He said he just wants to be friends, so why does he KEEP STARING at me?

I started liking my guy friend and thought he liked me because he treated me emotionally like a girlfriend: hugging, kiss on forehead, hand holding, bringing me soup when I was sick, and staring at me in class. When I told him that this made me think he liked me he said he hugged me and brought me soup because it's a responsibility as a good friend. He never acknowledge the starting. I'm not crazy, I see him looking at my from the corner of my eye and sometimes catch him when I turn my head, he then looks away. WHY does he do that!? He's not sexually attracted to me apparently, so why does he keep looking at me. It's annoying. He has a friends with benefits and he said they are going to try to develop their r/s. I'm tired of guys doing this to me. I'm black, he's white, and his mom's a racist, could that matter? but the girl he's screwing is Asian. I am trying to move on here, but he keeps staring at me and looking away when I catch him. Before I told him how I felt, when I would catch him staring, he would give me a smile.
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  • It could be that he likes you and finds you attractive, but for whatever reason doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. That happens all the time, especially in high school.

    It could be that this other girl has too much sway over him, or that he's been friends with you too long to realize that you are an option for dating, or that his parents wouldn't approve, or a million other reasons.

    He's messing with your emotions by holding your hand, kissing you, etc ... that's not how "good friends" treat each other, it's how boyfriends treat their girlfriends. It could be that he enjoys "playing" your boyfriend without actually having any of the commitment that comes along with BEING your boyfriend.

    If you like HIM, you basically have two options here: you can just accept that he sees you as a friend and not as someone to date, and enjoy that relationship for what it is, OR you can tell him that it's not fair to treat you like a girlfriend if he doesn't actually want to date you. You can either accept things as they are, or lay it on the line and ask him to make a choice, because as long as you go along with him "playing" your boyfriend he won't have a reason to see you as anything more than a friend.

  • Honestly?

    I'm confused by his behavior.

    Which of you is hotter?

    • which of whom? the girls? I think she's hotter and obviously sexually will do what he likes. I'm too sweet (so he thinks)... doesn't know how wild I like it in a r/s. He did tell me he's embarrassed to be with her since she's a freshman and he's a senior and his friends make fun of him for that and the fact that she's Asian!

    • My best guess is he likes and cares for you, but she's cute and will let him do what he wants. So that's what he'll keep doing. But I don't have great confidence in this guess.

Most Helpful Girls

  • My parents are racist against blacks, and I'm not trying to offend you! But it has a big impact on me like I have black friends but would never date one so that may have something to do with it because it does impact me with my parents. But, I can't tell you for sure. But I'm sure you are a sweetheart! He sounds confused or maybe he just wants sex

  • Move on. Whatever his game is here it isn't a good one for you. Who gives a sh*t if you catch a couple stares. The best way to combat that is to be happy in your new life.

  • He is starring because you have breast that he has not seen yet or that he has seen and remembers seeing. In short because you have breast.

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  • its fully depends on your relationship.

    • can you elaborate please? what do you mean?

  • i want a gf.

  • He likes you