What do men really think about friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

"Friends with benefits" or "Fling" situations... from a man view perspective... is it possible to move from that stage to a serious relationship or is that the highest point of a relationship that starts that way?

[kheserthorpe]

Its like asking if a guy can move from 'friends' to dating with a woman. Yeah, it can happen, it usually won't, and if it does, the odds are she was somewhat attracted to him right from the start (though timing may have prevented more).

A guy has to be MORE interested in a girl to want to date her then to do FWB. So some girls you might do FWB with but be open to more, especially if you start wanting a relationship. But other girls you'd never go further with because you aren't interested in them enough. The threshold for a young woman to pass for a guy to be willing to have sex with her is not very high. So most girls you'd have sex with (if you do casual sex) you would not actually date. But some you might.

[Eiffelgirl21]

another great answer =]]

[squeakyclean]

yes, it is possible if I start having feelings for you. but it's kind of hard to control whether you feel for a person or not. it just comes naturally.

[Asker]

so the fact that what you are having with her started just as something physical- does not affect the possibilities of something becoming serious?

[squeakyclean]

yes, I think it might affect my feelings for her in a positive manner, but I would not say definitely. it could be possible that I never wanted her as my girlfriend and just saw each other as friends that help each other climax.

[Asker]

gotcha! :)

[Eiffelgirl21]

It is REALLY hard to move from FWB to relationship, but if you are willing to stay with him and continue to be FWB for a long time, then yes it can happen. I am proof that it can happen =) However, it was not my decision to be FWB, it was his. I did not want to be FWB I am more of a relationship type and he was not. I also agree with what a guy said on here, they have to be more interested in you and you also have to be different than other women (stand out).

[rudy37lee]

It's possible to go from FWB to a relationship. However, if you have your eyes set on a guy, and you HAVE YET to sleep with him, I would wait. Your chances of getting into a relationship with him are better if you hold off on the physical stuff. He'll respect you more, you will be more likely girlfriend material than if you sleep with him.

[dudeman]

only if she's done that with every guy, preferably been with zero guys, if not this is just a good way to piss a guy off, making him wait and giving it up fast to others

[rudy37lee]

Why do you need to know exactly what she's done with every other guy? She had a life before you and you can't hold that against her. If you aren't going to like the answer, don't ask the question. I'm in a relationship and we both have a sexual past, he hasn't asked me a lot about mine and vice versa, why would he want to know exactly what I've done sexually in past relationships? He doesn't want to think about other guys touching me, so he doesn't ask. It works for us.

[Raiden]

It can go to relationship but it might raise a lot of questions like, who else are you friends with benefit with? are you this friendly with all the guys that you know loool? and its just goes mad when you have feeling for the person but they are still on a friends with benefit mode and etc.

But its all your choice by the end of the day :)

[armyguy176]

it depends on the people involved. If they are a good personality match and are attracted to each other, then yeah.

[20Questions]

In my experience it can't develop from there, like there's a block in that place in your heart, maybe for other people it's different

[dudeman]

i think, they are for women who I will never consider for anything serious or women who I will cheat on

[Izzy_21]

if you already know your going to cheat on her, you shoudn't even start anything with her

[dudeman]

i don't agree, just because you are going to cheat doesn't mean you're not allowed to have a family and stuff, seems these days lots if not most women have slept around, does that mean I can't be with them so they can have my children and we can create a home for our kids and have an otherwise happy life, of course it doesn't. ill just be cheating the entire time, but you can't tell me that I get one or the other because I want a virgin but that doesn't seem so possible not anymore anyways

[Asker]

so basically you are saying that because women don't get virgin to marriage you are allowed to cheat on them?

[dudeman]

its just the realities of the world really, I'm just not going to let myself get ripped off on any deal really

[dudeman]

yes if they have had sex with other men, yes I will cheat on them and not feel bad about it. that is exactly what I am saying. lucky I am currently dating a virgin who plans on staying that way till she's married and we will see how that goes

[Izzy_21]

well first of all it's not completley impossible to find a virgin. Second of all your horrible, unless you tell her before she get pregnant, she shouldn't punished for what she did in her past. She would have the chance to find a guy who accepts who she is, whom she could be happy with

[dudeman]

in a perfect world that would be the thing to do, but this isn't a perfect world and I have wants and needs only a women can fufill and I'm not going to just not have kids because I can't find a decent girl, ill just go for genetics and stability

[Asker]

can you explain to me how will you be getting ripped off here? if you sleep around before marriage why would women had to behave any different? and how is having a happy marriage life will lead you to cheat on them?

[dudeman]

because her vagina is used and she's older, somebody else got the best of her and I'm paying full price. so I'm getting ripped off.

[dudeman]

want to be with a women who works well with me and we have a decent thing going, just because ill cheat on her doesn't really mean anything I'm just having sex with other women, she's had sex with other men so its not like sex is special to her really

[Asker]

are you just trying to piss people off in here? or you actually mean that and are a completely selfish ass? you don't know what's the best of her! and because she's older? who do you think you are? like you are going to get any better with the years, also your penis (if you had any!) is use too!

[dudeman]

im just getting ripped off, paying full price for used car value. She's been with other men, probably sucked their d*** maybe swallowed their come did god knows what. And now that's she's older and wanting to settle down I have to pay two or three times as much as those guys in here younger day to get a girl that has a used vagina, doesn't look nearly as good and has baggage on top of that, rip off is all that comes to mind

[Asker]

so can she cheat on you too? after all just because she cheat doesn't really mean anything, she's just having sex with other men, right?

[dudeman]

im not trying to piss anybody off, men also get better looking with age, at least that's what it seems like if you stay in shape of course. yes guys get better with age for about a decade past when women start getting worse. Also there is nothing selfish on what I said, nothing out of the ordinary at least nothing most people wouldn't do.

[dudeman]

no because she can get pregnant so she can't cheat duhhh

[dudeman]

but if we are older and what not and no longer having children, I guess id be OK with the swinger lifestyle

[dudeman]

but her reproductive years are mine

[Izzy_21]

she can get pregnant so she can't cheat?

[dudeman]

you got it

[dudeman]

hey all she has to do is not have sex with other guys before me and we are all good, when she does she loses a lot of things I'm willing to do as a man for her, one of them is only having sex with her for the rest of my life

[Izzy_21]

you'd be surprised by how many men have a pregnancy fetish. Anyways, do you somehow think that be virginal makes a woman a good wife? I don't get where the big difference is in your mind, wether she is a virgin or not

[dudeman]

well I think if she's a virgin passed the age of twenty or so that speaks a lot as to who she is as a person and feel she will be more loyal. The big difference in my mind is her simply having sex with other men, sucking their d*** swallowing their come getting cummed on, that is one hell of a big difference to have a wife whos done that with other men and who hasnt, more has to do with how I feel about the relationship and my perception of myself really, id think low of myself if I settled

[Izzy_21]

I feel the same way about men who have had many partners, but just one or two?

[dudeman]

well it depends on how long they were active with those one or two, but I'm going to say yes if it was like they had sex once then I can get over that people are allowed to make mistakes but if not then its all about me and that's how I'm going to play it

[Izzy_21]

that's horrible