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Sexual Health Guy friend used me for sex?
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I've been having a problem with this guy who use to be one of my close friends. From the beginning I knew he wasn't a real good guy but I just enjoyed hanging around him. Like the reason why he wasn't so great was because he once was leading me on thinking that he liked me and wanted to hang out with me. When we finally made plans to go hang out, he never called me on that day and got back together with his xgf. I wasn't bothered, just upset that he didn't call me to let me know ahead of time. We stayed friends before and after he broke up with his xgf again. Till the end of the year it was graduation, so I gave him a small graduation present, and he said that he wanted to hang out over the summer. Well it never happened because I guess I wasn't giving him the right answers to his weird questions? like he would ask "what would you do if you saw me in the shower" or "if we would cuddle?" So yeah I knew that he wanted me for sex the whole time but I stopped talking to him for several months to sort out my own thoughts on him. I was so mixed up of whither or not I felt the same way and was sexually attracted to him or just have him a friend. Finally I started talking to him and told him how I felt so of course he really wanted to see me again. We finally had sex, it wasn't what I thought it was either, and so he left again. Now I just feel like crap because now I probably can never be friends with him again or talk to him when I really want too. I don't understand why but I really enjoy it when he's around to just talk too. I could lose the sex too but now I really just want him in my life. I know I'm really dumb for wanting a guy around and treats me like crap. But I really don't know what to do. I haven't tried talking to him since we had sex and that was almost a month ago. I have no idea what to do or how to move on when I need too? I don't know why I want him in my life? Can someone please help?
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What Girls & Guys Said
3 1I know how you feel. I have been through that too. You want him because you feel you invested so much time and even a part of yourself in him. It seems like you should get some return on that investment (aka a relationship). But, oops, you made a bad investment! He turned out to be a jerk! So, chalk it up to experience, get involved in something else, and move on. He's a scumbag and he used you to have your body. I know it hurts, but he doesn't want to be your friend. If he had, he would respect you a lot more. Move on and soon enough you will start to feel better. And whatever you do, DON'T GO BACK TO HIM! It will ONLY lead to heartache.
Drop him.
Find somebody better for you and your mind will drift away.
A "friend with benefits" is an ok thing to have, but you're emotionally attached and it wouldn't work out in this case. You deserve somebody who will treat you properly and it doesn't sound like that's him.
I think you already know you shouldn't be with him.
I felt the same way. Last year I bet him through my friend and then he adding my fb page. He told me he had crush on me. I knew the red flag but I try dare not to. I know he good person but wasn't good person. He is my first love then we did sex last year. This year something change, he told me he want to be friend and not ready commit relationship. It waste my time almost for nothing I thought he in love me but turn out to be used me for sex. There is no going back because I have no regard for it. I know some girl are sensitive to believe him but wasn't it like fake love , two face behind back. It take long time to move on and focus myself try to forget about him. I can't hold him so I have to let him go do whatever he want but I'm sure he will do the same thing with other girls. He pretty selfish and greedy and hungry for sex.
I think you're "emotionally attached" to him since you guys had sex which is very common. You have to realize that you deserve better. This guy is just going to keep using you. I can understand wanting to keep him in your life as a friend but he hasn't even been a good friend to you. The fact that you acknowledge this is a good sign. Do yourself a favor and cut off all contact. Move on. There are plenty of other guys out there who will be there for you either as a boyfriend or a friend. If he cared about you he would be in your life in a positive way. He knows he can take advantage of you any time he wants so let him know you have the upper hand and want nothing to do with him.