How does a guy turn a friend with benefits into a girlfriend?

This is the opposite of EVERY article and thread I have found on the internet, so I have to ask: A girl whom I go to school with (same track so small social group) whom I never really talked to before the incidents began agreed to help me out with some studying for finals. We talked more and more during finals and after the last final we went out on the town, got very drunk and had an interesting night. Since then, we've been seeing more and more of each other and now I am spending essentially every night at her house. We don't have sex, but we do make out, she grinds on me while clothed (even if only panties), and when I get her naked I get her off. We don't go any further because she's a Christian and wants to wait til marriage. (I'm OK with that - even though she consistently starts whispering about how she wants me to f*** her whenever we are deep into it.) However, she insists she doesn't want to "date". She doesn't want to be tied down, etc. etc. We talk all the time: hell, she's sent me more than 3000 texts since our "relationship" began two months ago with the studying. We have established a fairly deep emotional connection and have based everything on being strictly open and honest with each other about everything from the get go. I even know about the other guy who she was "kinda seeing" before me and only ended it with him because he insisted that they be dating or nothing after he found out about me... Tho, she says, and I believe her from our basis of complete honesty, that the two of them were never as deep as us nor did he ever stay over. (The latter I *know*, because I was at her house every night.) I'm finding that every day I like this girl more and more. As I spend every evening with her in my arms and wake up to her beautiful eyes, I am seeing a future. She even last night absolutely freaked out for a while when she found out another one of her classmates had propositioned me for sex in the past, before she retreated behind the "We're not dating so you can do whatever you want," walls again. I wasn't saying anything to make her jealous, was just being open because that classmate was acting weird to her last night. Heck, I've even told her that I want her as my girlfriend, but am willing to give her the time she needs, so... What is she angry about? Does this have any actual potential of turning into something real? I've tried to leave the situation a good 3 times now, but each time she clings to me to keep me with her. Can anyone explain to me what the hell is going on and if I should keep this up?
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*She's been introducing me to her friends outside of school-only guy she has since moving here. *She broke up w/her last LTBF @ the beginning of last semester. He's visiting her RIGHT NOW and staying at her house. She says she is quite unhappy about it.
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  • She doesn't want to ruin how easy things are between you two right now. Once two people start dating you always start feeling different or stronger feelings. All you can do is give her time and keep showing he what a great guy you are.

    I don't know if this applies to her but I loved my FWB because I didn't get jealous or mad if he forgot my birthday and he told me he was happy because he didn't have to blow off his friends to be with me or stop talking to girls. We just understood we didn't want the drama, just the fun of a relationship.

  • Try to investigate if she ONLY acts like this with you.
    See how she acts around her other guy friends, is she flirty, normal, or does she talks to them the same way she does with you?
    See the way she treats you when everyone else is around, like a friend, or more than a friend?
    Ask her why wouldn't she want to be in a relationship and evaluate her reasons.

    I'm sorry I didn't really answer your question but it's really important to know these types of things to answer your question :D

    • We see each other often so I know the answers to them, mostly. 1) She is an accidentally flirty person, so she is flirty with other guy friends, but seems to be in shock when others think she's flirting. She doesn't encourage it further when others openly flirt wither. 2) She has become more and more openly affectionate with me. We've kissed and held hand while our good friends are around and she kissed me two night ago when we were at a social gathering with many people at our school.

    • Hmmmmm... then she is interested in you! I just don't seem to understand why she doesn't want to officially want to be your girlfriend. Maybe she just wants to keep things loose because she doesn't want to hurt you or herself in the end. You should watch the movie 500 Days of Summer maybe that can help you a little more. It did with me :D I know, weird reccomendation..

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  • It seems to me you guys are almost in a relationship already, she's just not ready to see it like that. With the way she's acting it seems like she likes you but is fighting it. Stay with her, I really think she'll eventually be ready.

  • I think she is definitely into you she is just scared of losing you

  • its not really a friends with benefits if she's a christian waiting till marriage.. more like fwob (friends without benefits) see what I did there?!