My friends with benefits is so annoying!

[Anonymous]

I have a friends with benefits and we are friends with benefits only. I asked him if he wanted a girlfriend and he said No. After we are done having sex he is all cuddly. He wants to kiss me after and hug and talk. He also give me really affectionate petnames. He text me sometimes without being the least sexual. He does a lot of things he don't need to do when you are friends with benefits or booty-call. He even offered to pay for my pizza when we were watching a movie! I have told him he don't need to do all those things because I will still have sex with him but he says it's just the Way he is. I realized that he was like that with all girls and said it out loud. I was happy because that meant that It's nothing after all but then he said that I'm special and he means every sweet Word he say to Me. He don't want a girlfriend so why the Hell does he put out the effort to treat me like one when he's going to get sex anyway?

[katiesmuff]

FWB's is pretty much my life. I am not and have not been in relationships, I go to swing clubs and have a good number of FWB's (guys I have known for sometime and newer ones introduced to me by the older ones) and the one thing I have learned is they are not p*rn stars. First off they are FRIENDS which means we like each other, would do things together like movies, dancing, dinner, fun (non sexual) days at one's home doing something like TV movie and pizza for example. Now we add the BENEFITS which is where you and this friend have decided to satisify each others sexual urges without the relationship baggage.

These are not ONS's, stranger sex etc, but a good f*cking from someone you know and are friends with.

[Asker]

That is exactly what I mean= we are Friends. I don't kiss and cuddle my friends and I don't give them petnames so why should he feel like doing it to me when he's getting the benefit= sex part anyway? Seriously it feels like he tries to trick me into liking him romanticaly.

[katiesmuff]

Kissing while his penis is inside you would seem likely (at least with me it is) and these would be passionate kisses, but we both know that there are different kisses. Do I kiss my friends the answer would be yes, but it is not that passionate kiss you would find between those in a relationship. It would be not the norm for him to want deep passionate kisses when not naked with you. Just a friendly peck other times is quite normal.

[Anonymous]

Look I feel like you are almost trying to put up this wall of defense, so you don't develop feelings for him, I've seen girls do that with FWBs. Ether 1) he likes you but doesn't know how you feel 2) he is your friend so he is being nice, what's wrong with that? 3) he likes you but doesn't want a commitment.

It sounds like you are almost defensive about him treating you as possibly more than a piece of ass. I think you either like him or fear growing attached, because otherwise it wouldn't make you so...angry...that he treats you like this.

[Asker]

Yes, I don't want to start liking him because then I'll be deep in the sh*t. Just don't get why he does that when he have told me he don't want to date me.

[Opinion Owner]

Because maybe he can't make up his mind. I think that if you know he won't date you and feel like he is playing mind games you should end it. Maybe it will even leave him a bit surprised and you'll get to see his true intentions.

[Asker]

Nah I have already mentioned that I would like a relationship but I know it won't work haha! Guess I have to dump him before he actually makes me think I'm more to him.

[Opinion Owner]

yeah then I would definitely end it, the longer you wait the more attached you will get. I am sure you will find a great guy who wants to be in a relationship with you and make you happy in every way

[Anonymous]

Trick you into liking him? Girl you are seriously paranoid. Maybe FWB isn't the best situation for you. I Think you may be better off with someone who really wants to be in a relationship with you, it seems like you are repressing your emotions.

[Asker]

I have only found guys who wants to f*** me. No one wants to date me so it's hard for me to get sex without a fwb. Guess I just have to break up with him and starve then Haha!

[Opinion Owner]

I am sure someone will want to date you. It sounds like you are probably young, at this age it is harder to find guys to be serious with. Keep hanging on and don't sacrifice yourself for someone else.

[Anonymous]

when you said 'do you want a girlfriend' did you say it about yourself

because if you didn't then he might have said 'no' as he didn't want you to think he liked someone else

Or it could just be the way he is

[Asker]

Couldn't care less if he likes someone or not. I'm just there to f*** so I don't get why he would put up with all that effort.

[yopyopyop]

Oh yeah, he's treating you in a gentleman's way, so annoying. I feel your pain.

[Asker]

Totally. He don't have to try serenade me when I'm already f***ing him.

[yopyopyop]

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[Marshall454]

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[-Darling]

LOL @ that link,hahhahahha

[-Darling]

You're overthinking everything. Just enjoy yourself and take things day by day with a smile instead of getting annoyed over the fact that he doesn't want to treat you like sh!t

[RealMenFly]

Some guys like doing that, hell, I think most guys like doing that.

[Anonymous]

Ohh poor you. A guy is treating you nice and you are complaining. You don't deserve a guy like him so just move on to the next f*** buddy.