Not really too hard, this one. I've been friends with girls a lot, and once I ended up kissing one by accident. Kind of.
We were having some girlie slap fight (I'm a big he-man so I'm not threatened by that kind of imagery) in my car outside a bowling alley. Our faces got really close and the next thing you know my animal side came out or something and I kissed her. She kissed back.
We decided that was weird, and went back to just friends.
If you get to the point where you can stop talking about it, try to end up alone with him. Then don't be intense or desperate, and initiate some physical contact - like the slap fight, or tickling, or flicking his ear, whatever.
You're going for physical proximity and contact. NOT talking about it. Even if he brings it up, avoid the topic. Just end up on his lap or something. Who knows, pheromones might do the rest.
Just remember the Taylor Swift/John Meyer fiasco, you're the inexperienced one. He sounds like a genuine, nice guy. So you may get hurt because sex can awaken feelings in one partner and not the other.
He probably won't drag your name through the mud but you can still feel rejected when it ends up just being FWB behavior .
Keep your head and you may get him in bed. And not get hurt in the meantime.
The other method girls use is find a guy to make him jealous, then flirt with that guy in front of him. Talk about him as an alternative first time lover. That one works a lot of the time.
I've seen the jealousy decoy before, the Good Luck Chuck that other guys love to criticize. Maybe they're intimidated by him, maybe he's the local player. When girls who need to give a man a push to make the move, they will flirt with his arch enemy.
Who does he not like? You could say "Gee, so-and-so has started to work out or something. I like his arms. You think he's going to try out for the football team?"
Insert whatever you want there. You get the gist.0 0 0 0This guys is smart. On the surface he was exited at the prospect of getting laid. I mean, what guy wouldn't be. But once he got what he wanted (an agreement from you), he start to think about it some more. He realized that this had bad idea written all over it. Yes guys do turn down sex and we do have brains that can override our penis. Some guys have stronger will power than others, same goes for women.
He for one knew that with you guys being close friends, things might get weird or it could eventually lead to drama that he doesn't want. He also knows you are a virgin and the idea of him stealing your virginity when you are not dating doesn't sit well with him and his conscious. Knowing that you used to like him (he probably knows whether you've told him or not) and that you are a virgin, he also knows that attachment is a very likely possibility, and that's another bridge he doesn't want to cross because it will be disastrous when he does.0 0 0 0
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0 2What I believe he is trying to say is something that I enjoy when it comes to sex, which is not forcing it. If you are together and start making out and it leads somewhere that is spontaneous. If you tell him "okay, I want you to take your pants off so we can have sex now", that is not something he is probably looking for.
My suggestion is, if you want to engage in intercourse or any form of sexual activity, come onto him, be alone - as you have stated that you often have people around - and play around.0 0 0 0well from what you have described, he is either having feelings for you or is afraid he will develop feelings for you after you lower your boundaries for him and let him enter to your privacy as a fwb.
Or, he is insecure and not as good in sex as you think and he is afraid you will find that out..LOL0 0 0 0
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