Which do you orgasm better from: Rough or Soft?

[Anonymous]

Which do you orgasm better from, rough/fast or soft/slow? (Could be fingering, sex, or oral sex). I'm a virgin, but I'm asking because as much as I love to be fingered fast, I just can't orgasm. Like, it will build up and as soon as he goes faster, I lose it :( The only way I can orgasm is if he barely, just barely, touches/flicks my clit. Everything feels better super slow and soft for me. Anyone else feel the same way? Take the poll and comment below if you wish. Thank you!

[honeyltsme]

Do you ski? I mean alpine skiing. When I myself started, 7 years ago, I barely moved. Earlier this season a pocket GPS I took with me clocked me at 67.73 miles per hour.

While individual preferences will vary, reflecting you and your partners' anatomies, past sexual experiences, and whatever else, fundamentally you can expect that as you more experienced you would also get more confident and adventurous. You may also get to like to mix up the drugs that your body makes when it is being made love to, i.e. add the adrenaline (risk, anxiety) and ß-endorphin ("runner's high", physically strenuous exercise) to the oxytocin ("plain-vanilla" sexual touch).

Enjoy the ride

[Asker]

Eh... it's hard to explain. I know in some women it's common for them to "lose" their orgasm, so it's hard to describe since I'm sure most men don't experience it. I'd love to go faster, but the tension that has built up will just all of a sudden disappear. I feel pretty confident in what we're doing, it's just that my body doesn't love the roughness like it loves the gentleness... If that makes sense? Just wanted to see how others feel about it too. Thanks for your answer, by the way!

[honeyltsme]

my pleasure - see 2nd answer

[pandaninja]

I found most girls I have been with like both rough and fast sex but can only come at a steady pace regardless what speed

[livelifetothefull]

I like slow and soft at first, like he's teasing me, which just makes me want it more (this is with fingering too), then I like him to get rougher and faster, but not TOO rough or fast, don't want it to start hurting

[Butterfly_kisses09]

It's easier for me to orgasm if he starts out slow and lets it build up and then starts going fast.

[Cosmogirl22]

I know just what you mean. I second that. Feels great. Ever tried the Cat? Good slow building.

[Rose321]

i like mixing both

[honeyltsme]

(2nd answer here as comment field allows to ofew characters to express an important point)

It was my pleasure, girl. It makes perfect sense as you are just starting out, and it may be a while before your body might demand a firmer or more adventurous a touch.

It takes more than a few toe-cramping orgasms after which suddenly a desire would be inside you to just give in to the abyss. You know the feeling you have during the trust exercise they sometimes do in various classes, where your partner stands on the hard floor behind you and catches you as you fall over backwards into him/her? This is the same, except you stand at the top of the abyss, and your partner is the whole universe to you, and there is no end, no bottom to your fall.

See you on the ski slopes

-- Sasha

[Ragnarok21]

We go at it like woodchucks

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I dunno, I kinda like to finger a girl slowly and do stuff slowly to tease :P but then harder and faster does seem better. Really, it'll feel the same to me in the end I think (good that is), but I'd just do how she likes it. Which, again, brings up why I encourage women to play with themselves frequently, figure out what they like, and then COMMUNICATE IT in the bedroom >.>

[Anonymous]

Rough/fast feels a lot better.