Why are there a lot of feminine men these days? what is the deal with these guys acting like girls?

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Now,by feminine men,I don't mean guys who shave their chest or guys who are concerned more about their grooming.(so metrosexual is not being feminine nor is having a girlie face or a weak body feminine).I am talking about those guys who talk in a girlish manner,they walk like females and the general way they present themselves is quite feminine,you know their hand movements and stuff...(but they are not gay for sure).So I am curious what's up with these guys...?Lot of them are straight(not gay or bisexual)but I see more & more of these kinda guys cropping up everywhere.

Fitzroy · Accepted Answer

People are different.

The idea of what makes a male manly was very rigid for a long time - just as 'for instance' ever watched 'That 70's Show'? American men were supposed to ALL be 100% like Red Foreman aka Dirty Harry or else they were accused of being gay-commie-bast*rds.

I still see the occasional anonymous online comment like that but mostly, men have been allowed to become a lot more individually self-identifying over the past 20 years.

Also, I am going to take a wild stab and guess you are American, possibly Mediterranean?

I have lived my life as a dual citizen (:

The definition of 'effeminate' is a lot more rigid in American culture and especially in African-American and Hispanic-American culture but not in the actual cultures of Africa or say 'Spain'. Those places,I can walk by a man who is dressed up more than myself, and he is mincing around but he will grab my a** and make some comment :D

I think Americans are just catching up with the rest of the world on what it means to be human as opposed to just a caricature.

However, I HAVE noticed that young American boys and to a lesser degree Brit boys are trying too hard to wear personas and they are being very campy because of it so, I somewhat agree with you that they are visually more prevalent but I think that the tendencies behind the behavior have been there for generations and it is just becoming more accepted in society...or resurfacing. The 60's kids were seen as too effeminate, the 1920's jazz kid boys were seen as too effeminate. Over and over so, if it is recurrent, I ask 'compared to what?'

I think it's just a kind of guy and girl.

Girly girls really annoy me.

It's really just a matter of perception, I guess.

As long as they vote, pay taxes and build a productive Life that benefits society, it does not matter what their individual proclivities are. Welcome to Europe, maybe America's world dominance is waning and everyone's turning into 'Eurotrash' now :D

BunsOsteel22 · Accepted Answer

there could be a couple of different reasons. maybe because they want to fit in with the female gender because guys have shunned them for their personality or maybe they have a high estrogen levels, maybe they want to act pretty, possibly because it draws attention to them. any of these could be reasons why. the one I think is the attention one. kinda like with lady gaga. would they get the same attention if they were to act "normal". normal is defined by a society by the people who live within it and think its of the majority of the public or something to be aimed for.

its just my opinion

amenah · Accepted Answer

Well to be Honest there isn't allot of REAL MEN left I don't see any anyways.. farmer tans are now nude sun tans. sun bleached hair is bleached hair, guys grow their hair longish then put gel in it to hold the curls. they don't half of them don't know how to work on their own cars or trim their own grass. They don't stick around to raise their children instead its single mothers raising a family of 5. I'm saying its feminine guys are just bound to happen the way the world works now days.

myspacemybroke · Accepted Answer

I kind of used to do that myself. Around when I was fifteen I dressed in pink, talked in a girlish voice and did the whole hand thing. I think it was a lot because of my upbringing. My dad was never home much, never really had much to do with me, my only friend was my sister and both her and my mum have extremely strong/forceful personalities. Plus I was fairly lazy, so I really never did a much to get the ole testosterone flowing. I think that may be a large part of it for the majority of guys like this. It used to be that guys would do the stereotypically masculine things in society, and therefore took on the persona of being more "macho" than woman. In today's society with woman's rights and all that (not even going to get into it...) woman are doing a lot more of the masculine type of things and it's more accepted than it used to be for men to more effeminate. Not that I entirely agree with it, but it does seem to be the way things are going...

It also may be that because of the amount of single mothers today guys get far more of a feminine upbringing than they used to when parent split ups were somewhat less common and they actually had a male figure in their lives.

The_Supid_Genius · Accepted Answer

I think as homosexuality and metrosexuality and all that stuff becomes more of the "norm" we can expect to see more of this  behavior  from guys in the future.  There are in fact a good number of guys who actually wish they'd been born women, so if they can act feminine amongst an increasingly open-minded society, they will.

LilRedHead · Answer

It's because in our day and age, people are becoming more accepted.  I have a few friends like this myself and some of them are dating other girls.  It's just it's the style they like whether it be people who they hang around with or what they like in the media.  And looking or being built a certain way is all dependent on genetics or not willing to build up muscle and such.

Darkfairie17 · Answer

Well maybe that is just how they are. I have no idea but I mean there are girls who are more masculine, but are still straight, so maybe it's something like that. Perhaps they grew up around a lot of women, maybe they were close to their sisters or maybe even had no male influences in their lives? Who know's, but that could be a reason. People pick up mannerisms from those who they are around most, so that could be why they are like that.

themastaplan · Answer

i honestly have no idea...ive never seen this kind of guy and if I did...i'd assume he was gay...sorry I couldn't help more :/

nikkilee666 · Answer

frankly I've never seen a guy like this who wasn't gay or bi. I agree with the first comment, maybe they lack a male role model? maybe they hang with too many female and they pick up what they do?

Just--a--Girl · Answer

maybe they never really hung around with guys as much as girls when they were younger (single mothers are becoming more common) so they pick up on the way their mums act and carry on like that. I don't really know though

wtfbbq · Answer

There's nothing wrong with it, and there's nothing "up" with them, that's just who they are. Don't over think it, just live your life and let them be who they want to be.

micamiri · Answer

I guess I just assume that really feminine guys are gay. That by being overly feminine there is no question about their sexual preference and they feel more accepted as part of a group as a queer gay guy.

I have no idea why a straight guy would act feminine. Maybe that is just their personality and they don't care what other people think about their behavior .

Cindylouu · Answer

It just them. I'm pretty sure how they grew up/ were raised is a big factor. Like, maybe they lack a father figure.

nubianqueensc · Answer

idk about that. my hairdresser is the same way

he acts sooooooooooooooooooo gay but he has a wife and two children that look just like him so they are his for sure lol

its a very diverse world theses days. you can act gay but like chicks and you can act macho and like d***...

who knows

SweetAsSugar15 · Answer

Well , I think its God's creation thingi or that they wanna get some attention from different ppl.

I bet they wanna be unique but they had jst choosen the wrong way .

In my own point of view , if God created you as a man then be one don't act like a female cz you won't be cool , you won't be unique , you will jst be a big joke !

Be your self , don't try to copy anyone to please the rest .

pawan_jasoria · Answer

Not sure why they act like that way , maybe their friend's circle , genetics, whatever it could be the reason.

Voltaire · Answer

Hmm. No idea.  Never noticed that, personally. All the guys I've known that have acted like that have been either gay or closeted.

kereru · Answer

What does it matter?

Most us girls these days would be considered to act very " manly" in comparison with what was considered feminine traditionally (weak, meek, submissive, never talking back, dumb, Skirts, quiet) but society has moved on, Woman have become stronger, more assertive and men don't have to be macho silent rocks anymore.

it doesn't bother me.

GeneralSarcasm · Answer

Honestly.. I think they chose to act like a woman

Habakkuk · Answer

i think it's the guys that hang out with girls predominately, they can certainly be straight, thus the reason they hang out with girls, but if they're the only people they hang out with.. then they can be influenced by them.

BrokenMe · Answer

maybe they have more female friends than guy friends or they just think that we would say that they're being cute this way but for sure they're totally wrong :D

calialltheway1993 · Answer

Maybe because they grew up with girls, lots of sisters, mother, aunts etc. so theyre used to acting feminine

sexkitten61 · Answer

well what can I say its great to be a woman and yall just wanna be like us.

ZenQueen · Answer

Women being the shopaholics isn't enough, Industry wants more consumers! buy, buy , buy! make up for boys! designer clothes! men's handbags! men's jewelry!lol, why not, I can see it. Guys are so fem these days... my ex would go tanning and would get his hair styled and pay tons for shoes and clothes O.o  I know it feels good and makes you more confident, but seriously, who are you trying to impress?