionate with me when we are together, like playing with my hair or putting his arm around me, etc. One of my friends said these little affectionate touches mean he's into me more than just a fwb. Any clue what he's thinking really?
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1 2This is so typical; when I had my fwb's what they told me that I was one of the rare guys that didn't get attached or got manipulative or possessive. I asked them what they meant by that and all of them said that a lot of guys start an FWB, but then they want to know if you're going on a date, if you're sleeping with somebody else, and next thing you know, they tell you that you don't need another friends with benefits partner cause they already have one. So yea, guys get attached and possessive; even though they don't mind have more than one girl on the side as an fwb, they try to control what the females can have. I think the guy just wants to have you as an exclusive fwb, but doesn't want to commit to you. In other words, is not like he is going to say, 'lets date exclusively', but he doesn't want you to see other guys, but if a girl wanted to have sex with him, he won't tell you and he'll do it in a heartbeat.
FWB only works if both people have the same intentions. This guy does not have the same intentions as you do. I'd say it's time to sit him down and explain to him that he is not your boyfriend and therefore is not allowed to worry about who you go out with and why you don't return his texts right away. Him acting like that only makes you feel like you're in a relationship. Let him know that if he wants to continue this FWB relationship he needs to not treat you like a girlfriend.
Yes, he sounds like he doesn't want a formal commitment but wants you to himself exclusively.!
You've not seen that before? Hard to believe that!
Clearly he can't have it both ways.you should have a light hearted talk with him and tell him if he's not bound then neither are you!
I really have never seen it before because this is my first fwb. I used to be inhibited and stick only to sex within a serious relationship, but I got dumped a few months ago and I felt so worthless that I started dating as many guys as possible. (Not sex, just dates). But this guy I was really attracted to and felt connected to, so even when he said nothing heavy (Commitment-wise), I decided to try it out. I know its silly that I'm 32 and this is my first fwb... but its true!
No,it's not at all silly and it's not that common...it's just trendy to talk about from TV...and guys especially don't really accept it really in every case I have seen. A lot of women have acted this way for a long time before this phrase was invented....but kept it secret from anynew boy friend. And they're still doing that of course.