Friends with benefits or are we beginning to date? What is going on?

OK lets start with a quick run down.. So this woman known her for 27 years off and on.. We both are 6 months or so out of relationships.. Years of us just running into each other.. Well she came back into my life during my divorce.. We started talking again like the old days back in high school.. She was just starting to date a new guy so I just started dating this girl.. Well she broke it off and mine just ended cause she is moving.. So we go out one night her idea.. Everything went great.. A few weeks later I told her I am starting to have feelings.. She wasn't ready to date.. We stopped talking for a month.. We start again after I cooled off.. She was mad at me for not talking.. Then we go out again with her friends to the bar.. Well right when I get there some comes up and kisses me on the neck while hugging me.. Then a little later we go out to have a cig.. She grab my hand and drug me out to the smoking area.. She then tells me she is still mad at me for being dumb then says what ever happens will just happen and take our time.. Then she kissed me again on the lips and not a baby kiss a nice lip bite kiss.. Later she was drunk and she could keep off of me.. But every time she would me kiss or look at her after kissing she would tell me to stop and that I'm bad.. Well we go back to her friends and go swimming.. After we wet out she says she is going to bed and that we are going to cuddle.. So we start making out again and she stop and say she doesn't want anything ruined by this.. I tell her don't worry it won't.. We go back to what we were doing.. In the morning we hung out and she had me give her a complete rub down.. Then we got up hung out some then went home.. We are still talking like friends.. But I really have no clue where we stand.. Any ideas
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No this is the first time.. We have been having dinner and talking all day now for a long time.. I know more about her in almost every than most of all the guys she has ever been with.. Also found out from her step brother/my best friend that she never has liked fishing but she wants to have me take her.. Hope this helps
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Forgot this Saturday I had to go to the ER.. When she text me I told her I was at the ER she got scared and wanted to check up on me.. I told her no I'm fine and am about to get discharged.. She wanted to then check up on me at home.. I told her I'm fine and docs orders get have some fun.. Then as soon as I got there I get a very different hug and a kiss on the neck..
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I am not worried that she is playing with my feelings.. We have strange past.. I was the only person to make her laugh the day her brother got stabbed.. I saved her parients house about 9 years ago during a big forest fire.. I can talk to her about anything and I know she will talk about almost anything with me.. I know she has a few thing she just doesn't talk about with anyone.. I trust she would never do anything to hurt me on purpose..
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  • Truthfully, to me, it sounds like a fwb. It sounds like she likes having you around for attention and sex when she is not with another man. Have you guys talkied about personal things, things you like to do, ambitions and things like that? do you go out on regular dates, go to dinner, etc? or does it always end up in the sack? if the latter then yes I would be careful, I think she is playing on your feelings.

    • It was the first time We did anything.. I have her over for dinner often . She loves my cooking.. And she introduced me to her group of friend that I don't know which never happens ever this weekend..

  • you sir, are in the FWB zone not much in between it and the friend-zone. she probably has mixed-emotions about you. OR she playing with you for her enjoyment. How about trying sittin her down and really get to know what going on in you guys realtionship with each other.

    • She don't want to talk about it.. Like she told me right before kissing me she doesn't want to rush thing and to just let things take there time..

    • Welcome to Friend's With Benefitsville!

    • So why is she BSing on always liking fishing.. Her step brother/ my best friend told me other wise..

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  • walk away for awhile see what happens

  • sounds like FWB to me.

    • She does have a history of starting her relationships for a FWB spot.. I look at it this way if it is a FWB deal it will fail real quick.. I have had 3 FWB situations in my life and they all ended with the woman saying I love you after few weeks.. I know it is me and the fact that I am a very sensual person in bed.. The one night we did do anything at the end feel asleep in my arms. I know she can't sleep when she is staying with a guy if she don't feel comfortable.. Its a very big thing for her

    • It seems that you want it to be more than FWB. You also seem confident that she is or will be falling for you. If so then things should work in your favor