Multiple reasons. First of all most guys don't want to commit to a girl who's been ran through. If you've had multiple FWBs then your reputation is probably f***ed up. Guys tell other guys and brag about what girls they mess with, so if you've messed with multiple guys your name is out there and that means that when it comes time to settling down, a guy is gonna go for a girl who doesn't have her name in the streets like that
Another thing some girls fail to realize is that we hold the power. That's why some guys resent us because it's true. We got the kitty kat, we make the rules. Only the woman can decide where and when they have sex. If you said no and waited then the guy couldn't have sex with you. But if you give it up easy for whatever reason, then what incentive does the guy have to get to know you better? Men want sex first and maybe a relationship if they feel compatible. They aren't like women who are looking for a commitment, many guys would be happy to stick a different girl everyday if they could but you're the one who wants a commitment so don't give it up so easily. They will take the sex happily but why would they want to date you? After they nut they got the conquest and the thrill done with you, but the OTHER girl the one that held out and got to know him, bonded with him and waited is the one who catches his feelings.
That doesn't mean that just because you wait that every guy will want to date you because that isn't true. There are a lot of guys that just want sex, that's all the want and no amount of strategy will get them to want a relationship with you. HOWEVER, not settling for FWB will weed these guys out and get rid of them faster. You need to develop a better screening process. Get to know these guys, talk to them and see what he's about before you waste any feelings on him. Let him do most of the talking so you can analyze what type of guy he is and what he's looking for before you sleep with him.0 1 0 0That's what you put yourself out to be..
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I'm sorry, I have a friend like this, and honestly.. I don't understand it too well. But it seems to become a cycle of sorts.. You have to be willing to not do anything with guys and prove that you're worth more than just being a Friend to someone. Break the cycle, even if it means not having a "Boyfriend". It'll be hard, but there are good people who can help you if you need and are really committed to making things better.
1 0 0 0I did that with the last guy I dated. We went out 5 times and it was great, on the 5th date he kissed me and then hasn't spoken to me since. That was about a month ago...I really don't get it. :(
I'm sorry.. I don't have all the answers. =j Trust me, I wish I did... Maybe you should try a different circle? like, expand to a different group?
Be yourself and don't accept FWB..There is nothing wrong with you, you just land on the wrong guys. I think you want those "bad guys" because all your friends find them cool. There are guys who prey for one date but are put in the shadows because those bad guys take all the attention. But again it all down to how you spot the right guy not the loudest.
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2 3Because a lot of guys want no strings sex... Best way to stop it, be more selfish, expect a guy to date you before even considering giving them it, it's also good to make them wait to see if they're just after sex.
2 1 0 0Because that is what you settle for
1 0 0 0maybe you're too easy?
0 1 0 0But...I'm not. I've only had sex with one guy. When I'm seeing a guy it's usually pretty casual and I don't usually try to have a "what is this" talk until about 2 months in or so and by that time we're usually just about to get to 2nd/3rd base tops.
maybe you're too hard then lol. 2 months is kind of a long time to wait, I think if you like them from the start you should let them know that you want a relationship. if they say they're not interested at least you'll know early and won't be wasting time
Stop dating/ f***ing douches.
0 0 0 0just cause they have different agendas doesn't mean that they are douches
You're assuming I define a person as a douche because of their "agendas". That's false.
i agree with shacodraco, I think you should put your foot down and let them know that your not a joke
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