Why are so many girls such whores these days going around and spreading their legs for tons of guys?
I don't understand why it's so hard for so many girls to have some self respect. Most of the girls I know have multiple sexual partners at once which is so disgusting. They are willing to accent a friends with benefits title which is actually kinda insulting because it's like the guy is saying "I'll screw you because you're an easy piece of ass but take you home to meet my mother? Introduce you to people who are important to me? Take my time and money to get to know you then give you the title of being my girl? No." In my eyes, a guy who will have you as a friend with benefits is basically saying you're a sex object; nothing more, nothing less. Yet because some girls have no self control, they don't mind that at all! what the hell! Then some of them are actually dumb enough to sincerely say "Welll I'm using him too so it's okay" No, it's not okay. Then it's like they're actually proud of their slutty behavior like it's some badge of honor that they have sexual experience. When in reality, it makes them look like used goods. It's nasty for a girl to have had so many penises in her mouth or to have had a lot of guy's come and penises in her. I'm sorry but that just seems like a vagina would be dirty and smelly after that. A key that can open many locks is a master key but a lock that can be opened by many keys is just a sh*tty lock.
I just don't understand how a female can have such lack of proper respect for her body. Sex is viewed as recreational activity these days! It's ridiculous. I just don't get it, someone please understand. It's also really frustrating when girls like this try to get girls like me who do not want to give my body to any guy unless he really cares about me and has given me the title, to whore around with them. Why do they do that? Girls, if you're like this please explain why. Guys, what do you honestly think of girls like this? It seems like you like them because hey, they'll give you all the orgasms you want but at the end of the day I've heard a lot of guys are not cool with that. I dated a really hot guy who was really bothered by the fact that his girlfriend had slept with five other guys.
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Your a rare breed, I only wish more girls had your vision and mentality, because your right, girls are being used, left right and centre, but they don't believe it, and they think its cool to only have a friend if she sleeps with him, otherwise the bloke wouldn't want to know her, so by a girl doing this, not only is she showing other men how easy she is, but the reputation she gets, is going to stick with her as she gets older, and guys will remember, that she had yoyo knickers and a buttery crotch and dirty oven. Not something a girl wants when she is 25 plus, because that's when she will be seriously thinking of settling down, but what will she have to offer? nothing, she would of shagged all her talents away, so any nice guy worthy, won't want to touch her with their mates penis, let alone his own, so I admire your vision, a lot of girls have a lot to do to come close to being close to your mental attitude, you have talent, and that won't go unnoticed, good luck,x
What Guys Said 11
"Why do they do that?" - Insecurity and a lack of a belief in a better purpose in life.
"...what do you honestly think of girls like this?" - I feel bad for them and do my best not to get involved (although once or twice in the past, I've fallen victim to lust and my own weaknesses).
"It seems like you like them because hey, they'll give you all the orgasms you want but at the end of the day I've heard a lot of guys are not cool with that." - I'm very cool with it when I'm on the winning end of it, but I never respect it and would never get serious with a girl who uses her body and sexuality as a bargaining chip.
Well I can see your point , ofc it goes that way for guys too .
But its people that decide what they want and what not .
And I don't really think that we actually can change this world , after all it was a rotten piece of sh*t before we were even born .
And after all we still are the animals we was from the beginning or worst , so the more adaptive will survive .. That's how it goes and probably how it always was on the background .
So hating among each other does not really change a thing .
Btw I don't focus on relationships , its like that in everything I see around .. Anyway that's my point of view .
I will only date a virgin... Experienced girls aren't for me
I don't think they shrink the population of "satisfying men" in the long run. When a guy is ready to settle down a girl like you he'll want to do it with. We are not idiots, a few friends with benefits won't turn us into pigs, but until we find the "one" why not enjoy the freebies.
I think the problem is women that sleep around with a lot of guys and that is seperate from women that have fwb. Sleeping with many people is wrong in my opinion. It is not safe and it is just pointless. Having friends with benefits is healthy though. It is the situation where you guys both like each other just not passionately enough to want a serious thing out of it. Maybe she has a great booty and awesome boobs but not my preference in face, maybe I am built like she wants a man to be in the sack but not exactly her type when it comes to other factors. So we can still have physical attraction and have fun. I have had several friend with benefits and it is a simply good sex and not much else.
Although I wouldn't keep a girl as my girlfriend if I knew she had sex with a bunch of guys or was in a one night stand, it's none of my business what kind of sexual past every girl has. Why is this important to you? If you don't approve of these things, you just don't do them.
Basically, its grown out of a few trends
1) shortage of men in certain environments which really destabilizes the dating 'world '. Specifically, inner city areas where a significant portion of young men are in jail, university campuses, especially liberal arts schools where there is a serious female-male ratio difference, and even in some urban areas. Big urban areas actually have more women then men, and those women tend to be pursuing a subset of men with 'good' jobs. Anytime more women are pursuing fewer men, monogamy starts fading. If you have 8 women and 6 men, the two least desirable women don't sit home being sad, they sleep with other girl's boyfriend. And that girl then figures if she's just sleeping with some guy, she might as well sleep with the 'best' guy. And the more that continues, the more the most sought after guys start being totally uninterested in relationships, which reinforces the whole thing.
2) female empowerment. Women used to look to men as providers, etc. A lot of guys with weak social skills who may not have been good looking could still have a decent job and be a decent husband by old definitions. As women are more able to take care of themselves, they view men as an enjoyable add on. Fewer men are that much fun, and its likely that many women now would rather have sex and fun with a super fun exciting guy (who is also sleeping with three other women) then have a stable relationship with a boring guy. She doesn't need the stability, so she doesn't _really_ need monogamy. Most guys can only financially support one woman, but if all a woman wants is sex and fun, she can 'share' a guy.
The long term impact if girls do this during their peak years of attractiveness, then decide they want to flip to monogamy is unclear. The most sought for guys are loathe to embrace monogamy, and when they do, many seem to prefer to pick a girl who has not slept around - and they can do so. Meanwhile, there's a pool of guys who were ignored who are not that excited about settling down with a girl who's had her fun when he's just ready to START having fun - and quite often now has a better income, and in fact can more easily get women then when she was ignoring him.
What Girls Said 14
I hate that people always assume if a girl isn't having sex with a guy she's serious with, "she's being used" whenever she has sex with someone. Some of us like having casual sex because as enjoy it, and as long as we use protection and know what were getting into there is nothing wrong with that! I love friends with benefits and I don't feel like I'm being "used" because I wouldn't want the guy to meet my parents or anything! Sex CAN be recreation and that's the reality for some, girls who like the sleep with more than one guy don't "ruin" romance, if a guy is truly "pure" and only sleeps with people he loves no "slut" is going to change that
I am a girl like you, I mean I can't have sex without being truly in love with a guy so I just had one sex partner...
I do think its insane how girls can suck so many guys, much more than intercourse actually ...
HOWEVER it's not fair only guys be slutty and sleep around, girls can do it to if they feel like it...
In my opinion people whether a guy or a girl should be more involved to have sex...
but you can't judge the girls and not the guys...its not fair I admire somehow this girls that make guys as objects...
why is the reason they do it, just for pleasure...
I think that promiscuous people really have ruined romance. Yes guys can be promiscuous too but I'm more disappointed in the girls who are. Why? Women release the hormone Oxytocin whenever they have intercourse, which is the same hormone that's released during breastfeeding to bond the mother to her baby. It's disgusting to think that there are girls out there that would want to share such a deep and intimate bonding experience with a random guy or a fwb. I don't understand how any woman can think that's okay (unless they never want to settle down at some point). A lot of women are claiming it's a double standard if guys can sleep around and not be as harshly judged as girls who sleep around, but males and females don't have the same physiology. So if there is indeed a double standard present, it is one that's created by nature.
Not all FWB are like hooker clients who just walk through the door for five minutes and then just leave. I've FWB's myself, though because I'm bisexual the guys know they're not going to elevate to boyfriend or husband status with me. Though there are guys who are okay with that, it does complicate things which I don't want to go through with at this time. And the trouble with bf's is that they sometimes start to take you for granted, for all lack of competition, and just "screw you" because they don't have to do more than that. So you start to feel used like with the FWB status you mention earlier in your topic, where guys just have sex with you.
2. Fighting for social equality cont
Okay, so I'm sure you've noticed all the dudes complaining about " gender roles -" as in the guys always having to
Pay for dates
Be chivalrous etc -
Well, guys feel it is unequal and unfair that only men are expected to do those things - so that societal norm is in flux.
What that means is now women are being actively encouraged to approach men, pay half way or totally pay for a date or two, be as sweetly gestured as men etc -
Likewise, women are complaining about gender roles such as:
Women have to be innocent / pure - are not allowed to be as aggressive sexually as men, or demonstrate a need for sex.
Women have to be submissive to men.
Women have to be the primary care givers for family etc - not able to pursue a career as guys do.
These ideas are in flux as well. Which means, women are being more sexually free, more dominant / head strong in fields of life, and pursuing careers and goals to the fullest - taking advantage of the rights that we use to not have a little while ago ultimately.
What I don't understand is why dudes are screaming for equality for the genders, but then turn around and complain about the idea when women try to get our equality as well?
It's like, men can throw away their societal created gender roles and be fine - but once women try to support and follow through the SAME idea - it's suddenly a huge problem for society.
But that's to be expected - the world is still pretty much male dominated (for now,) so naturally that power and authority would create a favor of rights / advantages for the males :\
So yea, what your describing has a lot more to do with the rapid changing going on in society - our generation just happens to be the one born right in the middle of such a flux, and supporting them.
Women and sex have always been something society has desperately wanted to control - because face it, no one wants to recognize that a woman who knows her sex and how to use it, is beautiful, has a lot of damn power, and is pretty threatening for the dominative male complex.
We we're beaten for just looking at other guys, beaten by our husbands, spat on, stoned to death, raped, forced into submission, sexually imprisoned -
That's really the life people want for us women? Slaves to our sexuality because men don't agree?
But I thought guys wanted equality? Is not having women be as liberated as guys not equality?
And that lock analogy is a poor representation - sure a lock that can be opened by several is bad - but a key should only be reserved for a few locks to unlock.
That analogy is pretty much saying women aren't as valuable - and men are the master keys that have a right to open every treasure they desire.
This situation usually has nothing to do with having no self respect - actually most the girls who do it are rather confident / arrogant.
Like look at the women on reality shows like bad girls club or jersey shore if you watch them - if not I'll give you the low down.
These women are very beautiful, sexy attractive etc - they can pull any guy they want really. Often they go out and have casual sex with men, just for the sake of sex. Is it slutty? Only because their girls.
The guys of course can go out and have sex with as many girls as they want, and are praised for it.
So for you stressing the point about girls who go out and have casual sex and calling them sluts, your feeding into that double standard and supporting the idea that women aren't allowed to have free sexual choice as men are. Why not?
There's a fine line between being a slut, and having an active / healthy sex life.
Often most people fail to see the difference.
A slut obviously goes around and has sex with several different men, at different times or the same time - doesn't care who the guy is, just wants the sex.
A sexually healthy / active female usually sticks with a boyfriend if she has one, may do a FWB with a very close guy friend (maybe, and only with 1 guy,) or maybe have casual sex with a fling she met on a night out. But that aspect is more rare.
Sexually active / healthy women still have their emotions about them most the time, and would rather have some type of connection with the guy other than sexual. Sluts just want sex, or money / sex, whatever their trying to impulsively gain.
The main thing your describing here however - actually has nothing to do with sluts or sexually healthy women - actually, women and how we express our sexuality is a smaller expression of how society is changing.
We've hit an age where two things are happening; 1 - women are becoming more dominative, and 2 - both genders are fighting for this idea of social equality.
1. Women becoming more dominative.
Over the history of this country, I'd say modern day is the time in which women have the most rights and freedoms than ever. Women have become profoundly more independent, head strong, and ambitious, compared to our submissive ancestors. Naturally, with this new liberated, strong, independent mindset, women are going to do, what the f*** they want to do - regardless of who doesn't agree. Pussy rules the world, so men can complain and other women can complain, but your breath is honestly wasted, as men will continue to date these women regardless.
2. Both genders fighting for they idea of social equality.
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I just think all girls are different and they have different beliefs and morals. A girl that has had over 70 partners like one girl on here that posted a question is pretty sick. I don't think that these girls don't have respect for themselves though but just want to have fun and enjoy their life. The truth is that most guys don't have respect for girls that do that but they do it themselves so f*** them. If a guy wants to mess around and have fun then he should be with someone like himself. There are guys that have their fun and then marry a virgin which is wrong. Promiscuous girls do make it very easy for guys to cheat and I don't respect home wrecker's. I'm not into fwb's and take sex very seriously but I don't judge girls that do it as long as they don't mess with guys that are taken. I also think that your question should be addressed to both guys and girls. Everybody should have a certain amount of respect for themselves regardless of their sex.
I have self-respect, I simply have a different point of view about sex than you do.
I see sex as a natural thing. It's enjoyable, not dirty or shameful, and I don't see it as necessary to limit sexual activity only to long-term, committed relationships.
I don't "accept" a friends with benefits title---if I'm in a friends with benefits relationship, it's because that's the type of relationship I *want*. Is it insulting to him if I don't introduce him to my mother? No, it's the type of relationship that both him and I are CHOOSING for ourselves. How is that insulting?
And for the record, I've never had a friend with benefits who treated me as nothing more than a sex object. They treat me as a friend---and also we have sex with each other.
I don't see having sex with a person as that person "using" me. To me, sex is a SHARED experience that I've decided to engage in.
I have self-control as well, but since I view sex differently than you, I don't feel the need to prevent myself from having sex with a person that I want to have sex with.
"I'm sorry but that just seems like a vagina would be dirty and smelly after that."
This may come as a surprise to you, but the vast majority of people shower.
"A key that can open many locks is a master key but a lock that can be opened by many keys is just a sh*tty lock."
This is a stupid metaphor, but it's especially disgusting coming from a woman. This metaphor condemns women for being sexually promiscuous while simultaneously praising men for the same thing. Why do you so readily accept that double standard?
Obviously there are a lot of differences between you and I, but I think the most important difference to point out is that you judge other women harshly because they have a different point of view than you, whereas I completely respect a woman if she chooses to reserve sex only for someone she loves, or for marriage, or whatever else she chooses. I believe that a person has the right to their own body, and so long as they aren't hurting anyone, who am I to judge? What other people do in their sexual lives doesn't affect me.
I'm not a slut, I'm a person---and a pretty nice one at that. And since you're so interested in other people's sex lives, I'll let you know that I engage in safe sex and treat all my partners with respect and dignity and won't settle for any less from them.
I find it very sad that people feel the need to shame, insult, and stigmatize others like you have in this post.
I think a better question is why are girls so judgmental and hard on one another? Who are you to judge someone else for their life choices. Mind your own business, and don't try and thrust your traditionalist ideals upon others.
So long as a girl (or guy) is being safe and doing it for their enjoyment - go for it. I don't care anyway. If it doesn't affect me, it's not my problem nor business. I agree with Heatherlu, I've had casual sex and it's not for attention, validation or a "badge of honour". It's because I enjoy it and am comfortable with the people I choose to do it with. I'm not proud, nor embarrassed. I'm neutral. I don't see it as having no respect for my body, I'm just indulging it.
Hmm, I don't think its necessarily a lack of self respect, I actually think a ot of women noawdays are just more open and willing to admit that they also want casual sex without necessarily having commitment sometimes...and I don;t think there's anything wrong with that as long ad they're responsible and safe about it...and don't tell eveytne about it!
You're just asking for trouble.
But yeah, I've had some casual sex in my time. It has nothing to do with not having self respect. I don't use my sexuality to try and gain respect, or judge a person's quality by what sex they've had.
When I have sex it's because I enjoy it and because I want it. And the person I'm having sex with feels the same way.
I don't wear my sexual history as a badge of honour, nor do I feel ashamed of it.
Yes, I've heard plenty of guys on here saying they wouldn't look twice at someone with a sexual past like mine (which to be honest isn't bad at all) but I've never met a guy like that in real life. Maybe it's a cultural thing, but guys here seem to be okay with the fact that girls have a life before them, just like they did.