How can I help my girlfriend make me cum?

[Anonymous]

I have never ever come for a girl. I am a virgin so have only had hand and oral stuff done to me and it makes me really happy, but never makes me cum. Also I do masturbate every other day, when I do cum. Now my new girlfriend is getting really worked up about it, it frustrates her so much she can't do it. She says she has done stuff with her 3 other bf's and it made them all come all the time. So essentially my question is, can I do anything to make it easier for her? and does anyone have any tips and tricks I can give to her that might work in relation to hand and oral stimulation. Anything would be amazing.

[BrazilianBonBon89]

I had this problem with my first boyfriend. It seemed impossible to make him come (we were both virgins before we hooked up). I put it down to my lack of experience and the fact he was not completely used to relaxing ( I would imagine guys are used to it being a secretive thing, done alone) and so it will take a while to get used to.



I learned by watching the way his technique when he pleasured himself and also explain that rhythm is everything ( in any sexual act). So I will try and explain using as much detail as possible and remember to relax!

Handjobs:

One of the hardest I would imagine. the best way I can describe this is to take your thumb and middle finger and form a ring on the base ( this ring should be tight with slight pressure) of the penis letting the rest of your fingers rest on the shaft on either side. Start slowly letting the skin of the penis slightly go over the head, keep a steady rhythm and every 15 strokes quicken the pace slightly, until you reach a point when your arm is practically breaking off and DO NOT lose the rhythm.

Blowjobs:

Variation is the key. Start off by teasing, letting him anticipate the oncoming act. breathe on the shaft and gather up a fresh pool of saliva ( repeat as often as needed as this is also key to a good blowjob) change from licking slowly, fast, hard, soft kissing, cupping your lips around the head, then eventually move your lips up and down and suck. Use the rhythm technique once more, but do it quite lightly as not to exhaust your mouth and crick your neck.

Sexual Intercourse:

One of the easiest, provided there was reasonable foreplay and effort is applied. Obviously it is easier for a man to come if he is on top and in control, but a woman on top is tougher. I say use a surface or the mans shoulders as leverage and tighter the muscles in your vagina as you go up and down ( as far as possible without breaking contact with the penis, you should never fully leave it) and once again use the rhythm technique.

If none of these methods work, I would suggest that you may have problems physiologically which are preventing successful ejaculation during sexual acts with your partner.

[babydollbunny]

As someone with experience with many different guys, I will be the first to tell you, that it is normal. Her past sexual relationships are different because the guys were not you. You should never base your status in a sexual relationship based off ones in the past. If you can successfully pleasure yourself and come to a climax than you know what you like. Don't be afraid to be open with her. Show her how you like it, be specific. If you like lot's of pressure then tell her, if you like when she looks at you and moans well going down on you tell her. Personally I have had success in the making a guy climax department by:

Playing on all the little things I do that turn him on before actually touching him.

Changing up the position so that he is comfortable but can see everything.

Moaning and loving it just as much as he is.

With some guys I would eat ice before going down on them, because they can feel the temperature change and it causes a tingling sensation.

Humming a tune quietly cause vibrations.

Using hands and mouth at the same time.

For deeper throat penetration I would lay upside down which opens the throat.

Fondling and licking or the balls, can be essential in bringing a guy to climax.

Since guys are visual, I have kneeled over a mirror, so he can see me pleasuring myself while blowing him to high heaven.

There are lots of other things she can try, but this should help get you guys started. I hope this helps you cum.

B~D~B

[Anonymous]

let her know what feels good or what she needs to do.. if its a hj help her out put ur hand outside of hers and have her move faster or slower or more pressure.. whatever feels good to you.. and when she's giving you head also let her know if you enjoy something more than another so she gets to know your body and what you enjoy.. every guy is different and the girl isn't the one experiencing it so they won't know what you like best.. so give her some pointers or help guide her.. gl

[EasyEC]

First of all, stop masturbating as frequently so that your sexual tension increases by the time you're with your girlfriend.

Second, when you masturbate, simulate sex conditions as much as possible. Use some sort of lubricant (like lotion or whatever). You're trying to get sex with vagina and sex with hand to be as similar as possible. This way, the result of sex with vagina will be more likely to be the same result as sex with hand (cum).

Finally, tell your girlfriend to try to stimulate your masturbation as much as she can when she uses hand/mouth.

[l-hedoniste]

First, bad habit comparing you to other girlfriends. She should know better. Tell her to quit it.

Second, stop masturbating temporarily. You need to learn to start associating your orgasms with her.

Finally, chill out, both of you. This isn't an Olympic sport, and the more worked-up you get, the tougher it'll be.

[l-hedoniste]

Why on earth would you get into bed with a woman that didn't turn you on?

[Asker]

She does turn me on physically, and I really like her, she just takes her cute sweet personality into the bedroom and the girl that I like to spend time with watching a movie, going for romantic walks and trips with etc, Is not the girl who I want to get jiggy with in the bedroom. Would it turn you on if a girl was giving you a HJ and said, I'm doing this cos I really care about you and want to make you happy, in a sweet kind way?

[l-hedoniste]

It wouldn't bother me at all. I don't believe in bedroom personas unless we're roleplaying. We carry who we are into bed with us--yet another good reason to be a man of character. Actually, having a cute, sweet girl give me a handjob because she sincerely wants me to be happy would be damn hot.

[Anonymous]

Try not masturbating for a week or two. This might make you more sensitive when she's fooling around with you.

And if a girl's had your penis in her mouth, you're not a virgin.