How can I make him cum?

[Anonymous]

I've been sleeping with my boyfriend of ten months for two weeks now. He was a virgin before me and I've only been with one other guy before him. Anyway, he can come when we have sex but I can't get him to come giving him oral or a hand job. He does enjoy it because he moans and has come close a few times but I just can't seem to make him cum. I was giving him oral and a handjob last night but he said that I'd have to try a lot harder to make him cum, he had to finish himself off. I feel bad because I love him and I want to make him orgasm but I just can't seem to do it. Any tips? We're both pretty new to this.

[cindys]

First, get your mind straight. Just because it’s called a “blow job” doesn’t mean you should view it as a job. He can see it on your face if you don’t enjoy sucking on his “friend” – and that’s NOT the attitude you want to convey. You have to love his cock.

It’s all about preparation. Make every blowjob one of a kind, unique, memorable. How do you prepare? Candles, good lights, music, some wine, fix up the atmosphere, spice it up. Look good. Make it special.

Throw him in the couch. Seductively, naughtily, with a sexy smile on your face. Look at him with fascination. You slowly get on your knees in front of him, unzip and take his pants off. Make a happy, surprised look – as if you just saw your favorite ice cream, and you are starving to death.

Men are visual. Pull your hair back, so that he can see you completely and enjoy the view. Massage his legs seductively, get closer to his cock. Before it grows large, put the entire thing in your warm, wet mouth – moan with pleasure. Slowly suck on his **** as it grows large in your dripping wet mouth.

A few “aaahs” and “mmms” are essential. There’s nothing better than the magic words when giving a blow job. No BJ is perfect without the right words entering his ear. Compliment him, tell him how much you love His **** in your mouth. Use your hands. Combine fast and slow strokes. Be his p*rn star, not a nun.

When you get tired, rest your mouth, stroke him. Be his “slut”, be dirty, sexual – free. Do whatever you want to do. He won’t think you’re a slut if you swallow, on the contrary – he’ll love you for it. So get dirty and slut it up.

Speed it up as you come to the finish. Involve his balls in the game. A perfect blowjob isn’t just with your mouth. Use your whole body. Let him see your sexy ass, thongs, a sexy necklace. The way to turn him on is by being turned on by yourself. You have to feel sexy in your body. It’s all about positioning.

Tickle his balls, lick them and suck on them gently. Use your sexy nails to drive him wild. Hold his shaft, lick it up and down sexily while looking him deep in the eyes.

Now you start pumping his **** faster. Fast, and short strokes. Pump, pump and pump some more. Moan louder, suck harder, stroke faster. And then – he starts shooting, and screaming, and popping his eyes out of his brain. Pull his **** out and pump it out gently. Open your mouth, show him what he gave you. Giggle. Then swallow all of it. Smile happily, give his **** a few more kisses and sucks – clean it up. ;) Of course – you can always get even better. I recommend you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, probably the best book ever written about satisfying your guy sexually, by clicking on the link

[giddyup85]

jesus christ that just made me so horny lol

[captainplanet93]

Communicate. When you give him oral or a hand job, ask him what feels good, or to tell you how you can please him better. I'm sure he'd be happy to tell you, and he'll love that you genuinely want to learn how to pleasure him better.

Vaginal stimulation of his penis to orgasm is easy: your vagina is tight (so, lots of yummy evenly-distributed pressure), it's warm, it's has a silky wetness, it has little ridges inside of it to stimulate his penis, and during intercourse his entire penis is receiving stimulation with each thrust and pull, and all those sensations combined make vaginal sex very pleasurable for him. Also during vaginal sex, he's getting the visual and psychological stimuli that come from watching as and knowing that he's inserting his penis into his woman's body. Guys love to watch "the action" during sex, and they also love to just think about what it is they're doing and what women are submissively and happily allowing them do. So, that's why he has no trouble cumming during intercourse.

But oral sex and handjobs both feel great. Ask him to show you how to improve, or to tell you how to improve. He will gladly do it. Communicate, and don't take offense when he tells you how you can improve.

[Anonymous]

Read a lot of sex guides on it

It's good to use your hands when you blow him aswell

Deepthroating feels really good

Licking the shaft and head feels really good

Playing with his balls whether you massage them with your hands or suck on them it feels really nice

Lube makes things more smoother and pleasurable, if he doesn't mind you can use some spit to get it more slick

Watch some p*rn to get the technique down, then just keep that rhythm going

[DrLover]

A little trick that a girl friend did with me was, put a finger in my ass, this actually will make a guy cum, why ? because it stimulates the mind more, and an looking into it well I found out, guys have a G spot too.

[MarcusDavis]

Let him finger UR but gently -- or with lube -- as You suck.

[bubbakong2006]

Jerk him off and suck him over your tits and say baby cum on my tits dirty talk will help make him cum all over you

[loveladies1]

Slide a vibe in him? He will cum a lot