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Is it bad to have a "Friend with Benefits?" What's your opinion please.

There is this guy I met that I kind of have a crush on. He asked for my number and we sometimes text. He told me if I am looking for a relationship he is not the right guy because he just got out of a relationship. We also joked around about having sex, but I don't think it went anywhere. Whats your opinion please. Is it a bad idea if we start having sex? I am still a virgin, but latley I am getting really horny and just want to have sex and try it out. Thanks y'all.
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  • Well, I don't think it's bad to have a friend with benefits thing. It works as long as the two people involved know that it isn't anything more than that. From your story, you say you have a crush on this guy. Do you want more than just the sex from him? Also, you're a virgin. How do you truly feel about losing your virginity to someone who is just going to be about sex and nothing else?

    Personally, my first time was with someone I truly loved and trusted and I knew he felt the same about me. It was very emotional. I almost had a friend with benefits. We had been friends for a while and it just came up one day. We both decided it wouldn't be smart because of the friends aspect. Someone was bound to get attached.

    If you're talking about having a f*** buddy, that's totally different. This would be someone who isn't really a friend and it really is just about sex, and nothing more.

  • Idk. I don't really have any problems with it, if it works out how it is supposed to. I'm in one right now. no sex involved, but most everything else. It's just a great way to relieve tension and feel that intimacy/physical closeness. I wasn't recently out of a relationship or anything, but I had just gotten to that point where I felt lonely and wanted someone to fill the space, even if it was only physically filling it. Personally I'd rather have a little something on the side than have nothing at all while I'm single. So far it's working out really well. so long as I don't start to get attached to him.

  • Lost my virginity to a FWB.

    I was 18.

    I do NOT regret giving him my virginity.

    I do, however, regret having sex with him on a regular basis after losing my virginity.

    Because within 3 months he was starting to treat me like crap.

    If you're going to lose it.

    1. You should respect the man

    2. Do it with someone you won't regret it with

    3. Have a caring attitude towards them but not that mushy love crap (that's what happened in the long run to me).

    That's the best I can say, considering I was once in your position.

    Chose wisely.

  • ok my point of view probably isn't the one you want but I'll tell you from my experience. My first was a friends with benefits I didn't love him but I liked him and I just wanted to do it. My advise to you is to give your virginity to someone you love or at least care about. You do always remember your first and it should really be special. I believe that friends with benefits is ok but usually someone gets hurt because it's hard to play games like that with out the heart getting involved. I still don't know why in the hell I let "Josh" be my first. make it special.

Most Helpful Guys

  • A sex-fling is probably the simplest and easiest relationships people can have. There are no real expectations other than sex. There is no accountability either. You do what you want as does he until you two meet up. It is a normally a discreet thing but not always. And finally, it`s the easiest to break off with because all you are doing is sex.

    Most people disagree with me, but virginity is overrated.

    The point about a sex-fling is that is really is safer than most of the moral police will ever believe. How so? You are only having sex with one person: someone you know at the least. This eliminated multiple partners and finding a total stranger who may end up a whacko with a disease.

  • I think the FWB thing is a bad idea. When people say like, "Oh that's not bad because I was into one of those before and it worked great, or I'm in one right now, etc, etc. If these people had any sense of right or wrong they'd know that random sex or sex with friends just as fun, etc, isn't the right thing to do. When you intentionally do the things that aren't right to do and make your own beliefs systems, there's always pay back time ahead of you, sooner or later you notice that things in your life aren't going as great as you had planned, and one of those will be your relationships.

    • I am so impressed with your answer and coming from a young man, I wish my daughter met someone like you. She's 18 & involved with a friend w/benefits after a bad break up 6 weeks ago. I know she's on the rebound and this guy friend has always had a crush on her.

    • So am I. HIs answers are always just so great! Go to his profile and read some of his answers.

    • Aww thanks! You're making me blush. lol!

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  • C: Depends. FWB only works out if both partners agree to have it sheerly for sex. Don't get involved. The problem is, most often times one gets attatched (sometimes both and it works out) and the other is not. This can end up hurting. Be careful. In your case I would advise against it. Especially since you have not had sex yet. Sex, most of the time creates a bond of some sort that can be hard to seperate once it's made. I say don't do it.

  • If you're a virgin I wouldn't really recommend it. Your virginity is important, you wanna share that with someone you really care about and that really cares about you.

    Otherwise I'd say go for it. FWBs are fun. I have one and we're just really close best friends that enjoy each other's company in more ways than one. lol But you have to be careful. If feelings develop that aren't mutual it's really hard to break off the sex and it hurts.

  • hell yes. I don't want ever do a friends wit benefits thing ever. it's just not me. guys who think they can have a girlfriend and other 'options', they aren't guys I'm ever interested in--i find it disrespectful

  • I used to be really horny and stuff.I'm a virgin but I have a fwb

    I sort of regret it.

    dont do it.

    when you do sexual stuff you feel like a dirty whore afterwards.

    you shouldn't do things with people that aren't your boyfriend because they are just USING you!

  • This looks fine as long as you know the deal going in. You're not going to get a relationship with this guy, at least not in the short term.

  • hmm I have no idea on this one, because I'm close to being involved in being a FWB. I think its somewhat bad because I've had a minor friend with benifits and I got attached pretty quickly, but I think I can be smarter about this one. I still have never had sex and I don't think I wanna lose my virginity to a friends with benifits, it just doesn't seem right.

  • This should be all you need to know:

    Guys love sluts when they're single and horny. But when it comes to finding a girl to marry, guys hate girls that have had sex a bunch! So I will say this - if you do have sex, do not do it alot! you will pay for it later.

    • Um... no. I love horny women. I married one and have never regretted it.

  • I think it's just being unfaithful.

  • I wouldn't just waste your virginity to someone who isn't even interested! you will regret it for the rest of your life. instead lose your virginity once you've fallen in love or are actually in a relationship

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