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Guys: do you even care if your girl has an orgasm?

I've only been with 2 guys (it's been 5 years since I lost my virginity). When we were together, they had their orgasms, but I never had one. I've never faked and orgasm, I was always very honest to them, I told them I wanted to come too, and they both "tried" (with their fingers, or by oral or vaginal sex), but they got tired really fast...so they told me to do it myself and that's the only way I would come, "do it yourself" type of orgasms, that's how I knew I wasn't frigid!...Now I'm single, and I'd love to be with someone again, but I' very disappointed of men. Are they always like this? Guys, do you even care if your girl has an orgasm?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • By the way, our bodies change as we get older, it gets even better. I discovered vaginal orgasms in my 30's and now I can have them regularly. I think a mistake we make is not being relaxed when were younger. We're so preoccupied with what people think of us ans stuff (well the guys a little less). That eases as we age and you'll discover new things with your partners but they must be willing to experiment as well. Try going slower with the preliminaries, try more caressing of the entire body or spots that exite you, like your back, your neck, whatever gets your mojo going, and make them make you feel wanted until you can't take it anymore, you'll see that your exitement level will increase tenfold. Try relaxing your legs or using pillows under them to relax, or under your behind while relaxing your legs, you'll see once your totally relaxed many wonderful things will happen. You can try tightening your pelvic floor muscles, that helped me a lot when I wasn't getting satisfied when I was younger. Try both the fingers inside and tighten aroun d them, and the cunninglingus at the same time, try toys together too, that can help a whole lot if the guy can see how that gets you off, maybe he'll get the hang of it better. The problem with being young is that we're rushing, this changes as we get older, even for the men...take your time and you'll feel more with your partners.

  • Actually when A guy really loves you his pleasure is to give you pleasure...I don't know if these were short term relationships...but let me tell you this:

    I have a minimum of 3 every time with my partner and sometimes he doesn't even have one, he does it just to please me.

    I would be so insulted if a guy told me to do it myself...he would never see me again.

    Respect yourself honey cause they won't respect you if you don't...they'll only use you.

    • I don't know, but since my only experience has been with this 2 guys and they both did the same...I mean, I thought all guys were like this...

  • i've experimented with one of my friends (we're bi-sexual) and she told me none of the guys she's ever been with could make her reach her peak...

    but I did :P lol

    moral of my comment:

    You'll find someone who will take the time to get you to that point of sexual pleasure

Most Helpful Guys

  • uh, duh. I will be completly honest, we do care we care a lot and I am ashamed to admit this but its not even for the sake of the girl, every guy wants to be the best fauck that any girl has ever had, it a pride issue and because of that we will try nonstop to make girls feel the best they could possibly feel. Now the problem is that like I said we "try" lots of guys don't know how to make their girl come its difficult and we aren't absolutly sure what to do also some girls are too shy to coach their man into pleasing them how they want to be pleased or they don't do it to avoid hurting their ego. Push the ego aside and work with the guy eventually you will get there, you'll be very satisfied and he will be very proud at the end of that night

    • But I DID coach them! I told them what I wanted and how, and I wasn't even rude or anything. Just told them, guided them...they just got tired...

    • Im sorry they quit on you, it really is abit hard to grasp for some guys, I'm not proud to admit this but I wasn't unil after a year anf half of sex with my girlfriend that I learned exactly how to do it, now whenever we have sesx she orgasems at least 8 to 10 times, find a guy who cares enough to keep trying, you'll get there eventually promise

  • This is tough. My current girlfriend used to say that I gave her vaginal orgasms, but now she's beginning to question what a vaginal one is, and whether she's ever actually experienced it in her life. I really don't know the answer, she seems to be screaming and enjoying sex. I've tried to give her clit orgasms, but she refused to let me eat her out, and my fingering can only get her so far. I am sincerely interested in pleasing her, I never say I'm tired, I want to get her off. She told me the only person who is able to get herself off completely is herself.

    Moral of the story, I'm a guy keenly interested in getting women to come, and I have never said I was too tired to try. These guys sound like losers...

    • That's true! at least you try and never say you're tired, hope it works out with your girl,and she lets you go down on her!

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  • I think guys don't care. The guys and girls on here of course make themselves out to be sex Gods and Goddesses but in real life guys don't care as long as they get theirs...and then they wonder why girls never want sex lmao

    • The guys you were suck ass. Nuff said. Anyone who says one gender doesn't care about the other is obviously mental.

  • Having been with a few more guys I can assure you that some you will have chemistry with and others you won't. It's just an automatic, you're either good together or you aren't...sounds like you had two in a row that weren't right for you...

    • The guys you wete with suck ass. Nuff said.

    • Sorry. This wasn't meant for you. Lol

  • I make sure she gets a few before I get mine

  • What kind of selfish doops were you dating?

    I'm single too but if I had a girl, priority #1 in my book is to make sure my baby is happy, then I can worry about myself.

    I once gave my EX 5 orgasms, which she then said she was to tired to continue and flopped over in the bed and went to sleep... I never got mine =/

  • It is my pleasure to give the woman orgasm before I have one. And yes I have never failed to give my mate orgasm in more then one way.

  • I have even read a book about how to give the girl great orgasms. So yeah, it is great to make the girl really happy.

  • Well, why else should I wanna have sex with her?

  • It takes practice for some couples. This isn't a bad thing as it makes you think about being promiscuous. When you do find a good guy just let him know that it takes effort to get you off and tell him what you like. DOn't pressure him but reassure him that you want him to be the first guy to make you cum. That will provide some motivation for him. Also, let him try to please you before he gets his. That should keep him working at it. As you get older your guys will be more experienced and have an easier time getting you there. Don't fret. It will happen.

  • I would consider sexuality to be incomplete if I did not give my lover an orgasm. I believe if you are alive, I could bring you off orally with enough time and a good setting. I am 25 for 25 so far.

  • I had a guy tell me to do it to my self... so insulting. I look back and think... WHAT A LOSER.

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